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yself/r/seduction28/11/12 06:47 PM
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Many people don't understand the dangers involved with combining their seductive charms with mindgame power plays. With the right combination of triggers, their former friendly admirer can transform into a "Fatal Attraction" psycho. OP talked about, "purposely inciting anxiety in another person to exploit their mind’s fear of loss." This is the kind of mindgame that can trigger such a transition.
/r/seduction14/10/20 06:58 AM
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Both women and men deserve legal protection from stalkers. However, some people could prevent others from feeling drawn into stalking by resisting the mindgame power play. Yes, you can and do have the right to set personal boundaries. However, the power to protect both that right and those boundaries does not come entirely from you personally. Some of that power comes from the shared values of all of society and the taxes we all pay that then pay those authorized by society to protect your freed…
/r/seduction14/10/20 03:30 AM
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Another related communication control tactic comes with the words, "I don't want to talk about it." Reply to that one saying you can respect their freedom to terminate communication about things they don't want to talk about. Then walk away from that relationship. If they don't want to communicate, they don't care about that relationship and they don't deserve to have it continue.
/r/TheRedPill17/11/15 09:17 PM
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I should have said patterns plural. I find it too difficult to describe the full complex mix of patterns, but I have learned to recognize them. I would say a theme runs through them that borders on an intersection between a dominatrix, a charming innocent naive submissive and a cynic regarding men in general. I think of the submissive part as camouflage.
/r/TheRedPill24/09/15 03:44 AM
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I consider debating my own firsthand experience as akin to debating whether I actually experience the perception of color. I don't think of that kiss as either for myself or validating her, but both. I see that as essentially what kisses do. I don't see any issue with validating her. With respect to her post-relationship perspective, I know she wanted me back, because she baited me several times afterward. I didn't bite. Rhett Butler's exit
/r/TheRedPill24/09/15 03:32 AM
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It took much more than a lot of words. It took decades of life experience. After dating enough women later in life, certain patterns became easier to recognize. We don't have that level of experience with the first person we ever love though. In this particular case, I have reason to suspect that the crazyville stuff in my girlfriend resulted from her getting molested by her father. In some cases real world crazy happens. I don't mean playtime silly crazy. It can take a long time to sort it all …
/r/TheRedPill23/09/15 07:27 PM
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Precisely the point of my disagreement with your earlier statement that walking does not involve theater. I think I get it that you intended to recommend avoiding theatrics. I simply don't think you can do that. The mere act of walking without a word can leave both of you overcome by the drama of it all. Even before I went back for that final kiss, the sense of drama felt unavoidable. I think that led her to call my name. So, yes to walking away in some circumstances, but I still think of even t…
/r/TheRedPill23/09/15 06:19 PM
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When I got up to walk, I didn't think of it as rejecting her. In the moment before, I had realized that it would never work to have a long term relationship with her. I felt sad about that, because I loved her. Yet, I immediately accepted reality, stood up and walked. I didn't think of that last kiss as inconsistent, or breaking frame, because I still loved her. I think of that last kiss as a final signal that makes it clear that when I had the ball in my court, I played a fair game with love in…
/r/TheRedPill23/09/15 03:15 PM
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Thanks for this comment. For many years I felt like I made a serious mistake with the first girl I ever dated, because I ended our last date by walking away without a word. In the moment, it felt like an instinctive reflex that I couln't ignore and I just did it. Several decades later, I came to understand that my behavior made sense. I didn't walk because of a false rape issue, but some other crazy zone thing. Having said all that, I have to disagree about the theater comment. I rarely felt suc…
/r/TheRedPill23/09/15 02:34 PM
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I didn't intend to make excuses for her choice of path. I intended my comment as a possible explanation of what makes young women wind up on that path. I'm curious, since you see that path so differently from her, did you also experience an "out of the blue" announcement that your parents would divorce?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/14 02:49 PM
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I never want to put my own child through any of that. With this goal in mind, her young mind, determined that only one path will accomplish the goal. I understand and respect her goal, even if the path she chose to accomplish her goal seems like one of the most challenging. Consider that her teen brain, still a work in progress, chose this path. The teen brain reacts more strongly to external stresses, such as her parents going through divorce and her life getting shuffled.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/14 01:56 PM
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Well, I said community college in the generic sense, because practically all of the students come from the local community. This particular school offers a full four year degree though. Many students do only two years and then they transfer to a different school. That explains why only five students graduated from the department that year. Most of the students had transferred elsewhere to graduate with their four year degree.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 03:09 PM
