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I did a lot of things I regret under the influence of Mormonism and getting married because I was having sex with a girl in college was probably one of the dumbest of them
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 11:53 PM
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Not me. I’d rather be alone enjoying myself with a beer and live music than put work into plans that inevitably end in the pettiest stupid fight.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 04:27 AM
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Yeah it's a bit of a gamble. In my case, I was able to pay her about 3 years worth of alimony when she could've gotten 8 or more had I gone the monthly route because we were married for 16 years. Now I just pay child support and am able to count down the years until I don't have to send her money and that's something not all men can do.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 11:07 PM
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Lump sum. I was in a similar situation and I gave my ex my share of the equity in the home in lieu of perpetual alimony. Did it hurt? Yeah. Will it be worth it in the long run? I think so. Just knowing spousal support is not indefinitely a millstone around my neck has made it worthwhile tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/25 07:09 PM
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Get out now bro
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/25 08:16 AM
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As soon as I read the headline, I knew...Mormon. My ex and I separated when I left the church. We should've divorced then. If your wife is not the kind of person who will empathize with you and not necessarily share in but respect your own journey, you'll be surprised how much better you can have it. My ex followed and we still ended up divorced because the fundamental issues that lead to our separation, led to our divorce nearly a decade later.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 05:02 PM
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Mormons can definitely divorce but many don’t because of the social stigma. Technically my ex and I are ex-Mormons and if we had stayed Mormon I could see a world in which we didn’t divorce even though we probably should have.
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 10:52 PM
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White Mormon
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 06:36 PM
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If it can be worked out, I would. But that’s conditional and I can’t tell you if it can be, but I hate the situation for my kids as much as I love being free of her for myself.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 03:42 AM
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Similar situation with more kids and I will say one of the shittiest aspects of the divorce has been the socioeconomic status change for my kids. I’m fine with living with less but suddenly not having money for everything they want to do or to spoil them with big trips feels kind of shitty. BUT I know that in the long haul we’ll all be better off. That’s the thing about divorce, you’re going to be unhappy immediately post divorce and probably for some time. But you’ll be giving yourself a chance…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 11:37 PM
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By going to bed each night and waking up the next day. Didn’t necessarily enjoy every day but got through it. Reached out to close friends when I needed to. What you’re feeling is perfectly normal given the situation bro. Don’t shy away from sharing that with others who love and care about you.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 07:40 PM
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Just remember you can’t complain if you go back.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 01:25 AM
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None of us thought we would but alas life happens. Be kind to yourself. Yeah, my path out of my marriage is going to be much longer than your own and honestly I’m kind of jealous of your situation logistically. But I got 4 great little humans out of the situation and 16 years of not all bad memories. I find the things to be grateful for. You will too in time.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 01:24 AM
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Try 16 years and 4 kids…believe me it’s better you’re getting out now while you are relatively unscathed. You’ll be able to find somebody and have no practical consequences from your current marriage that you’ll have to deal with in a second.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 09:57 PM
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Dude you’re young, you’ll def find something better than what you’re in. Take some time to regroup though and work on yourself. Keep your head up brother.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 07:52 PM
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There’s a reason the suicide rate for men going through a divorce is 8x higher so what you’re feeling is 100% normal. You’ve gotta stay with us though, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem and leaves a hole in the lives of those left behind that you can’t begin to comprehend when you’re considering taking yourself from us. Get out and go for walks, stay away from alcohol, get into a doctor and therapy if you can afford it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 04:48 PM
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You’re not alone bro, you’re with yourself. You need to take that time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 09:17 PM
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If you distract yourself with women, like I have done, you’ll not take the time that is necessary, needed, not a nice to have, to seriously work on yourself and fully process what has happened to you. You’ll miss morning workouts or cut your sleep short because you’re chasing tail. You’ll find yourself hurting others because you haven’t figured your shit out and won’t even realize you haven’t until you’re months or years into the rebound.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 05:05 AM
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Dude. Don’t do it. You won’t be fun. Women won’t want to date you if you’re newly divorced. Seriously, take the time to get comfortable with yourself. Surround yourself with social connections alternatively, not dating. I wish I would’ve taken this advice more seriously.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 03:36 AM
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They quickly realize getting ran through just leaves them feeling empty and used.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/24 03:49 PM
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Jesus
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 07:11 PM
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38 after 16 years of marriage
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 05:05 PM
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I just settled in Utah and came out of mediation elated with the outcome. I’ve got an excellent lawyer who came highly recommended by others who used him. Pm me if you want more beta.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/24 06:35 PM
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I had a army vet of a professor in college who seemingly broke character to talk about how he had gotten a divorce early on in life and how it is like field surgery, usually not too pretty but sometimes necessary. You got this, man!
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 12:33 AM
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