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Thanks, this is what I'm hoping to hear, that it is temporary and you do get used to it.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 11:27 PM
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That's what I hope, I guess it is just bound to take a while.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 11:26 PM
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I had assumed they were the same thing, I'm trying to fake it til I make it. Hopefully it will come after I'm used to it for a while.
/r/askMRP08/02/16 11:25 PM
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Your words have helped thanks. I'm trying to keep it busy and doing this, I suppose it's something that may just click one day once I've gotten to a certain level with my self improvement. I hope you never do have to use this advise for yourself!
/r/askMRP08/02/16 11:23 PM
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OK, thanks. I'll just need to work more on my abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP21/01/16 11:52 AM
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I was thinking it probably would have to be, strange topic to move towards before that I guess. Yeah, I'd be the same!
/r/askTRP21/01/16 11:51 AM
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I'd been aware for a while but it still hit me like a truck initially! The hardest part for me was that I wouldn't see my kids every day but I came to understand that I could be a much better dad to them focused on them and myself without her. Whilst the separation was ongoing and I had them to myself I spent the whole time paranoid about what she was doing. Now I just feel if anyone's stupid enough to get with her, she's their problem now! Same thing pretty much, she wasn't prepared for adult l…
/r/askMRP04/12/15 03:48 AM
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Sounds to me like you're in a similar position to the one I was in. After lots of work and trying to improve myself mine came back eventually, and after not long at all I realised I was so sick of her shit. I'm a noob to this still so take what I say with a pinch of salt but it sounds to me like you're with a women who's constantly testing you and putting you through a hard time, who knows what she got up to in those 7 months? (realised the others weren't up to scratch?) I don't want to make you…
/r/askMRP04/12/15 02:19 AM
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People are saying food is best which of course is true, but at 6'5 I can genuinely struggle to get the food down to get my calories. Every morning I make; 2 scoops of protein powder, 2 scoops of oats, 1 banana, 1 tbsp of peanut butter, Water. Just blend it up! Comes to about 750 cals, you can get more with milk but it makes it too thick!
/r/askTRP03/11/15 10:05 PM
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Yeah, there seems to be a stigma when you say you don't drink, people think there's a problem. I just say my genuine reasons, can't be bothered with a hang over, will interfere with the gym, have better things to be spending money on. People seem to accept it, still have a good time and have 0 regrets.
/r/askTRP17/10/15 01:40 PM
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Thanks, this is what I was looking for. Yeah level 8 would be too damaging for a long period I think, bluepillprofessor recommended 5 which I think sounds ideal.
/r/askMRP15/10/15 10:02 AM
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I was thinking that was about how it should be, keeping on at level 8 would be damaging throughout a LTR I would think, 5 seems good.
/r/askMRP15/10/15 10:00 AM
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Yeah, I wasn't saying shall I stop completly, I was asking if I should drop a few levels, I was thinking a higher level could make sense for a while but I doubt it'd work the whole way through a LTR with your SO thinking something is going on.
/r/askMRP15/10/15 09:59 AM
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If I'm honest with myself I'm starting to wonder if I actually do gaf any more. I love her still but half of the worry I'm starting to realise was being alone after all this time I think, and even with the extra stress of kids, nappies through the night, early wake up on top of work, I've been a bit lonely - but really I've been fine! I've been doing that somewhat, stopped starting conversations etc. It's hard to get out the house really right now - no free time at all. Maybe I need to decide wh…
/r/askMRP10/09/15 09:52 PM
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Ah I see. I mean, it's marriedredpill, I'm looking for tactics to save my relationship and my family, not go off spinning plates etc. I'm open to accept my understanding is wrong, you guys are the experts! But am I not supposed to be building these for my wife as well as myself?
/r/askMRP10/09/15 03:06 PM
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I do have a couple, good idea. Yeah my youngest is such a wingman with the mums down the park, I should do it more. I left her to it at first but now I've claimed the house it gets a bit difficult! From what I'm reading I think the main thing is stop acting like I care about her. A question about that; if she asks to meet and watch a film at night, do I?
/r/askMRP10/09/15 02:56 PM
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Yeah I guess you can see it from that view but I was because people said make her see you have your shit together, the thinking behind it is she comes over and sees that I'm not struggling as a man without her there, does that make sense or would you still say wrong? Yeah I need to get her out of my head. I know it comes that way but I work full time, have my kids at the house in the evening, I really literally have no free time right now.
