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Can you elaborate on the game?
/r/seduction10/10/18 07:11 AM
3

How do you keep it interesting/fresh? I tend to fall into a habit even after just a few sessions with a girl. And then we break up because its too monotonous
/r/seduction09/10/18 07:23 PM
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Concent is 16 in most places
/r/seduction30/09/17 07:13 PM
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Personally, online dating is a godsend. Id literally still be a kissless virgin without it. I suck at cold approaches, but can easily go on dates with people I would never talk to irl. And most of them are like "how are you still single?"
/r/seduction30/09/17 07:09 PM
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He said 100+ women in 5 years. And you are assuming he has sex only once per girl. Even so, a new girl every month is a quite high turnover.
/r/seduction18/02/17 07:31 PM
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Isn't the point of natural something that you dont' have to actively think about to achieve? Read the situation and act accordingly, you usually need to be the one to initiate kino, and the golden rule is always assume attraction.
/r/seduction06/11/16 06:59 PM
9

You go a long way by just taking control. The girl will rarely start the interaction. And people are always open for a positive interaction.
/r/seduction30/09/16 07:12 PM
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Don't think about it too much. Just do what feels good. If you want a chance to have something with her, just talk to her, talking is free. Also its a lot about how you play it, if you ask her out, and she says no, just play it off like "I had a feeling we might have something, so I just had to ask - wanna go shoot some hoops tomorrow then?" Don't make it awkward, it just shows that you have confidence.
/r/seduction14/08/16 12:14 PM
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If its been a year, are you sure she is still single? If she is, just talk to her on fb, ask if she has been on vacations, how is she doing etc. if she keeps talking to you, just ask her out. Worst thing that would happen is that she just wants to be friends, and you dont have to stress about "what if" anymore.
/r/seduction14/08/16 11:58 AM
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Do you have any mutual friends? Do you know her name, ie. you could add her on facebook and start chatting there? Next time you see her, just smile and have a little small talk; and if you feel a good vibe, ask her out for a coffee, you have nothing to lose. People are surprisingly open to new ideas, don't get hung up on how you introduce yourself. And always assume attraction, ie dont think "I bet she wont/doesn't like me" instead think "she likes me, she is just waiting for me to ask her out"
/r/seduction14/08/16 11:49 AM
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That you are not equals, she has more value than you; you feel that you dont "deserve" her.
/r/seduction14/05/16 08:08 AM
3

Thats awfully specific
/r/seduction30/04/16 06:47 AM
3

In that situation I often compliment their style/fashion sense or something like that.
/r/seduction23/04/16 10:10 AM
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Sometimes giving a girl all 3 of these at the start of a conversation will be too much. You can ease into it by starting with just the head and eyes That would seem super awkward
/r/seduction24/02/16 05:48 PM
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The worst thing about online dating is that the only thing you see is the picture. You might be an amazing person in real life, but you only have that one photo to show for it - which doesn't convey that. That pic makes me feel depressed, those gray colors, that old attire you are wearing. I suggest adding men to your tinder selection, and looking what they are wearing etc. and take pointers.
/r/seduction31/01/16 06:48 PM
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The point is, if you want a meaningful relationship, its not a good long term solution to lie about yourself. Also there is the added foxhole, that after you lie enough, you dont feel like investing in yourself anymore (picture that on the outside you are a vibrant, succesful and condifent; but you come home to an empty apartment that and your life is just make believe.
/r/seduction05/05/15 01:07 PM
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Every girl is different, there isn't a cookie cutter method for everything. If you are compatible, and the girls is in the mood, you can close on the first date, some take 2-3, some never.
/r/seduction15/02/15 11:15 AM
1

Yeah, but if you have anxiety issues, its better than 0
/r/seduction25/12/14 09:09 AM
2

