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that is actually very concise and well-said
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 05:19 PM
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Thanks, this is helpful! I mentioned my diet was nearing the end as I reach my goal, so that wouldn’t be the worst time to drop in probably.
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:35 PM
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Look at you making some bold and incorrect assumptions. There is no fixation, she’s taken? Whatever. There is nowhere I suggested walking her home, and thankfully I’m not foolish enough to suggest such a thing the first time I meet a woman. I don’t even know if I’ll actually like her yet, so there is no “problem that I have to address”. My post here was to hold myself accountable to my mistakes and see where this goes and do better next time either way.
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:34 PM
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She said “my partner” when I asked whether she opened the store and she said her partner did, so I assumed that was just the direct answer to my question. Her body language, laughter and smiling with me, asking me questions x even a bit of swearing suggested a degree of comfort which is why I continued. If she said “sorry I have a boyfriend” I’d leave immediately and wouldn’t want to cause her discomfort. There was also nobody else in the store. Honestly this has been a hesitation to ever gettin…
/r/seduction22/11/24 12:13 PM
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Always makes me wonder, a socially intelligent, reasonably fit guy approaches her in the right way giving off more masculine energy than her husband, what does she do in that case
/r/seduction20/10/24 12:07 AM
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That’s really well put overall. For that guy, he’s still pretty young, it wouldn’t surprise me if he becomes aware of certain issues a few years down the road. Either way it’s fine, I’ve got nothing against him, from the sounds of it, he’s the only other good dude other than me that she seems to have had. I agree with you that most men never even get to experience real love once. Blew my mind when I realised that. So twice is actually decent, especially if you get a consistent few years of good …
/r/seduction14/10/24 02:27 AM
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Yep, similar stories. Maybe her other guy will notice soon, maybe he won’t. I think he may notice when he gets older and at that point she’ll be in her mid to late 30s and not a good time for a split for her. Whatever, fuck it, not my problem. I do definitely accept it as her loss. I think the saddest part is that when it’s good, it’s good. Genuine intimacy and love from a woman is a really fucking nice experience. Sad that it’s as fickle as it is. I ditched the idea that a woman completes you y…
/r/seduction13/10/24 07:09 PM
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Amen. Yeah we broke up. But it wasn’t the break up as much as HOW it happened and the circumstances surrounding it because she wanted the relationship more than I did. I (thankfully) did not slip up as I continue to get fitter, leaner, stronger, more competent and richer with the years. I made a lot of her lifelong dreams come true. Organized her finances so she could buy a house (required some creative financial engineering), fast-tracked her out of the U.S. to getting an EU passport in 2 years…
/r/seduction13/10/24 06:05 PM
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Ah mate, this couldn’t be more accurate as a lesson I’ve learnt recently. Spot on. Shit can go south so easily that I want to adopt that indifference that no matter what I’m gonna be fine the next day and that, more or less, I can get someone on command. Luckily I have never and would never let my self-confidence/self-worth/self-respect as a man slide even when with a woman, but this is an excellent way of framing just why it’s so fucking important.
/r/seduction13/10/24 05:34 PM
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Interesting take. Can’t say I fully agree as the last relationship my ex wanted to fuck all the time. The rare occasions I masturbated was only when she wasn’t around. I turned her down for sex every now and then but she never turned me down, not even when she was tired or not in the mood. But I get your point on variety for sure. I think by far my biggest resistance is having enough instances where I’ve gone from a cold approach to pulling. If I develop that skill and a degree of consistency, I…
/r/seduction13/10/24 01:26 AM
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Ah. Still 2. Because that level of primal attraction from a woman means she’s sufficiently attracted to me to be loyal and supportive and feminine for me, which keeps my level of attraction for her high. I’ve had this before and while I did love her, she didn’t care that much about what I had to say about things and I knew it. Her attraction for me and emotional connection with me overruled everything else and she wanted to have sex usually more than I did.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 01:20 AM
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Thanks. On being seductive, I agree. In a relationship I have zero problem maintaining attraction and staying seductive. That isn’t my struggle. It’s more the approach part as it’s just something I don’t have the reps with at the moment. And you may well be right about picking hotter women. That’s something I haven’t tried. And I do think having the options makes a huge difference. It’s been getting out of a relationship that has made me recognise the true value of having options and exercising …
/r/seduction12/10/24 08:17 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:00 AM
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Yeah I’d choose 2 so that I can have 1. No doubt for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 02:00 AM
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Same, I’m curious too. Sounds like a great start.