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I once did an exit interview for graduating seniors in the department of engineering for a small community college. Think of it like a focus group. We had five graduating seniors that year, four women and one man. All four women complained about their perceptions of the department's prejudicial treatment against them as women. The school had a woman President and women held about 90% of the top level administration jobs at that school. Get that, 4 women out of 5 in the graduating class, and they…
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 11:09 AM
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But how do they expect someone to prove consent? Will people have to carry a small stamp pad with ink and a consent card, in addition to condoms -- ink for a fingerprint on a consent card? What's next, will the state have to issue licenses to have consensual sex? I can see it now. In order to qualify for consensual sex, you must attend sex ed classes, where you will receive your official consent cards, the only ones the courts will recognize as valid proof of consent. This seems to me like a ver…
/r/MensRights08/07/14 01:27 PM
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Good point. I support a universal basic income policy as long as it gets implemented fairly. I've never thought about how UBI would impact dating. Thinking along the same line, it could help to eliminate some perceptions about gender inequalities with respect to income, because people of both genders would receive the same amount of basic income.
/r/seduction08/06/14 02:53 PM
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MCS I don't know if you read my earlier comments about what led to my decision about the guy not paying for dates. If you spend the time to read those comments, you will see that it all started for me when I dated a woman who persistently insisted on paying her own way. Interestingly enough, she also has MCS and lived on an extremely tight budget. Yet, she insisted on paying for her own way. So, I know a little about the extreme situation you face. We mostly did dates that didn't cost anything a…
/r/seduction07/06/14 06:12 PM
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Not all women "in our time" have equal access to equal opportunity. I could accept this comment as an accurate description of reality in some countries, but not in the US, where I live. I realize we still have poverty in the US, but even with poverty circumstances, women in the US have free access to education and avenues to generate income after they finish school. Moreover, men face poverty at the same level as women. So, I don't understand why our culture should give women an advantage over m…
/r/seduction06/06/14 10:04 PM
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There is a difference between a woman who's attracted to a provider type and actual gold digging. I respect your freedom to have a different perspective. I consider it disrespectful toward men in general when a woman in our time expects the man to pay her way on a date. I'm sorry, but I see that as gold digging. Consider the analogy. When literal gold diggers prospect for gold, they don't necessarily think they will strike a main vein. Some miners only find enough small nuggets to live a good li…
/r/seduction06/06/14 05:35 PM
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I disagree with Miss Manners on this one. If you have a friend of the same gender who calls you up about some activity, do you expect your friend to pay your way? In the general situation, an invitation to an activity does not imply a gift. Since most contemporary cultures also put the burden on men to do the asking about dates, this Miss Manners rule, simply reinforces the expectation that men will not only ask, but also pay for dates. I think once the tradition about men paying for dates fades…
/r/seduction04/06/14 10:30 PM
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But how do you explain this to them? I explain it the same way I worded it in my earlier comment. I say it plainly, as a matter of fact, "I don't keep the tradition that the man will pay for everything on dates." That puts the ball in their court. They can either accept it, or refuse the date. As I see it, either choice they make works in my favor. If she decides against the date, then I don't waste my time with a gold digger, who doesn't really have any genuine interest in me anyway, apart from…
/r/seduction04/06/14 08:13 PM
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that's a fantastic approach - not necessarily about payment per se but about setting expectations. Thanks for saying so. I feel like when the majority of men take this approach, then the problem will go away. I feel confident that the tradition won't last long. I see it as a purely cultural matter, not a personal issue with any particular man or any particular woman. Culture changes, but it takes time. By the way, the reason I decided to take this approach stems from meeting a woman who refused …
/r/seduction04/06/14 06:28 PM
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She answers she wanted to go home This response sounds the alarm, even if you consider all of her other excuses as acceptable. If she didn't enjoy your company enough to hang out with you even for a few minutes after the movie, why should you care what she thinks? She doesn't care what you think. As an American man, I avoid all of the confusion about who will pay by informing my dates that I don't keep the tradition that the man should pay for everything on dates. I make sure they understand and…
/r/seduction04/06/14 05:48 PM
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All girls are [living in some feminist fantasy land] I wouldn't say "All girls," but I think the majority are, and that shapes their cultures. Then, because the next generation of girls grows up in such cultures, they suffer from the same delusions. This cycle then keeps repeating. The gems in each generation don't buy into their culture's version of the fantasy, because they have enough social intelligence to go for something real instead.