/r/askMRP10/09/15 02:53 PM
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I haven't but I really wouldn't be so sure how, I've been with her years now and knew what worked. Before her it was different with her and exes because you wouldn't be living together etc. I have some learning to do. I can see how it could be my confidence in the move, although she will say you know I don't feel comfortable with that right now, shit test? How do I handle that? I've been making sure I don't act annoyed etc.
/r/askMRP10/09/15 02:50 PM
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Got a quick question man, I've been focusing on my own stuff but she does like to meet up. Say for example she asks to watch a movie in the evening, I obviously want to do that, should I accept?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 02:46 PM
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Lol
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 02:44 PM
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Hey man, I found NMMNG as a free pdf, Google it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 02:38 PM
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I know it sounds like something could be up and I'm not denying it could be but I know she's there a huge amount of the time at least.
/r/askMRP10/09/15 01:58 PM
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I'm doing all I can but because I have the kids in the evening I literally have no time for anything, ball ache really. I'm putting things to practice but I can't get out with my friends etc because I always have the children. She watches them 3 evenings a week whilst I'm at the gym, other than that it's all I can really do.
/r/askMRP09/09/15 07:29 PM
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Thanks for the feedback, definitley upping the dread levels. I did stop talking about it a while back, I realised that was doing me no favours. It's mainly because her mums house isn't that nice, I'm not saying look at how tidy I've made the place for you. I'm trying to go from the I've got everything covered without you angle, if you get what I mean? Maybe I should let it slip a bit but in all honesty when the kids are sleeping it gives you something to do... That's exactly my thinking, we're g…
/r/askMRP09/09/15 07:27 PM
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I approach women fairly often when I'm on my lunch etc but I really have no time right now. She comes and watches the kids 3 evenings a week whilst I'm at the gym any other nights are when she comes over to hang out or when she has a night with friends or whatever, I'm pretty screwed?
/r/askMRP09/09/15 07:21 PM
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Thanks, I'll start on the other stages. What do you suggest for PUA? From what I've read it's all kind of cheesy lines/games ? Is there a credible red pill take on it?
/r/askMRP09/09/15 07:19 PM
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Yeah I fucked up bad at first, made myself look an idiot. I know I need outcome independence but bringing myself to say that is a crazy risk, perhaps I need to take it but the thought of not seeing my kids every day, eventually another man living in the same place as them, fuck that! Also, aside from these issues she's been great, I know AWALT but I really believe she's more straight up than most, cba with the games etc.
/r/askMRP09/09/15 04:01 PM
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How do I do that? In the early stages I tried initiating how I used to but that doesn't work. At first even if I put my hand on her back to lead her out a door I could tell she was uncomfortable. I stopped all that until a few days ago and she seems more receptive to it, although going in for the kill right now would be rejected for sure. Yeah I haven't been like, look how nice I'm making the house for you, I've been just maintaining it making it seem effortless.
/r/askMRP09/09/15 03:47 PM
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Non existent right now, but historically very good!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 01:02 PM
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Awesome thanks, I'll focus on those right now for sure.
/r/askTRP31/08/15 08:09 PM
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That's just it. Although I'm fairly confident nothings going on, if we sort it all out how will I ever know nothing did!? It'll be hard to get that trust for sure.
/r/askTRP31/08/15 08:07 PM
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Yeah that's true the big one is still the wrong way round!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 08:06 PM
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Hit home man, really need to kick this anxiety and depression out of my head and soldier on!! I haven't read any of the books but have been making my way through a pdf I found of the sidebar. Thanks for the link, it's insane how relatable all these things are. You'd think all relationships would be different but they all seem to follow these patterns!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 08:05 PM
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I've been reading through that actually. When I've been on that mindset she definitley shows me more attention, she picks up on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 08:01 PM
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Not anymore of course! She's getting petrol money from her grandma, and eating at her mums or our house. I hadn't actually realised that, I've been taking it on for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:59 PM
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Yeah I know it's getting to that mindset, I do have my moments where I'm like I'm the man, I'm doing what I'm doing and that's it, but then I see her with my kids and the anxiety comes in and gets me worried about the future, need to reign this in!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:56 PM
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I won't! Thanks for your feedback, hugely appreciated!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:55 PM
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Yeah I know the two happy homes slogan but it's not what you want when you're in it! I know what you mean though, I have ended the nights of me away now, I'm staying put!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:54 PM
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Yeah, my minds all over the place really, I have my good days but it's been a shit year. I subbed red pill quite a while ago, but never put that much time into it until the past month, I actually got a pdf of the side bar I'm making my way through. The reason I like the advice is because people are pointing out the bits that are especially relevant to me right now which is what I need!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:52 PM
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Good read thanks! I think it's got to be a skill to know when you're getting shit tested straight away right? Sometimes I have no idea what the intentions behind the words are. I'm going to put this to test for sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:50 PM
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It's weird, her words are actually more negative then her actions. For example we can have a good day together, she'll come back from her mums in a funny mood and come out with some shit but the next thing she's next to me on the sofa laughing etc.. head fuck really, not sure if you should take actions or words when the actions are more positive?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 01:58 PM
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I'm seeing that!!