/r/seduction08/10/24 02:34 AM
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This is excellent. Truthful, realistic, and not rage-bait. Thanks.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 10:05 PM
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Yeah that makes sense too actually. Her best friend fucking hated me and my guts haha. She likes her new bf a lot more. I was ultra careful with my resources because I know they can be. That was the main non-issue between the two of us. The sex was good though, she claimed many times it was the best of her life since she used to cum twice each time at the least often 3 times, but i don’t take it too seriously since her prior lays sounded pretty mediocre.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 08:38 PM
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In her case, she seemed to be doing whatever it took to have her emotional needs met. She provided better for herself and her daughter than her deadbeat ex husband/baby daddy does even now, she brings in $175K/year. I was never beta and she knew it (and said so). She said a lot of times “I’ve never met a man more worthy of being a leader.” But it always made me wonder why it seemed like I was just a placeholder serving a purpose. Like the other guy said, that’s just how women love. Probably also…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 08:26 PM
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Women do want men who are better than other men because that’s also hypergamy. Those men will also be “better than them.” That’s female mating strategy. The same way that men prefer younger women to older ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 07:50 PM
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Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 07:40 PM
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Nobody said I was special, you made that assumption yourself. All I said is that she was attracted and that remains a fact regardless of anything else. My post also says I’m new to TRP and genuine desire so don’t put words in my mouth that I’m claiming to be someone I’m not. To answer your question above that I missed, the child’s father figure is the father that she co-parents with. The guy in Turkey is her new bf who gives her comfort. None of this is the point. The end of my post asks explici…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 07:27 PM
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It wasn’t that immediate. It took 2 years of us being involved until the realization finally sank into her head. Towards the end she was getting emotionally closer to her next guy, who she told me often reminded her of me. The guy isn’t a deadbeat but he works in Turkey where in $ she outearns him by a massive margin but he’s willing to commit to her and he treats her well like I did. She gets the commitment I didn’t give her so she left.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 07:11 PM
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I wasn’t providing for her kid, just FYI. I made that clear from the beginning. In fact, being a decent earner herself, she was willing to pay for me to fly around to see her. I never spent $0.01 on her child. She told me repeatedly she’d even consider being the provider of the family and let me stay home and not work. I laughed it off obviously but she wasn’t joking.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/24 07:06 PM
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100% agree. It wasn’t until I interacted with more women that I realised how attracted they were to the fact that I was competent, with fixing things, solving most problems, finances whatever. She used to say “I can turn my brain off and just follow you without thinking.”
/r/seduction01/10/24 06:48 PM
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Maybe, but just because most people don’t do it doesn’t make it less effective than dating apps. I’d argue those who can cold approach effectively can get far superior results vs those who use dating apps “effectively” if we’re comparing apples to apples. Greater investment to learn a skill, but greater payoff too. As with most things in life, the more you do what’s harder to do and what others aren’t willing to do, the more you can achieve success that most never do.
/r/seduction30/09/24 07:00 PM
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Think about the opposite. Are there things that would make YOU yearn to be with him and think about nothing but him and never look at another man? If not, then you shouldn’t expect that of him. If so, then think about (or ask) him what he finds attractive enough in a woman to elicit that kind of response, and BE that if you want that from him. If it turns out that you want a certain kind of treatment that begins to lean towards simp-hood, then he may be (rightfully) unwilling to oblige, as that …
/r/seduction25/09/24 03:04 AM
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Yeah, gotta test ‘em somehow
/r/TheRedPill15/09/24 02:46 AM
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Good stuff. Follow up question: if you are one of these guys, how do you separate the women who just see you as a resource from those who are genuinely attracted to you? They can often appear equally sweet, equally willing to be submissive and compliant to you, they can (appear to) adopt your values even if they truly haven’t, just to get in your good graces. The only way I think of is to be unwilling to shower excessive material pleasures on her (at least in the beginning as a test) to see if s…
/r/TheRedPill14/09/24 11:35 PM
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You’d be surprised how far good game can get you. If you’re not a born Chad, the good thing for men is that you can still live the Chad life. There’s a lot of very average looking men who aren’t ultra wealthy who do very well with women because they understand how to manipulate the female mind. And ultimately females’ mating strategy has historically largely proactively selected the men who can manipulate them the best. “There’s just something about him.” This is where it’s not about “being your…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 10:01 PM
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Agreed
/r/seduction22/07/24 03:35 AM
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Haha I guess I come off more as a beginner than I thought. I do know how to handle shit tests. My weak point has been making the conversations “man-to-woman” relatively early because I cared too much about a negative reaction but I also know women like men who take social risks. I guess outcome dependence is also the problem. At some point the conversation needs to stop being platonic, and a lot of the ones I start, go that way and stay that way. Ends in a “nice to meet you” 🙄 which is my fault.…
/r/seduction21/07/24 11:15 PM
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Yep, that should be fairly simple. Hardest part for me is always the open. From there I don't feel the same level of unease. Thanks. I'm looking forward to taking action and pushing through this.
