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yucater/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 02:07 PM
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yucater/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 03:00 PM
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and thank you
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 07:48 PM
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with tears in my eyes as I write this, I hope you are right.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 07:47 PM
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I think he might be? He really doesn't talk to me. Like the last real convo we had he said things just to hurt me, it was 12 days ago. He told me so many untruths, that he never loved me, didn't know why he married me, etc. I mean I am not delusional when I tell you this man was SO happy and I don't hesitate to bet my life on that. Then, in a desperate bid I asked "Why cant we try just one counseling session?" and he said "I told you - I think I even suggested that in the beginning of all of thi…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 03:31 PM
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Well, he moved upstairs and started becoming officially silent maybe 5 weeks ago? Then, 11 days ago he started sleeping at his friends house. Again, it's his best friend and he still hasn't told him what's going on. I don't even consider this separation if it's not out in the open with all of our common friends- but I also know I am delusional and will hang on until the moment shit gets real- real. Like, legal/fighting over assets real.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 03:17 PM
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I’ve felt like OP and even most of the men on more neutral grounds like the divorce reddit are most always in the position of OP. ^^ I tried but I didn't follow this logic, I'm sorry! What do you mean by this, which position do you believe to hear/see more often?
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 03:15 PM
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Did she ever address it? Or change? Do you see her anymore? Any remorse?
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 02:47 PM
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When I talk to her now I am not mean at all, but I don't make excuses for her at all. She seeks validation rather than wanting to coparent and can't take criticism ^^ Yeah so he says this stuff too. "I don't hate you, I am just indifferent to you, and that is your worst fear" (verbatim) Here's the thing- this morning, for instance, he came over to the house (he has been sleeping at a friend's house- leaving me living alone in the woods in a 4 bedroom spot with a dog that needs to be hiked 2-4x p…
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/19 02:41 PM
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100% accurate. And what sucks is that it usually takes some huge painful life event (where the loss of the partner is relatively / possible inevitable) and suddenly, magically, the man (regardless of being the one who left or the one who was left) sheds his python skin and begins to emerge as this PERFECT guy - the guy that was desired all along! Wish that could have come out earlier - and it makes it more painful for the woman in the situation because either way it's a lose/lose and now someone…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/19 08:31 PM
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Why not give her the ultimatum like your therapist suggests? Tell her that if she doesnt go to counseling with you/together that you will file for divorce. I totally get the sickening feeling that it can give you - I mean it's HUGE and it represents failure. I wouldn't give much credit to people saying "you're not acting like yourself/seem down" etc. People sometimes get down, withdrawn, whatever - it's life - you're not a cardboard cut out and shit is getting real for you - so yes, maybe you we…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/19 08:03 PM
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as a woman, I could not agree with this more.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/19 07:24 PM
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...maybe that's my husband's problem too! ha.? ahem. it's married red pill. a whole other line of thought/lifestyle/life choices/self-improvement - but with a diff. focus re: successful dominance and control over the marriage w/ desirable outcomes for husbands.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 07:38 PM
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i am so onboard w/ MRP - not TRP though - as nonsensical as that can sound? I like the concept of MRP because i believe it improves the relationship, I also like a leader and I also like when fidelity is the goal. I'm totally onboard with that... just gotta stay married long enough to prove it...
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 07:20 PM
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I'm like a sponge absorbing all of this. Again, I am ever-grateful to you for your insight. Also, your current situation- it's heartwarming that you still see your former spouse in that light, even if it is from the past. I'm sorry she didn't change for you and I hope wherever your path leads, you find yourself satisfied and happy. You are obviously a good/caring person bc you're taking the time to help a total anon. woman who you don't owe anything to. ​ I don't think he'll let me even try to s…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 06:33 PM
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Damn.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 06:17 PM
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Thank you for this, and yes perhaps he just isn't saying what's actually the issue which is leaving me more confused than I would be otherwise.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 04:46 PM
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wow... thank you... Your reply is - god, it's exactly what I needed to hear. I will keep repeating this concept of the 'juice wasnt worth the squeeze' -- Your insight and matter-of-fact-ness is more valuable to me than you could ever know. Once you decided that the juice was subpar, was there any hope after that? If your wife had vowed to change and showed you those changes asap (I have already started doing more of the things he has been asking me to do for a few years now, like going out with …
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/19 04:41 PM
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