/r/TheRedPill17/05/14 10:41 PM
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there are some things that will always strictly relate to men, and strictly relate to women. ... things like those, will always (and should always be) weighted in favor of the female voice. ... While things for men ... should be weighted more by MRA voices. I find myself currently involved in an internal debate with myself on this issue. I tend to think everyone can line up as supporting voices on any specific cause without necessarily breaking up into male and female voices. In my youth, I alwa…
/r/MensRights14/05/14 06:07 PM
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You mean something similar to a rape joke?
/r/MensRights18/03/14 12:04 PM
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For some reason, my brain wants to make an analogy between this girl in your classroom and Putin in Crimea.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/14 09:51 AM
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I see books on Amazon temporarily priced at $0.00 and listed on /r/amazonunder15 almost daily. I don't know how it happens. Many of them have a higher price a day or so later. Maybe you might want to do an open promotion on Amazon directly too.
/r/seduction01/03/14 04:12 AM
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I wonder if this study has any implications for what happens when women hold the top position in a social network with a hierarchical structure. For example, when a woman becomes the CEO of a large corporation, or the top political office holder for a government, do these preferences influence the kinds of men they select for key positions? Some feminists claim that if more women held more high positions in the governments of the world, then we would have a more peaceful world. Yet, if women per…
/r/TheRedPill17/02/14 04:26 PM
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Jim Croce Operator She's living in LA with my best old ex-friend Ray. A guy she said she new well and sometimes hated.
/r/TheRedPill27/11/13 05:29 AM
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Guys need a filter on whether the women will pay their own way. Then, we can simply ignore all the gold-diggers that waste our time playing games like we're still living in the 50's.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/13 05:44 AM
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I simply let her know before the date that I don't pay for her way. For online dating, I put it in my profile, and while arranging for the date, I ask if she read that part. It saves me from wasting my energy on wild goose chases. I know at the front end of the date that she's there without ulterior motives, because she's paying her own way.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/13 05:36 AM
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I think a lot depends on where someone starts in life, when it comes to expectations about having it all. The context where you start can severely restrict your choices and the trade-offs come into play. On the other hand, some people start in a context where they have a shot at having it all. In the best of all possible worlds, we would like to see a future where the number of people in the later category rapidly grows.
/r/seduction26/10/13 04:27 AM
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After watching the video, I think it also explains very well why the NSA spying on citizens endangers us, even though we haven't done anything to violate any laws. "Everything you tell the police can and will be used against you...." even if you didn't break any law, but the police think you did. That also applies to everything recorded by the NSA.
/r/MensRights25/10/13 10:50 AM
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Interesting theory. I think this likely combines with feminist propaganda that goes back much further in time than the origin of the Internet.