/r/seduction21/07/24 09:48 PM
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Watched pretty much all his videos. I never said I was going out to have an intellectual conversation. I said they dont hold my interest over time, which is a preference, not arrogance, like saying you prefer Asian girls over white girls. I’m not commenting on their value, but I know what kinds of women I do better with in the long term. Aside from street game, I’m going to yoga classes and art classes too, out of genuine interest as well, not just to meet women, but there are attractive women t…
/r/seduction21/07/24 08:03 PM
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Haha good advice. So to be clear, I’m not delusional about women. In fact, until this last relationship, I’d given up on the idea that relationships were really even worth the effort, since most of my guy friends are in relationships I don’t envy at all. I’ve been happier on my own than with some bitchy, manipulative woman. The issue for me this time was that the masculine/feminine dynamic was strong. She was submissive to me, she lit up when she got to see me, she took care of me, and I was the…
/r/seduction21/07/24 07:53 PM
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I think as the other guy said, I just need to swing the fucking club. This breakup was like 5 months ago but my mental state has been all fucked up. Because of how good the connection was, it has me feeling like I lost something I’ll never get back even though logically I know I will.
/r/seduction21/07/24 07:10 PM
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Thanks. Needed to hear that.
/r/seduction21/07/24 05:48 PM
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Initially, approach anxiety. I would be weirded out if I were approached, so I assume vice versa is true too though I know it isn’t. Got out of a long relationship which ripped my heart out. Oneitis maybe, but there was a lot that was great about it, even though it wasn’t perfect. Scarcity mindset too. It’s late for me but I still want to get to a place of abundance and choice rather than accepting what comes my way and settling for something I don’t want.
/r/seduction21/07/24 04:40 AM
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Haha nah, if you learnt how to approach, you can learn to edit too ;) learning to approach was harder for me than editing, so I have faith in you!
/r/TheRedPill10/07/24 06:05 AM
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Still struggling with the “your” instead of “you’re”
/r/TheRedPill09/07/24 02:01 PM
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She wasn't drunk but I turned down sex a few times (on the same occasion) and I was pushed to the side fairly aggressively and "involuntarily" kicked.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:05 AM
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Couldn’t have said it better myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 09:46 AM
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100%
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 08:02 AM
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You have the best flair I’ve seen yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 10:25 AM
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Someone I spoke with for a while over the course of a flight I eventually asked if she wanted to meet up at the end as we disembarked. The conversation was good and we had both enjoyed it. She made sort of a disgusted face, said “um no!” kind of loudly and hurried away. She could have done so without making it audible to everyone else. which I would have appreciated. That was the difference between a more embarrassing rejection and normal one in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:15 AM
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Definitely been rejected embarrassingly, an embarrassing number of times haha and in hindsight I can't say I did something I clearly shouldn't have. Definitely has been pretty emotionally damaging. I also began to lose interest to be fair after *that* many rejections, and when you've only ever failed, it can definitely make you 2nd guess yourself. My relationships have generally come about when a woman has engaged in a conversation with me and found that I have a number of qualities that she fou…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 12:17 PM
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Sure, thanks! I’ll PM. It’s funny you say that nobody objects to clean-shaven because it seems like all the women I’ve met recently seem to prefer beards and my ex did too. I’ve been told I look good both ways but nobody has preferred me without the beard 😅😅
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:56 AM
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Yes, I do. I’ve kept the 10 day stubble that’s groomed for a long time. Maybe eHarmony. I’m quite content with my own life but I’ll admit I’ve really lost attraction and interest over the past few years. Invested tons of time and money over the years trying to hit a moving target. I either try and set up the date too soon or not soon enough, or I go for a kiss on the first date which she maybe wasn’t feeling, or then another one is upset that I didn’t go for the kiss on the first date. So that’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:18 AM
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I’ve tried them all really but focused on bumble and hinge. Changed pictures, profile, I had professional photos taken too and have even been told that I’m attractive. Even if I’m not, I’m certainly not ugly at the least. I’m lucky if I get a match every 3 months
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:37 AM
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Thank you! I’m well-groomed, intelligent, well-travelled and have built myself a strong, lean body. Online dating hasn’t worked out too well for me no matter what I’ve tried. I now do what I can to meet women more in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 10:35 AM
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I suppose so. I don't know, I'm 33 and feel like I have been patient, with like 2 relationships where this one was the only one that had a shred of good in it which didn't last long. It's too soon to tell if it was a waste or not. I've put in a lot of effort into putting myself out there over the last 10 years. If I end up settling for someone because it's better than nothing at all, I'd argue it was indeed a waste since ignorance is bliss, and I'd live in a state of having been teased by how go…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 09:10 AM