This. A good cure is to use internet dating, when you have established rapport, its a lot easier to approach irl. Also good for gouging your "market value".
/r/seduction24/12/14 09:21 PM
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You are the expert on this, as in you are a person who experiences this. What would you say is the percentages for you? The next day, do you remember what she said, or how nice she was?
/r/seduction10/12/14 08:26 PM
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Always talk about positive things (work/vacation/hobbies/family) and focus on verbalizing how the things make you feel; and ask her to do it too. After the date she will remember the feelings you shared, and not just cold hard facts.
/r/seduction04/08/14 02:13 AM
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I'm in the same situation as you; I often run out of things to say after a few dates; after running though the "questionnaire" I feel like "what now?"
/r/seduction31/07/14 05:22 PM
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Needyness stems from insecurity, you need to be able to emotionally stand on your two feet, instead of using her as a cruch. You need to get to a place where you are not emotionally swayed by her actions. You need to find fullfillment in other areas of your life as well. Its also good to understand that you are literally addicted to her, you get withdrawals when you are away from her. You decide how you wield that drug, does your life start to revolve around it, or do you use it to your advantag…
/r/seduction31/07/14 05:13 PM
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More like thats how rough homo erotica starts
/r/seduction02/07/14 01:24 PM
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This. I applied for a job, got it, and during the same interview I told her that I had applied for another job and had an interview coming up next week. I told her the pros and cons about applying for it, and explained my career path as I had envisioned it. She was really cool about it, even gave me advice; and told me to go to the interview, and if I dont get it, come bcak to her as she will have a job waiting. Employers like that you have motivation, and that you have thought things through an…
/r/seduction27/06/14 09:24 PM
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Raccoons are cute, so you have that going for you
/r/seduction05/05/14 12:28 PM
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Its really important, the majority of communication happens non-verbally. Where is she looking, is she leaning in, is she smiling - is that a genuine smile, is her posture open or closed etc. Kino is really important as well, it releases hormones that promote bonding. Some people dont like kino, until they trust you, while others want it from the getgo.
/r/seduction13/04/14 03:41 PM
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In human interaction, the critical parts are the start (getting her interested) and the ending (what tone you leave with); its scientifically proven that the ending is more important than the process, when it comes to liking someone/something. For a non-relationship example, participants were listening to enjoyable music; but at the end, it had a loud distortion. Guess how they rated the whole experience? The unpleasant sound at the end ruined their whole experience.
/r/seduction12/04/14 10:58 PM
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You need to remember that love has stages as well. The first one being the swooning/needy love-type feelings that last up to years; the second stage is critical and comes when you "snap out of it" and realise you dont need the other person to feel happy, you are content even if you were alone - often people mix this with "falling out of love" and break up. The third stage is the actual love stage, when you feel happy with yourself (not tied by the needy love) and still wish to be with your SO. T…
/r/seduction12/04/14 10:51 PM
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There is a term for it, tsundere.
/r/seduction10/04/14 06:34 PM
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I was like you, if someone showed interest even quite boldly; I would think "she is just messing with me, where is the candid camera?" You have nothing to lose from escalating or going along; its a lot more depressing to not have the girl because you didnt try versus getting shot down. Its like applying to a job, if you dont get it; no harm no foul, but if you didnt apply at all; shame on you.
/r/seduction23/03/14 10:23 PM
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You need direct feedback; ie go ask girls out, and gouge their feelings
/r/seduction23/03/14 09:32 PM
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Experience 1 was worse pain, experience 2 was less, so you rather take the one that feels less painful.
/r/seduction19/03/14 02:31 PM
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Depends on the personality, like in OP's case, the girl was totally open to discussion, with the right execution
/r/seduction23/12/13 07:08 PM
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Not every woman got the memo
/r/seduction23/12/13 06:02 PM
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Also sales is actually the best way, because you are going as an underdog, you need to be persuasive etc; instead of stuff like ems, where we come because you called, and its a caregiver, not taker, kinda job. Which is harded to implement into your day-to-day closing.
/r/seduction05/12/13 08:44 PM
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Imo it depends a lot on how you go about it. A little bit of kino goes a long way; though every woman is different. What works for girl A wont work for girl B, thats the worst and best part about seduction.
/r/seduction27/11/13 08:39 PM
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Imo the most important thing is that you both enjoy the moment, and just go with the flow, dont stress of fret about it. With time you will get used to it. At first your heart will beat like its coming out of your chest; but when you gain experience, you can smoothly enjoy it.
/r/seduction27/11/13 08:35 PM
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I'm a bit of a workaholic, and I find that when meeting a new girl, I tend to run out of FORD-topics in a few days, and then I'm like "what now"?
/r/seduction23/11/13 06:33 PM
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You should fins out what she did in the other party, and make plans to see her again. Go for a walk or something, get a heart to heart going, and show that you like her with actions (hold hands, go for kiss too at somepoint, dont be too sissy) basically girls remember actions more than words, though every girl is an individual, so you should gouge the situation and act appropriately. Be proactive, do what you feel like, and dont regret anything.
/r/seduction27/10/13 09:35 PM
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Cmon, your in a club, you practically have to kiss just to hear each other. When grinding and keeping your hands on her waist, you could try kissing her neck from behind to warm her up, if she doesnt protest, turn her around and kiss her lips. A girl I did that to once was grinding, I went for the neck kiss, and after it she was like "no... we are going too fast" I said something like "well, gotta try, right" - she laughed and we went on with the grinding, after the second neck kiss, she warmed …
/r/seduction27/10/13 09:30 PM
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How do you feel about her, is she more than a shag for you? Imo it would be kinda insensitive to be too pushy, just be there for her and go with her pace. Be careful of her rebounding with you, if you start having feelings for her.
/r/seduction27/10/13 09:01 PM
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Imo you need to be more dominant, you should have made her stay, letting her go was a huge sighn of weakness; girls at that age want to feel dominated and safe, wich you failed to provide.
/r/seduction27/10/13 08:55 PM
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Many girls rank kissing higher than sex in the intimacy scale, go figure
/r/seduction27/10/13 08:51 PM
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Where did you hear that? Ive been told the opposite
/r/seduction27/10/13 06:05 PM
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Imo you need to work on your progression. The neck thing was good, if after that she still wont let you kiss her, i would have probably moved on kissing her chest/stomach, or took a little break, and give her a massage or something
/r/seduction26/10/13 09:27 PM
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Imo that kind of setting is easymode, people are there to get extremely drunk, and closing is the name of the game. EDIT: Also that "shook my pre-conceptions of kino" thing, it has a lot to do with how you do it, and the womans personality. Some will be put off even from a touch to the shoulder, some want to hold hands before she even knows your name. The magic behind it is brain chemistry, touching gives you a good feeling, and subconciously bonds the two of you, so its a win-win. If the next d…
/r/seduction11/10/13 07:25 AM
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Thats the same reason you shouldnt tell anyone about going to the gym or working out. You get validation from others, and you actually start feeling good about planning/telling others of going to the gym, than actually going there.
/r/seduction30/09/13 11:38 AM
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http://abcnews.go.com/US/york-mans-meticulous-dating-spreadsheet-viral/story?id=16172700
/r/seduction21/08/13 09:26 PM
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Did you read about the guy who kept an excel-chart about the girls he was dating? It's starting to feel less silly atm, hard to keep track of every girl and how do I know them/what they do/like etc.
/r/seduction21/08/13 08:18 PM
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Go at it like you are playing a video game, but the main character is you; if things go south, you can just restart and try again; nothing lost.
/r/seduction21/08/13 08:16 PM
4

