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When we were first dating, I was 19 and reallllly averse to dating someone all through college and then breaking up (or otherwise wasting my time/energy on someone who wouldn’t be my ‘end game’). One night I turned to him and said, ‘Look, I like you a lot, but it’s not like we’re going through date all through college and end up together. That never works out.’ He just blinked and said, ‘Why not? Plenty of couples do it. If we are compatible, there’s no reason we won’t end up married after colle…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 06:35 AM
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I’m 25 and getting married soon (he’s 27). Tbh I don’t think it would hurt for me to be a little bit older. Frankly I had absolutely NONE of the confidence that you rightly think women should have when I started dating him seriously (I was 19), and I’m still ‘coming into my own’ as a person (about to head to grad school and still have my hamstery moments). FH said he wanted to get married to me, and I love him/would be an idiot to not be his partner. Fortunately the man who pursued me was mature…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/19 06:09 AM
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I read Gottlieb’s book and (as someone in her 20s) I found it useful as a cautionary tale. The takeaways are ‘appreciate what you have’ and ‘actually vet guys thoroughly instead of dismissing them for arbitrary reasons’. The book does say there aren’t a lot of good guys around for women in their 40s, which is honestly a pretty reasonable statement. The book suffers from being misnamed imo; it’s less about ‘settling’ and more about thinking long-term instead of dwelling on criteria that may not u…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 05:09 PM
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Whether it's Harvey Weinstein, Neil DeGrasse Tyson, or whoever else, the SJW camp doesn't apply its rules to itself. What are you talking about? These men aren't behaving in a RP manner (if they're guilty of sexual assault) and both have been heavily criticized by the SJW camp. Having some socialistic government policies is quite compatible with RP dynamics at home. Talking about "socialism" is a straw man. Very few people, even progressive people, want a government that is actually socialist or…
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/18 04:24 AM
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Here's the upside--you're in a better situation than 90% of girls heading into college because you understand that sex = oxytocin = bonding, and you're wary of getting hurt. Just having that knowledge should counteract a fair amount of pressure. At the very least, wait for a college guy who actually asks you out and seems to want more than your body. Men can certainly be manipulative, but I think as women we can usually tell when they're serious about us as PEOPLE versus interested in playing ar…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 07:10 PM
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As an FYI: obviously moderate exercise has a positive effect on libido and T levels. The sport that we both participated when we began having sex wasn't "moderate." It was endurance-based exercise and overtraining often occurred, which studies have shown can have a major dampening effect on T levels for men. https://www.testofuel.com/tf/endurance-training-and-low-testosterone-what-you-need-to-know/ You can look at the studies at bottom if you want. Now we both exercise moderately. My appearance …
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 06:26 PM
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Sort of off topic because it doesn’t relate to the relationship itself, but you can def use these next 6 months to emotionally prepare for the move (and job hunt, if that’s in the cards for you). I moved to end a multi-year LDR with my BF and it was the most emotionally vulnerable thing I’ve done. Even with a job waiting for me and a conversation about when the proposal was happening, it was terrifying (‘what if things don’t work out?!’). This is your right me to be the best you can be and objec…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 10:41 PM
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Thanks for this post. The timing thing is super helpful. I can see patterns in our relationship regarding that. It’s totally a workable situation... I may have posted in a moment of sexual frustration 😂
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 05:40 PM
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As you already know, you’re definitely not missing out by banging random dudes. The thing I found crazy in college was that ‘we left the party and had sex’ stories are a dime a dozen, but ‘he asked me out for coffee’ stories are quite rare and desirable. Tbh I was also a fan of the dance floor makeout in the time between I dumped my high school bf and was asked out by my now-fiancé. Dance and kiss, don’t go home with him. A public makeout has many of the thrills without any of the STDs/pregnancy…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/18 05:03 PM
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He works out--pickup basketball a couple times a week, short jogs, we go on walks/hikes together. I had the same experience as you did with sports. This is the frustrating part... he's super healthy and doing everything "right." I guess he could start lifting if he wanted to, but I don't feel it's my place to push.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 05:31 PM
