zawjatadam Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
38	Husband has questions dont tell him!! it's in the 3rd chapter of the surrendered wife - never tell him before 6 months. i would just say you're working on yourself!	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/24 08:33 PM
2	Boundaries i'm familiar with the concept but i never thought that i could apply it to something like this. i think i have the mindset of avoiding conflict and i'm going to make sure i address this with him without that mindset now, as well as a lot of other things. thank you for replying, it was really insightful for me	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/24 05:09 PM
1	Boundaries so an example would be the way that i eat certain fruits. one that he's dead set on not taking is apples - i eat apples in a certain way and he eats them from the bottom up, through the core. when i discussed this with him i said that i used to be unable to eat the fruit because of a textural issue (i would only eat pre-cut, unbrowned, soft green apple slices, and they had to be a certain thickness.) i also told him that my father helped me work through this when i was younger and i can now eat …	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/24 04:11 PM
1	Boundaries I'm definitely interested in OPs topic and thought i'd reply with my own question if that's fine with you. I also have a big issue with setting boundaries (I got married before finding RPW and although my husband is happier I have some knots to work out.) I often get frustrated with things that he does after I feel like I've communicated that I don't like when he does it, to the point where now I've even noticed myself questioning his boundaries and asking him why when he expressed them. I haven…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/24 01:14 AM
17	If finances were no obstacle, how many children would you have? as many as I physically can. probably menopause, but that factors into my first answer no, my husband agrees with me, and this has been my only relationship no	/r/RedPillWomen	01/02/24 04:19 AM
1	Not turned on I'm the "RP" partner in the relationship - I've started the small nudges towards him becoming a more ideal partner. Currently, no - he doesn't see me as an equal, and sometimes I do feel like a child. But I'm pregnant and I really want to make things work, and I'm doing what I can to fix things... although I don't know if I'll ever be allowed to make actual friends, lol	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/24 08:55 PM
1	Not turned on He does all of those things - I couldn't tell you why I'm not allowed to. I very recently was able to join a pseudo-friend group through discord (I was not allowed to have it previously) but besides that and reddit theres not much I can do. Is there anything else you'd suggest?	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/24 08:24 PM
2	Not turned on I understand it's a need but it's something simply not possible for me - my husband doesn't want me going out alone and it's been extremely difficult keeping up with my own hobbies, let alone it'd be hard to find friends within it. That's why I ask.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/24 08:18 PM
2	Not turned on Ah, I guess I didn't specify. Outside of this community in reddit I have no community, nor friends - so things outside of that would be helpful if you can	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/24 05:40 AM
3	Not turned on I like what you're saying but I'm in a similar situation as OP and this just doesn't work for me. I don't have the ability to have an independent life outside of hobbies - and he wants to be involved in those. Is there anything else you can suggest?	/r/RedPillWomen	12/01/24 03:38 AM
16	My boyfriend keeps telling me how attractive other women find him and it’s starting to irritate me i was going to comment saying that i experience the same things as op with my husband but now that i've read this i've realized that i literally have never complimented my husband's appearance & i feel so bad but thank you for this comment!!!	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/23 05:50 PM
1	Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man? typo, what you typed is correct lol	/r/RedPillWomen	07/10/23 03:59 AM
0	Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man? You're hyperfocused on monogamous marriage. Let me set the table for you: I have a religious belief that entitles my husband to four total wives. I am entirely okay with that. You are not speaking to a monogamous woman currently. I believe the way marriage is in my religion is what God intended. Again, it's not misinformed. I am talking about pure biology here - you admitted in that sentence that it is the ideal. Biologically, men produce 12 million sperm per hour. Women have 30 eggs in their li…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/10/23 09:36 PM
4	Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man? You're confusing a few different concepts and coming to a weird conclusion. Hypergamy makes a man more attractive biologically, yes. There is objective attractiveness aswell. These two are entirely different stems of finding someone attractive and similar to how women can have varied maternal instinct, they can have varied hypergamous instinct aswell. You've also got another thing wrong: The biological goal of a man is not to have sex with as many high quality women - it's just women. It has not…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/10/23 09:17 PM