So fix his/her alcoholism? Thats a bit too altruistic of a goal. As a healthcare professional, I often like to examine/give advice/share stories with the women I'm with; they are often a little put off, aguing that they want a relationship, not a therapeutic relationship.
/r/seduction30/07/13 01:07 AM
57

"If you personality could be harvested, we would solve the energy crisis"
/r/seduction30/07/13 12:55 AM
2

Girls are really gossipy, i think the nurse has dibs on you, just wait till you guys are alone
/r/seduction13/06/13 10:06 AM
2

Girls are extremely emotional and do things on a whim (ive seen exeptions, but you know), you need to get her away from the nurse; add her on fb or get her number - and plan something for just the two of you. This way she can justify banging you without ruining her image.
/r/seduction13/06/13 09:46 AM
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Talk to random girls like its easy as breathing. A good game is to hold your breath, and you are only allowed to breathe if its while talking to a girl (came up with this on the spot, while writing) Also there is the ford method (family, occupation, recreation, dreams), also actively listen to the girl, ask follow up questions on things she brings up, ie a town or something
/r/seduction11/06/13 10:48 AM
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Step 1: be attractive = she is interested Step 2: kino = comment on a detail and touch her while doing so, keep touching some more Step 3: kiss her, grab her like a princess and carry her to the taxi Step 4: profit!
/r/seduction11/06/13 10:43 AM
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Thats pretty simple, you arenobviously more open and confident when you have nothing to lose, but when you find someone you might care about, it rustles your jimmies. You need to ask yourself: do you want to become indifferent, but also losing your ability to care, or focus on the insecure inner you, and mend the wounds/bad experiences that made you that way?
/r/seduction11/06/13 10:38 AM
2