/r/MensRights19/07/13 01:22 AM
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Both young males and young females need to mate. Just a few generations ago, most young people could respectfully satisfy their sexual needs by getting married at a relatively young age. Now, we have entered a time culturally where the mate selection process lasts much longer for the average person. Yet, physiologically, the human species remains the same as it has for millions of years. This change comes partly as a result of birth control. In the past, when humans mated, the female became preg…
/r/MensRights15/07/13 01:35 PM
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I think of this difference between males and females likely has roots in our gender differences inherited from long ago. I think it comes through our evolutionary history and predates the emergence of the human species. For example, in the book, The Man Who Listens to Horses, you can read online the chapter The Call of Wild Horses. It describes how in horse herds the dun mare rules the herd as the matriarch of the herd. One might reasonably think that the stallion rules the herd, but instead the…
/r/MensRights03/07/13 03:48 PM
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This comment may sound like a prejudiced remark about women in general. I want to first say that I realize that many women do want to have respectful relationships with men. So, please consider the rest of this comment with that context in mind. In my personal experience, I have found that pretty much the exact opposite of the pamphlet caption better describes what the genders want. I think any study which could scientifically explore the actual facts would discover that the majority of long ter…
/r/MensRights08/05/13 06:03 AM
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I find this extremely interesting! We have all of these women getting a good education, and yet very few choose STEM degrees. As a STEM graduate, working in STEM related jobs, I find that many times women without STEM degrees serve in managerial positions making important decisions related to my career advancement. I would like to see a study of men in STEM positions giving their feedback in surveys about discrimination they suffered from women in managerial positions. Often, discrimination goes…
/r/MensRights22/04/13 04:38 AM
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Immediately, I had visions of this super-aggressive and dominant child. Isn't that what they are? They are The Man. They are the ones oppressing women. And now I was going to have to parent one. She confesses that she once agreed with the idea that boys are mean, but she has learned to think otherwise through her experiences with her son.
/r/MensRights23/02/13 04:38 AM
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I agree with your ideas about parenting, but I see that as a red herring on this issue. The media has a powerful influence on the psychology of both little girls and little boys, as well as adults. We need to criticize how the media portrays characters using stereotypes so that we will have better media experiences for our culture. Imagine if the only roles for women of color were still maids for white people, like in the early days of TV and film. I think of what we see in contemporary media as…
/r/MensRights23/02/13 04:27 AM
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Also do this when facing possible court cases involving child custody issues, whether married or not. I know someone who just happened to have left a recording device in the pocket of his child during the times when he met with the mother to hand off the child. Imagine the surprise when the mother got caught lying under oath in court, because the father had a recording she didn't know he had.
/r/MensRights23/12/12 12:37 AM
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I don't have any problems with approach or talking to women. I feel very comfortable talking to strangers. I'm interested in information related to seduction with respect to deepening an existing relationship. I think the same psychological factors apply, in general. I'm looking for information about how to make my relationship more interesting, stimulating and exciting.
/r/seduction28/11/12 08:22 PM
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Yes! Those were the blogs I wanted to find. Thanks.
/r/seduction28/11/12 08:12 PM
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Read some stuff online about kissing. Then, tell her you need to practice.
/r/seduction26/11/12 10:07 PM
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This involves significant culture change with high levels of resistance to change built into the culture. For thousands of years women have shamed men for not "doing the right thing" and "taking responsibility for their actions" when it comes to fathering a child. Women will not easily set aside this long held traditional idea which gives them an enormous amount of very real and practical power over men.
/r/MensRights02/11/12 07:59 PM
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I posted a comment on this topic a few weeks ago. It involves an interesting thought experiment.