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As long as you’re happy, that’s really what matters. I have also done better on my own as I’ve mostly ever been alone, and have had a couple of good friends. My desire to not live alone for the rest of my life has only recently changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 05:26 AM
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Yeah you got it. We talked about the fact that we likely have a trauma bond. It’s weird, I had limited if any relationship success and had already stopped believing that love was worth fighting for since a few years. I wasn’t even looking for it. Then I realised how it feels when someone’s face lights up when they see you and how it feels when they’re absolutely thrilled to have you around them. And then poof it all went. Hopefully there is another partner in store otherwise what was the point o…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 03:29 AM
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Thank you. I think you should look for someone if you want. We as humans are never finished products. We have to find someone we can grow with. We can’t expect to be perfect before we meet our someone. We’ll always have our hang ups. Our partner just needs to know what they are and how to respond. That alone makes a world of a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:19 PM
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Yeah, I try and keep in the back of my mind though. It sometimes became a bit much to just obsess over it. I think a healthy self-awareness is important but dwelling on it all the time is a recipe for misery. Luckily I make big changes in myself fairly quickly. My hope is that this improvement comes with me and that I can find love like we had, which was real along with all its flaws, but hopefully this time without all the unnecessary rollercoasters 🥹
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 04:13 PM
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Makes sense and yes, that mistake has indeed been made many times. “The other” I see as different, not less positively. My whole outlook on trauma has changed after observing her, myself, and my brother independently. I have compassion for all of us, even if she wants nothing to do with me anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:19 PM
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Yeah. I feel that boys and girls can process and internalize the same kind of trauma in totally different ways. Some things are more harmful to boys while others are more harmful to girls. That’s my theory but I’m no professional. I had boundary issues because I was never validated as a kid. Luckily I’ve repaired a lot of that damage over the past few years.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 03:07 PM
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That makes sense. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:35 PM
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Yeah by no means did I mean to generalise. Breaks my fucking heart that things went the way that they did. But this is life. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 02:34 PM
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I can imagine. We really did a LOT of deep dives into trauma together. We talked about therapy and why we are the way we are. I helped her work through some of her trauma and she did the same for me. But there were major things that didn’t change. Things that really needed to. We got to a point when we couldn’t agree with one another on big things which is when our relationship started to go downhill. We still loved one another despite that. I still love her and would have died for her when we w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:10 PM
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I suppose you’re right. I always felt bad and tried not to be so harsh because she has boatloads of childhood trauma. Anyway, it is what it is at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 10:25 AM
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Right. Thanks. I remember bringing it up back then and she’d admit she didn’t even notice her manipulation. This actually improved over time. She was chaotic though. Bad decision maker and very impulsive. Making her problems my problems in our relationship destroyed my peace. Deeply loving but unable to break her own patterns despite my bringing it to her attention. Sometimes the actions matter more than the intentions. We split a while back, just reflecting on lessons to be learnt.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 10:13 AM
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Some replies seem to have misunderstood, or perhaps I wasn’t clear. The relationship can be otherwise good. Loving and good a lot of the time, maybe even most of the time, but there can still be times when she may try to manipulate you to have her way. Because things are good most of the time, it can catch you off guard a little. It’s a little more nuanced than just being black and white. I’m not in a relationship but I’ve experienced something similar in the past. Curious how others would handl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:59 AM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 08:39 AM
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Yes, I would. The list you outlined is in itself so uncommon that even half of those things would be sufficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 06:45 AM
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I agree with Metalloid_Space. The problem is a bit deeper than just needing validation. If she just really likes male attention and craves validation like that, to me that’s a red flag. That signals someone who is dependent on my constant love because she lacks love for herself and someone who wouldn’t grow well with me because growth is rarely easy and can involve conflict where there is reduced attention/validation/general comfort, which in turn might get her to seek it elsewhere. I’d much rat…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/24 05:12 AM
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Because we are. We’re visually stimulated, and if we see 100 women and are asked to choose the most attractive ones, we’ll choose purely based on physical attraction. But if we know each of those 100 women to an extent, our choices for which we like the most will very likely be very very different. The ones we find outright physically unattractive will likely not become attractive to us all of a sudden. But the ones we find anything above acceptably physically attractive, which really isn’t that…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 05:34 AM