Is your end game just to have a one night stand? Then its pretty hard to keep the flame alive for so long, not to mention, will it be worth the effort?
/r/seduction11/06/13 10:31 AM
1

Its a big hurdle, some are really touchy, others get turned off by kino. A lot of my womanfriends say that they want a man who clearly expresses interest. Point out some detail, like a jewel, bracelet, or if you are daring, touch her hair. Use your whole hand, be fluid, firm, gentle and confident. A scenario will often go like this: wow, thats a beautiful necklace (slowly move your hand to touch it) after a while (assuming you are in a loud place) when talking to her, move close and put your mou…
/r/seduction11/06/13 10:28 AM
1

Try okcupid, make a profile and go on coffee-dates or something.
/r/seduction11/06/13 10:05 AM
0

Its always better to have 1 serious convo than 100 useless ones. Tell her how you feel about her breakup and about your current feelings. Btw, how long will you be staying together? If you have to live together for a while, think about your plan b, if this blows up in your face, how will you handle the damage control?
/r/seduction11/06/13 10:03 AM
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Sadly its more about the person than the location. Take a shower, wear something nice, and smile. If you look at online dating sites, everyone is like ``well i havent found anyone in a bar, place x or y. And why not? Because people like us think its creepy, women actually want to be approached. In MMO terms, if you think of her as a boss (superior, out of your league) she will 1 hit you for sure. If you think of her as an equal, physically and mentally, you have a better chance at succeeding.
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:55 AM
2

Tap her on the shoulder, and say ``I saw you frequently glancing over at me, and it rustled my jimmies. You have a pleasing facial bone structure, can I study your anatomy hands-on as well?
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:47 AM
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Cmon dude, what will you do for the rest 88 days of summer vacation, just texting and phone sex? Seems a little idealistic, but guess its better than having no one.
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:43 AM
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Its all about what the girl wants to see, not how you contort your face. For example, I looked at a girl normally/pokerface, stared her right in the eyes with kino, she looked away flustered and smiling, saying (dont look at me like that)
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:37 AM
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Maybe they were friends, and noticed they were both after the same guy? A risky move, going for multiples from the same herd
/r/seduction11/06/13 09:25 AM
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Good kissing is not a skill you aquire, its knowing how to interact with the girl. Usually you get a feel for her style within a few seconds. Some prefer a wider, others a narrower kiss, some like to use the tongue, others like to nibble etc. Its all about communication. I think its best to start almost keeping your mouth almost closed, and see what direction she goes to. But most importantly, keep it fun and intuitive; if your teeth clash, dont get awkward, just laugh it off. She seems pretty c…
/r/seduction11/06/13 08:17 AM
0

Ofc they change, its like comparing a wild animal to a domestic one
/r/seduction11/06/13 07:56 AM
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Its really important to know who you are, and what you are comfortable with. Im really jealous of a friend of mine, he is a mix of playful and serious, and kinos with everyone really naturally. The magic about kino is that it (when applied correctly) releases hormones that promote bonding, so its doing half the work for you. Though its very dependant on the person, some like it, some dont.
/r/seduction11/06/13 07:54 AM
2

I think that advise is more for people that have social anxiety/problems breaking the ice
/r/seduction02/06/13 03:50 PM
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How does this work? I treat them like delicate flowers, but after I get what I want, I go into radio silence and let them forget I was ever there; romantically poetic imo
/r/seduction28/05/13 10:44 AM
2

Thats not being picky, thats being open. When you want to have sex, you go to the gorgeous woman; when you want stimulating conversation, you go to the less gorgeous one.
/r/seduction22/05/13 09:08 PM
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Ok, lets recap Falls in love with every girl he meets, fantasizes about dating Wants a LTR, but needs "the feels" to go through with it Barely meets women that he can see a long term potential with, so shuts himself in - sick of rules of engagement My diagnosis is that instead of oneitis you have boneitis, you only feel the sexual tension, not the profound "I want to be with you till we die"; so before going out, rub one out and go with a clear head.
/r/seduction22/05/13 09:06 PM
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You americans and your degrees and courses.. just go out there and use the old fashioned trial and error.
/r/seduction01/05/13 04:15 PM
3