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Not depressed, probably is stressed (works really hard), idk about the T levels considering that he’s fine on vacation. I guess I just want sex to be a ‘relaxing’ thing from him, and he seems to find it exhausting enough to eschew unless he’s super well rested. We’ve had conversations, but it’s tricky—I brought up that his job is tiring and multivitamins might help him feel better. Eventually he started taking those. Connecting him being tired to not having much sex makes him go on the defensive…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 09:40 AM
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Tell him how good he looks in his suit and tie/how good he looks naked while he gets ready in the morning, (gently) grabbing butt, running my fingers through his hair when he’s nearby, pushing back against him when he gets in a hug from behind... there’s generally a lot of innuendo about his dick in our day-to-day lives (i.e., joking that I’m marrying him for it). I’ve also just straight up said, ‘I’d rather be single than be with a man other than you,’ ‘you’re the only man I’d want to lead our …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/18 09:35 AM
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We both originally didn’t plan to get an engagement ring. Ended up splitting the cost for an alternative ring (cushion-cut Montana sapphire, east-west setting, recycled small diamonds on band) which I am obsessed with and he thinks is beautiful. I’m not the ‘I’m a bride/princess!!!!’ type, but the ring is really important to me. It was about $1,500, which is more than I wanted to spend... but it’s sturdy enough to last a lifetime. He proposed on a trip to my favorite national park. I suspected i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 06:42 PM
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I realized hormonal bc wasn’t my jam when I went for a month without wanting sex and started sobbing in public lol.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 06:32 PM
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I went college still dating an LDR boyfriend that was very similar to yours, down to him being younger and bringing up marriage. I just wasn’t that attracted to him (amazing how easy it is to ‘wait for marriage’ when you just aren’t that sexually interested in someone). His parents’ dynamic also sucked (they were still together at the time but his dad was weird and his mom was out of his league on many levels. Dad has since cheated and they’ve divorced). Anyway, at the end of the day I didn’t re…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 06:20 PM
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Came here to suggest this. I read the books/have watched up to the new season alone, but then shockingly my fiancé got into it so now I’m rewatching season one with him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/18 06:09 PM
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Intermittent fasting (two meals a day) Cut out sugar/refined carbs (bread, pasta, cookies) Send out save-the-dates (and finalize guest list... yikes). Finish grad school apps
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 09:12 PM
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We went on our first date when I was 18 and he was 20, then starting dating more seriously when I was 19 and he was 21. A few months in, I got squirrelly and said something like, "You're great, but we're so young and you have 2 years of college, and I have 3, and we're from different parts of the country..." (i.e., this will never work). I didn't want to sleep with someone I didn't have a good chance of marrying, so I was considering ending things before we got to that point. He said, "So what? …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/18 09:00 PM
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Wow, this all sounds amazing. I make something similar to your cauliflower risotto all the time and I love it.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 05:37 PM
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Actually just made flatbread with Italian sausage, onions, brussel sprouts, ricotta, mozzarella etc. this weekend! Pretty good but dough could've been thinner. We generally try to reduce our bread intake so we can "splurge" on the cookies, french toast, etc. that I make on the weekends, but I love the idea of experimenting with sourdough bread. So maybe that will be my next project.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/18 05:36 PM
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One reason to encourage younger women to keep an eye out for good men during college is because those years are often when women have high RMV, and men are starting to manifest their lifelong values but have yet to "realize" their full RMV. It was no surprise to me that all of my fiance's friends (who tended to be the tall, ambitious types and were on the same sports team) were getting locked down by smart, good-looking women right at the end of college. I consider myself incredibly fortunate th…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 06:31 PM
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I don't know what your plans are regarding education, or what your interests are, or how limiting having surgery for sciolisis is post-op--but if you want to take the height thing out of the equation altogether by finding taller men, put yourself in an environment with lots of tall guys by doing certain sports! If contact sports are out, rowing and swimming are awesome for finding tall men. I rowed when I was younger and in college and the two guys I've dated long-term were 6'3 and 6'5 rowers. M…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 05:45 PM
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My fiancee has a job that feeds him for almost every meal. I cook on weekend sometimes, but it often doesn't make sense (we'll go out, etc.). So a lot of my "cooking" comes down to baking cookies (which he loves) or dips, etc. if we're having people over. I'm kind of running out of ideas re: cookies, bars (granola bars), healthy bakeable snacks, etc. Any input?