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 01:56 PM
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I'm pretty sure she isn't, obviously she could be if she's VERY good at hiding it but there are no signs. I'm not, obviously I let her stay at the house but when she's away she's at her mums.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 01:54 PM
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She doesn't! Needs money for anything she calls me and I transfer it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 01:51 PM
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Yeah it's annoying, I've always been straight up, no lies etc, but it can backfire. I think really my smv is pretty good anyway, my situation with the anxiety has just dropped it in her eyes. I think I need to stop letting her see any affects of it. Thanks for the reply!
/r/askTRP31/08/15 07:34 AM
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Cheers, things I can put into practice here. I think my smv is pretty good, and I was bringing a lot before, I lift, 6'4, make good money etc. Always cooked a few times a week etc. My heads just been all over the place since, with the underlying depression and anxiety coupled with the hitting rock bottom after all this it's beebn hard. Gym suffered for a bit cos I had no appetite but I kept getting up, going to work, seeing my kids, so I haven't let it all go. This is whats brought my smv down t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 07:29 AM
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I guess I just want the family, you know? I didn't have kids to be a single dad a few years later, obviously I have oneitis but I thought I was set for life! She doesn't work or anything and right now the kids are in my house full time and eating the food I buy etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 06:38 AM
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It's a contract phone that I pay for, so I can even see the records easily online! At her mums! She puts a lot on facebook/snapchat as does her brother who lives there, obviously I can't know 100% of the time but she is a lot of the time.
/r/askTRP30/08/15 05:33 PM
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You've been so helpful mate, thanks very much! I'll read some more on dread.
/r/askTRP30/08/15 05:02 PM
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Really good advice here thanks. Fortunately over the past 5-6 nights I've actually stayed put, got so sick of moving around, I'll carry it on! I guess that's it, I do try and establish whats going on every 3-4 days, that's probably messing me up, maybe if I stop asking she'll get a bit worried that I'm just carrying on?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/15 04:43 PM
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Top advice here! Pretty hard to detach the emotion but it's whay has to be done.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/15 04:41 PM
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We always have, if she's ever needed money I give it to her, she doesn't work. I have been doing that a but actually, I've been at my house the past 6 nights. She stays sometimes but not others. I know, it's taken its toll but some things are helping. I've pretty much stuck at going to the gym etc, only thing I really get the chance to do outside of work.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/15 04:29 PM
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I guess I couldn't be 100% sure but I've had a skim through her messages etc and not seen anything.
/r/askTRP30/08/15 04:22 PM
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It was really odd at first she was acting like I had beat her or something when the reality was we didn't even have a proper row. Basically she started spending a lot of time at her mums house, her mum had a girl staying there who just got out of an abusive relationship and her mum has just gotten divorced. I think the man hate seeped in and fucked me up. She's been all sorts of nonsense about how I done bad, I then remind her what actually happened and she's like "Oh right yeah" She was saying …
/r/askTRP30/08/15 04:22 PM
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I know that, it's just there's so much of it, it seems like it takes a good few months to master, which is why I'm looking for tips on what to utilise that I won't have read about yet!
/r/askTRP30/08/15 02:41 PM
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Another thing to add is we have both said we won't be getting involved with anyone else in this break. Do you think I should start chatting to someone, or make it seem like I could be?
/r/askTRP30/08/15 02:40 PM
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Yeah that was quite relatable! I've been worried if that's it, I know nothing right now but don't know what will happen!
/r/askTRP30/08/15 02:38 PM
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Thanks I've posted there. Yeah definitley mine!
/r/askTRP30/08/15 02:36 PM
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