I dont get the reference :<
/r/seduction09/03/13 07:23 PM
10

You can introduce yourself as a vampire
/r/seduction09/03/13 03:54 PM
1

I got a little douchey vibe from the last part of the post, a little james bondey if you will. Seduce her, get her number and leave town "ill call her when I come back someday"
/r/seduction02/03/13 08:23 AM
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I read somewhere that romantic interest drop after about 3 days of no contact. I have a lot of female friends, who constantly ask why their date didnt call the next day - is something wrong with her, or should she call him herself? So waiting 3 days is a bit overkill.
/r/seduction01/03/13 06:25 PM
6

Indeed, its all about the execution
/r/seduction01/03/13 11:39 AM
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True dat, no religion says that your life is on train tracks, that you cant change anything
/r/seduction01/01/13 03:55 PM
2

We sail the 7 seas of the internet! The evil federation is after our booty; all men on deck, power up the proxies and full speed ahead!
/r/seduction31/12/12 10:22 AM
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Though you can compensate with a hoarse voice; a lot of smoking and drinking vodka!
/r/seduction30/12/12 11:33 PM
3

Ofc that rule depends a lot on the person. One girl is raised religiously and doesnt want to have sex before marriage, is that a person you shouldnt invest emotionally, or rather "put the deposit" and wait for the marriage? The flipside is sex now, emotions later. In some cases that might be a bad idea also, since its quite hard to get a steamy relationship condensed into something stable. Then again, you need to read between the lines, and apply them accordingly. What people need to take home f…
/r/seduction26/12/12 02:54 AM
1

Probably the sexually lined convo helped to keep the tension up, also the salsa dance thing gave him major points.
/r/seduction27/11/12 07:01 PM
1

I think online helps tons on offline AA, since when you go out, you know the person is there spesifically waiting for you, so you really have nothing to be worried about.
/r/seduction27/11/12 07:01 AM
1

After using something like that, you can spot a bot a mile away
/r/seduction27/11/12 06:59 AM
2

You are 100% correct. Also, my social circles are pretty small, so its awesome to be able to find cool people with a flick of the wrist; someone you would never even glance at the street, turns out the be an awesome person.
/r/seduction27/11/12 06:28 AM
2

Basically yeah, but it requires you have stuff that people like, ie charisma, good verbal skills etc; you cant be a basement dwelling redditor and expect to walk outside and being the king of the hill; it requires sertain traits.
/r/seduction02/11/12 09:59 PM
3

Only thing that bothered me, was the nasal noise when she inhailed
/r/seduction02/10/12 11:50 AM
2

Yesterday I was at work, and my colleague was sitting in a power pose, and when our boss came to check on us, the boss took a low-power pose. Didn't think nothing of it, but after watching this, it made me laugh a little :p
/r/seduction02/10/12 11:49 AM
2

Sure you can hurt yourself, but its only the effect, not the cause. If you do these exercises, and get the dominant/empowering feeling, and like, go flirt with a bodybuilders girlfriend, you are gonna get mugged. So use your head with what you do while having the "boost" in self confidence and whatnot.
/r/seduction02/10/12 11:45 AM
1

Therapists have a privacy rule, unless it dangers someones life. Unless you are someone like Dexter, I dont think you have much to worry about.
/r/seduction11/09/12 04:40 PM
2

Isn't that pretty much obligatory? Its the only way to find out if you ahve anything in common, study wise. If you have the same major etc. you can easily form a studygroup, or go dissect a frog or something.
/r/seduction08/09/12 06:25 AM
1

Imo, you cant/shouldnt convey sexual interest with words. Search for the thread on touching. While complimenting a jewel or bracelet, try to touch it, initiating natural physical contact
/r/seduction02/09/12 05:29 PM
1

Last time she had rap on, I felt like a pimp. But yeah, electonic is pretty chill for lovin'.
/r/seduction17/05/12 02:46 PM
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