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 05:19 PM
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I think one issue is that OP herself conflated socialism with progressivism, which could be why the poster you responded to also used it. 99% of "democratic socialists" in the US just wanted a restrained version of capitalism, and the debate in our current culture is more "how exploitative and weighted toward corporate power do we want our capitalism to be?" versus "capitalism vs. socialism".
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 05:12 PM
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As others have pointed out, living out conservative gender roles in our personal relationships is often entirely separate from our political views. It's going a bit far to state that socialism naturally draws more women and ‘effeminate men.’ Most of the men I know, including my fiancée, who are interested in some form of democratic socialism are interested in it because socialistic programs can provide a counterbalance to the exploitative nature of capitalism, which is the system beneath western…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/18 04:36 PM
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Same strategy with more expensive stuff that actually stays on your skin versus cheap mascara, etc. I bought the travel size of a expensive mascara one time before realizing it wasn’t significantly better than Maybelline/L’Oréal. I live and die by Cerave products, like the PM moisturizer you mentioned and their gentle salicylic acid wash to get off makeup 🙌🏻. A lot of people on the skincare sub will claim a cleanser breaks them out, and even as someone with sensitive skin, my thought is... it’s …
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/18 04:38 PM
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Ummm we must have the same skin because I basically try to use all the ingredients in your curology formula and use IT Cosmetics CC everyday. And same with the price... I just keep telling myself that the better I can get my skin, the longer the tube of CC will last, and the less I’ll pay lol, What does curology cost? I’m intrigued!
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 09:26 PM
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Do you feel like the jade roller accomplishes much? Does it actually impact skin texture, or is it more to encourage circulation of fluid, etc.? I've been intrigued by rollers for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 05:17 PM
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Your bangs sounds wonderful. I think I'm a light summer so I have the same issue with bronzer and am wary of much contouring, but I like the idea of playing up cheekbones. The Redken heavy cream sounds like a good product--I usually spray in some marula oil if my hair is dry, but it can sit heavy. I love the seasonal perfume idea, but I bought some Chanel Chance Eau Fraiche and love it so much that I have no motivation to hunt for other options.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 05:14 PM
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are you in Connecticut by any chance?? That stone tower sounds awfully familiar haha... ***and CONGRATS!
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 03:53 PM
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Coming from someone who is 25 and in a LTR-- if I hadn't met my FH when I was young, I would be exactly the same as you. I feel happy alone working on myself. Even now that I found a great guy, the perfectionism/anxiety continue (literally same things as you listed... once I get a small amount of invisalign and clear up my skin, THEN I'll feel 100% ready to get married). If you don't want kids though, seems like there's little rush and you're doing great. Maybe think about whether your job/extra…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/18 03:45 PM
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In short: the biggest problem in my LTR was not understanding that being "committed" (not cheating, doing coupley stuff) isn't the same as emotionally committing. Once you decide you've found a man who's worth it (and has demonstrated commitment toward you), not committing is wasting everyone's time.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 03:21 PM
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Fwiw, since you mentioned dying your hair light brown—I asked my hairdresser about going uniform light brown or uniform lighter blond (‘cooler’ colors) and she said nah, you’ll hate the upkeep, it will look fake when you have any root growth, and you’ll pay a lot to remedy that. I never know what the hell is happening with my hair, so I trust her lol. My goal in terms of hair is to look as ‘polished natural’ as possible while avoiding paying $$$ and I feel like highlights accomplish that.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/18 02:44 PM
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OP, I don’t know if you’ve already found a makeup brand that you already like, but IT Cosmetics’ CC cream has been my go-to while using tretinoin to even out my skin (tretinoin isn’t as drying as accutane but still makes skin sensitive). To me CC cream makes me feel healthy (it’s hydrating and has spf!) and like I’m helping my skin heal versus ‘ugh let me hide my skin from the world.’