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I think I commented on that post, where are you from? Why is it so shocking? Yes Eurocentric beauty standards dominate in Europe and the men who don’t fit in that box are often seen as less desirable but they don’t just find euro women attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:01 AM
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This woman knows what's up.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 01:06 PM
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I think many men are quite versatile with the type of woman they find attractive. I’ve fallen in love with the personality of a woman who “wasn’t my type”. But that said, my “type” is more personality-based than looks-based. Light-skinned or dark, I can be 100x more flexible on physical appearance than I can be on personality. That said, I’m not attracted to overweight/unhealthy women, regardless of anything else, because I put effort into my body too. Again, I can’t speak for all men, but I def…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 08:08 AM
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I’ve been single most of my life. The relationship I had with the last ex was healthy in many ways. Communication was rarely ever an issue, it was mature and direct. Losing a loving relationship as a dude with few relationships due to moderate standards is tough but I’ll still make that hard choice than be a woman’s second choice. I won’t tolerate a woman who is unable to be single or whose needs control her behaviour (compulsive need for sex results in lots of sleeping around if single, or aggr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 05:28 AM
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Isn’t 3-4 inches definitely below average?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:12 AM
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You know this is a funny one. My ex used to tell me that there were many times that I hit her cervix. She said it made her feel slightly nauseous but she also kind of liked it. One of those sensations that you don’t totally love but you definitely don’t hate either. She said cervical orgasms were a thing too, but no clue how those happen. My dick is not enormous by any means, it’s definitely at least average in length, with decent girth. So maybe her vagina was a tad smaller? I don’t know. Eithe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 04:12 AM
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Not even that, necessarily. I’m brown, grew up in the west, not extreme in any cultural religious way and most of my friends are white Europeans and middle eastern. Above average height, well-groomed (my exes have said so, particularly on dress and hygiene), athletic/muscular build as fitness/nutrition are very important to me, I have cool hobbies and am educated. Hard-pressed to find matches on online dating. Kind of tired of dating haha, just not convinced it’s worth the time after how little …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:09 PM
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I feel like I’ve experienced this situation to an extent. Not sure about “not that physically attracted” but physical attraction is certainly not everything to me. My ex had a lot of childhood abuse and trauma. She was immensely supportive, extremely sweet with me, and her trauma made her sensitive to consent, but when I said no, it didn’t mean no to her and she didn’t take it well. She wasn’t great at taking accountability nor particularly good at regulating her emotions. I absolutely adored he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 07:02 AM
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Yeah I have friends who get girls because they fit the mold a bit better. I generally don’t broach the subject with them. Others though completely get it. The friends who understand me and share my values also share similar wants when it comes to women. We either choose to play the dating game and deal with the BS for meaningless sex or keep our standards and stay dateless. We generally choose the latter, or at least I do. I’ve gotten emotionally attached to my fair share of women who are/have b…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:20 AM
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Man, I’m really fucking sorry to hear that. I haven’t had it nearly as bad as you. As a brown man, I’ve experienced my fair share of discrimination and stereotypes from women on dating apps (enough for me to not use them anymore). I’m well educated, clean cut/well-dressed and hold myself to a high moral standard, but crazy how hard it is to show that through a profile. I guess in both our cases, people see what they want to see. Derisive comments, assumptions about my family, how they’d never wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:12 AM
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Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 07:21 PM
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Thank you. That does make sense. So what is the appropriate reaction to breaking up with someone you would consider a soulmate and the absolute love of your life? Is it more feeling your feelings, processing and taking time to do so, or can it also be healthy to just start diverting attention to the next man who has potential? (genuine question). What about when one is an a relationship? It's normal for a woman to want her man's attention, but if 85% of the words in all conversations have to do …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 07:05 PM
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I used to think this too. I think in many ways, men, because of more work required to get sex, are used to going longer periods without sex but I've found women aren't very good at this because they naturally don't have as much practice. From what I've seen, many women won't hesitate to have lots of casual sex to satisfy their cravings, in many cases with a higher threshold for male attractiveness, but women who don't do this will typically go from one LTR to another to ensure that this need is …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 06:43 PM
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