/r/MensRights02/11/12 07:47 PM
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One of the two relationships I mentioned where I did not pay was a woman who insisted on paying precisely for her share. At first, I tried to pay, even when she offered to pay, but she absolutely insisted. When we ate out, she paid for what she ordered down to the tip. We dated for a few months and then became friends (her choice not mine). She actually meant it when she said she wanted us to be friends. She didn't just use that as a kind way to end the relationship. That was about 18 years ago.…
/r/MensRights24/10/12 04:01 AM
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Hey I resent that. In the context of this thread, I'm a little confused by how you found the comment resentful, even though I accepted your criticism. Do you think that your personal behavior, which is admirable, represents the typical woman in the dating world? In the context of this thread, the comment you resent simply reflected on the fact that the average woman in the dating world has a great deal of bonus income that comes from the fact that men will pay for their meals, concert tickets, d…
/r/MensRights24/10/12 03:35 AM
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Hey I resent that. I posted the comment you resent. I'm probably a bit older than you. I've been divorced for 20 years. I dated before marriage for about 7 years. Up until last year, in every relationship I have ever had except 2, I paid for everything. After I saw the news story last year referenced by yourotherusername, about the woman who made $1200 per month by scamming guys, I have decided that I will never again pay everything for a date. So, I accept your criticism. I agree. From now on, …
/r/MensRights24/10/12 03:06 AM
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Plus, you should add to their total annual income the undeclared bonuses they get in the form of men taking them out on dates and paying for everything.
/r/MensRights23/10/12 10:32 PM
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We so easily project emotions onto written text. I only intended my comment as asking questions to try to understand what you meant. I can see now how you can read that list of questions as defensive, but I didn't intend them as combative. In reply to the use of the word "force," look it up in the dictionary. You'll see one of the definitions of "force" defined as, "power to influence, affect, or control." So, I still think women often do literally force men to become fathers against their will.
/r/MensRights23/10/12 06:06 PM
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I'm pro-choice, but I also believe a baby has rights to "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness," at some stage even before birth; a stage determined by law. I believe the state has a constitutional interest in defining when the baby becomes a person for this reason, because I believe all people have rights and an unborn baby is a person too. This thread led me to an interesting thought experiment. I'm probably not the first to consider this idea, and I'm interested in learning what others t…
/r/MensRights22/10/12 10:47 PM
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Unless you are talking about rape, that is not true. Do you say this because you equate becoming a father with having sex? If so, that seems extreme. Do you consider birth control unethical? Do you believe people should only engage in sex for the purpose of reproduction? Suppose a woman intentionally stops taking birth control pills without informing her mate and uses this deception to become pregnant by him. Doesn't that qualify as forcing him to become a father against his will?
/r/MensRights22/10/12 05:02 PM
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Thanks for the compliment about my thoughts and writing. I appreciate your reply for sharing so openly about your experiences. I've seen some things on reddit that lead me to think we may soon see an awakening to women abusing men. I feel confident in saying that men abuse women far more often and in more serious ways. Even so, I see it as a cycle creating a kind of echo chamber of abuse. we know that people who suffer from child molestation have a higher likelihood of becoming a child molester.…
/r/seduction20/10/12 03:16 AM
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I don't get why they call it rinsing.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 08:31 PM
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Most men have a limited amount of discretionary resources to spend per month on dating. Let's call the average amount men in a certain cluture spend on dating $X. A single woman in the same culture can date multiple men, N, in a single month without spending a dime. So, she gains $NX in extra monthly income. I wonder how many studies about comparing the average income of women to the average income of men take this undeclared income into account. A news story appeared a year ago about a woman wh…
/r/MensRights19/10/12 07:27 PM
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Maybe they teach girls secret ways to protect themselves from abuse. If so, and their secrets become common knowledge, it might diffuse the power of their secret defenses somehow.
/r/MensRights18/10/12 08:47 PM
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Interesting. I think I understand your analysis and I have no basis for doubting it. I can accept that as a plausible explanation about why she answered as she did. However, my social intelligence still limits me from fully comprehending how this works, because, personally, I don't tend to think the same way. If my SO said she didn't think she deserved me, I wouldn't conclude that she required a 'repair' of some kind. I would simply offer assurances to help her know how much I felt that she most…
/r/seduction18/10/12 07:07 PM
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I notice an interesting response to a question on OKCupid. The question was something like, "I would continue dating a person who told me that they did not think they deserved me. Yes or No?" I paid close attention, when I noticed that an HB10, answered, No. At the time I thought it seemed a bit extreme to dump someone just for saying they didn't think they deserved you. OP's post puts her response in a different perspective.
/r/seduction18/10/12 12:20 AM
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