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 11:19 PM
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I grew up Protestant and converted to Catholicism in college. I studied religion as a second major, and after looking at the history of Christianity from a more academic perspective, Catholicism made the most sense to me. I've found it intellectually enriching from that angle. I appreciate that Catholicism is rather humanitarian/progressive on certain topics (environmental protection, science, care for the poor, the idea that all people have inherent dignity) and rather traditional/conservative …
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 06:32 PM
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Ideally, my Captain wouldn't require me to "calm" him down or "soften" him because he'd be in control of his own emotions. There's a difference between aggression and assertivess. The latter is desierable, the former is potentially dangerous. Ding ding ding. All of this. I have only seen my fiance get truly angry at me once in six years of dating (starting when he was 21 and I was 18), and that's because I was being manipulative/bitchy and not telling him what I wanted. Most men respond best to …
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 06:17 PM
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After about a month of running, biking, and rowing machine 5 x per week (plus hiking on the weekends), I'm starting to get back in shape. Yesterday I ran 7miles at a 8:00/mile pace, which is a far cry from when I was college athlete and knocking out marathons at a 7:30/mile pace... but I'm getting there! Excited to see how fast I can run a half marathon in a month. My confession is that I definitely still use food for comfort, and it's stalling my weight loss. This stems from when I could eat 3.…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 06:08 PM
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If only the woman who does my hair sent me the before and after pics! I have the exact same coloring as you and just got some ‘cooler’ blond highlights put in. Still fairly subtle, but I look SO much less washed out and more ‘awake.’ I feel like cool blue colors looked best both before and after, but having slightly cooler goldish-red than before makes me more confident wearing cool purples and burgundy. Unfortunately highlights involve damaging bleach and are often pricey, but I was surprised b…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 02:24 PM
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You said you were in college. Is he older? Do you want to move to his city when you graduate? Do you want to get married someday? If he isn’t realistically bringing up marriage, has his indicated his intention to be with you long-term/forever? I’m sure you love this guy and he loves you, but tbh the combination of him already having a kid and not realistically mentioning getting married (at least once or twice) might set off some red flags. Anecdotally, I have a friend who started dating a guy w…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/18 02:15 PM
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I am a little scared, because I want to be able to contribute financially in a partnership and thus, have prioritized going back to school before marriage. Are you currently back at school, or are you planning to go? I'm 25 and got engaged recently (similar relationship length to you), and I always envisioned myself getting married when I'd already finished my grad degree and was back at work with a higher salary--I've currently worked for three years and am applying to go back now. Here's the t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 06:24 PM
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This is from the perspective of someone who started dating my now-fiancee when I was around your age (I was 19, currently 25). One important thing is to step back and assess the seriousness of the relationship/his commitment level. The end of the chase is natural and is a good thing (he's settling in with you), but personally giving 100% percent if I don't know where the relationship is headed makes me anxious and resentful. Even when you're both so young and marriage may not be in the cards for…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/18 02:50 PM
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We’ve actually worked out the finances and booked the major costs already—so unfortunately there isn’t a huge opening here! But I do like the idea of working the ring conversation into a larger convo. I was thinking of bringing it up when we went wedding band shopping but that might not be for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 03:53 AM
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I think he's got a real bias against anything that looks like a diamond (which is fine, but narrows options). My concern is that FH leaned so hard toward his mom's/sister's feminist views on engagement rings that he might view *not* having a sparkly ring is a good symbol of our frugality/values as a couple.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 08:53 PM
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Not yet. I'm trying to figure out the right strategy going in. I know it can be a touchy subject (and I think FH may think his female relatives' lack of rings is a positive thing).
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 08:35 PM
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but if you're mostly wondering what life is like on the other side...don't I finally understand this. I read Marry Him: The Case For Settling between writing this post and now. Put the fear of god in me. Yes, I need to shake up my life and get back on track with pursuing goals and making the relationship interesting. Work and grad school applications have been overwhelming lately. Thanks for your comment.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 07:13 PM
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How exactly are we defining "romantically in love"? I'm not a non-stop tingles machine, but I love him, I want him sexually, and I want to be his partner. Maybe saying this just sounds like another excuse, but I'm pretty emotionally guarded and was concerned about FH and I working out (long distance was a bitch, and I have a career goal that is also really important to me). Despite loving him and moving to be with him last year, I didn't really feel "safe" enough to commit fully until the LDR en…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 07:38 PM
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Although I'm religious, tbh "waiting" for a future husband had more to do with not wanting to get hurt (along with the fantasy thing that you mentioned). Oxytocin is a hell of a drug, and I was worried about getting to attached to the wrong person if I had sex more casually. Even after everything has worked out, in an ideal world I would have waited longer--when we were younger, we both could see ourselves marrying the other person, but beginning a relationship in college was almost as much of a…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 07:08 PM
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Christianity and "big C" Marxist Communism are absolutely imcompatible. The older, broader "Small c" communism, as advocated by Thomas More ( a freakin' Catholic martyr) and by Englightenment thinkers, simply stands for the dissolution of class barriers, common ownership of the means of production, and sharing. Those are undoubtedly compatible with Christianity, although we may agree that they are entirely unrealistic goals in the modern world.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:54 PM
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I'm progressive politically, hate Trump, and don't agree with RP when it comes to demonizing feminism or undermining the existence of rape culture. My undergrad institution is considered one of the most liberal in the country, and I'm currently applying to law school. At the same time, I'm also Catholic, have only had one serious relationship (and one sexual partner), and am getting ready to marry him. Our relationship falls along RP principles, although he's also progressive and probably be hor…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:37 PM
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I just downloaded this on to my Kindle app last night. FH went to bed early with a cold, so I just sat there next to him with my phone and read for three hours. All I could do was look over at him and think THANK GOD lol. Why don't more older women talk to younger women about finding a man who meets the essentials and "settling" for him? My own mom/grandmas are uber socially conservative, and even they have pushed the "only settle for non-stop tingles" narrative (to varying degrees of success in…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 01:58 PM
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He was a junior in college when we started dating seriously (asked me out very end of sophomore year). So including the end of highschool he had 2+ years of apparently getting with lots of girls. Apparently that was enough.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 02:07 AM
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Well, rose-tinted glasses and all that—he’s not everyone’s cup of tea (think Benedict Cumbersnatch) but I think he’s A+. I would’ve put myself at an 8 when we met but am probably more like a 6 now, which is anxiety producing and is something I’m working on.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:12 PM
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I feel secure in loving him. I also worry that I’m inclined to feel tingles for assholes (as many women do); logically, I’d rather hold on to an excellent man that I love than throw myself into law school single and be surrounded for men who, as a group, aren’t known for their positive qualities in relationships lol. To be completely frank, I feel TONS of tingles for FH when I’m ovulating. On the animal level, I will do anything for him. I will always love him, I’m just trying to figure out how …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:09 PM
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For sake of clarification, he asked me out when he was coming off his plate-spinning phase. We actually weren’t drinking at all at that time (our sports teams were sober during competition season). The dating itself was pretty traditional, in that he wanted to wait for sex with me (although by nine months in, which is when I agreed, he was starting to go a bit nuts). I would say college culture led to sex in that I realized no one in our vicinity was getting married before mid twenties at earlie…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:01 PM
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I commented something similar elsewhere, but maybe worth mentioning—I can see why this comes across as beta attraction, but it seems like the opposite from my POV. I was really emotionally guarded early in our relationship; I was an 18 year old (attempting to save sex for marriage). A lot of his teammates spun plates and I knew he did too. Once we’d been dating for a few months, he made it clear that he was committed and that he wanted to be with me, but it wasn't until a couple years in that he…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 09:42 PM
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Physically: 6'5, athletic/lean, beard. We did the same sport in college. One of my favorite parts of college was watching girls try to pick him up at parties. Professionally: I don't want to get too detailed, but he has an advanced degree and a job. Makes decent money, but made a concerted choice to choose something that made him feel fulfilled over something that made him rich but miserable. His goal is to be more secure than his family growing up. I'll probably always work for us to have the l…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 08:27 PM
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FH and I have talked through the big wedding thing at some length. Obviously I'm not getting my way, but I can't complain about the workload/stress. My mom is doing a great job and FH has been very helpful. But moreover, a big wedding is something I can easily give to FH, and that he deserves. He REALLY wants all his family and friends there, he wants me in a nice white dress, he wants traditional stuff, he wants a band, etc. The only thing I truly cared about was getting married in the Catholic…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 08:20 PM
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There is no such thing as "too thin". If a woman who otherwise has no gynecological issues (or is not a super intense athlete) loses her period, she is too thin. Evolutionarily, there's no reason why healthy men would dig that.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 06:53 PM
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Love that chart. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 06:51 PM
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