zonadedesconforto Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Neil Strauss said that he "completely changed" his personality to cater to the Red Pill; what did you lose when you were redpilled? Bingo.	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/26 03:41 PM
73	Why is interracial dating so frowned upon by incels Because these incel think they are, in some way, entitled to “own” white women, so a Black man (or any non-white guy for that matter) really hurt their feelings of entitlement. Also, being sexually frustrated makes them really despise normal loving relationships.	/r/ExRedPill	28/07/25 11:59 AM
3	Is it true that the whole “height thing”, especially about men, isn’t really a thing in real life? Or, not as much of a thing as on the internet? I wonder if this is a case of being "too online" or "too American"	/r/ExRedPill	14/07/25 12:50 AM
12	Is there a non-redpill alternative to Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy"? You can read some books on “people pleasing”, I guess. Since “nice guys” is most likely a subset of people pleasers.	/r/ExRedPill	07/07/25 12:23 AM
11	Robert Sapolsky, a neurobiologist professor, says that humans are half-way in between being pair-bonding/monogamous and competitive/only a minority of men finds mates - what does people here think of this and does it suggest that RP isn't completely incorrect about hypergamy? Any kind of theorizing of human behavior that focuses only on simplistic biological explanations and ignores social/cultural issues is moot and void. Attraction and mating greatly changes across cultures and social contexts - those who say otherwise are just being stupidly naive.	/r/ExRedPill	06/07/25 08:59 PM
12	How would a guy get out of having a mindset that “it’d be impossible for any woman to be attracted (especially physically) to me”? Just like men have different tastes on appearance, so do women. It’s simple to leave this mindset once men stop lumping all women together.	/r/ExRedPill	23/06/25 12:43 AM
25	80/20: Actually, “Stacy” is sleeping with a lot of different “Chad” men Giving such stats without considering differences in sexual behavior is most likely to grant incomplete answers. Look at kinky, polyam or other alternate lifestyle communities, most of these people are much more likely to have had a greater number of sexual partners than you average straight guy/girl.	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/25 07:02 PM
7	Why are women physically attracted to guys with a porn star profile? Why can’t the tattooed guy be a nice guy? Is nice somewhat antithetical to handsomeness?	/r/seduction	20/05/25 07:17 PM
5	What if a literal political incel ended up in charge of a small country?? Argentina is currently undergoing this	/r/ExRedPill	01/05/25 09:23 PM
7	Chad doesn’t exist Grass is always greener somewhere else. Its These RP guys idolize other women’s and men’s live to such a bizarre extent, while they forget to live their own. “I’m not a chad” is a nice excuse for those cowards unwilling to try.	/r/ExRedPill	27/04/25 08:12 PM
6	I don’t get their outrage on Hypergamy They don’t consider any woman that is not 100% aligned with their standards as possible romantic/sex partners.	/r/ExRedPill	08/04/25 11:37 AM
5	Redpillers are bitching that women are only interested in money, status and looks, but when they come across exceptions among women, they brutally humiliate them This is just projection and bias selection: RP guys see society as this dog-eats-dog world where status and looks are the only thing that matter, but they would rather accuse women of subscribing to that worldview instead of admiring they hold such a despicable worldview themselves. Since this is their framework to life, everything they do and everyone they get attracted to ends up supporting this hateful worldview.	/r/ExRedPill	30/03/25 09:39 PM
4	Does the idea of “alpha fucks/beta bucks” have any basis in reality? What do you think of the idea? Alpha/Beta terminology is deeply flawed pseudoscience. It does not make sense even for most animal species.	/r/ExRedPill	06/03/25 01:15 PM
2	I am crying because I am not getting women. Do you think my BBD is related to lack of women? I was feed too much red pill crap. Personality disorders might hamper social skiils, which in turn affects a lot of stuff in one's life. How many non-sexual relationships (friendships, colleagues, family) do you have?	/r/ExRedPill	19/03/23 10:47 PM
4	Does keeping my money and never buy those redpills attraction course worth it? Im tried of redpills community You would be better off using that money to get into therapy or some social skills lessons (if you feel like it), working out and eating healthier, maybe developing a sense of style....	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/23 08:04 PM
6	Study uncovers a “particularly alarming” link between men’s feelings of personal deprivation and hostile sexism Guys who feel disadvantaged (either economically or socially) and powerless are more likely to try to more hostile means of asserting power, like physical/psychological violence.	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/23 06:54 PM
3	I still don't understand how someone is supposed to be confident Honestly, I think “being confident” is a foreign concept to non-Western people, myself included. I’d rather exchange the “feel confident” for “feel comfortable” advice. Being comfortable and safe in one’s shoes is a better way to frame it	/r/ExRedPill	09/12/22 07:16 PM
2	Is it even realistic/common to expect a girlfriend that will listen to your past issues and baggage, and work it through with you? I think it’s realistic, as long as you don’t expect or demand that your gf to act like your personal (and unpaid( therapist.	/r/ExRedPill	29/11/22 04:01 PM
7	Why do I not want a relationship, I can't see any point in committing to anything? Humans are not inherently selfish. If there is a “human nature”, it is clearly more prosocial than anything.	/r/ExRedPill	15/10/22 05:02 PM
7	How many here actually have degrees in a field of study that pertains to Red Pill (e.g. Psychology, Sociology, etc). If so, what is your expertise in? Most redpill discourse is based around sexist interpretations of evolutionary psychology hypothesis. Yeah, most evo-psych studies are HIGHLY hipothetical, have few or no material evidence and need to be constatly compared to other archeological, historical and sociological studies of ancient human societies. But most of these red pill guys just take these highly hypothetical evo-psych discussions as absolute truths and spin them to fit their own agenda.	/r/ExRedPill	26/08/22 01:18 PM
9	the key to freedom from all types of pill ideologies (red-pill, blue-pill, etc.) is realizing that women are very very similar to men when it comes to their brain. “How can any of this change?” It changes all the time. This is why people go to gyms, play sports, go into therapy or get into social skills training. Even though genetics do play a part, most of these issues are not limited to it. The most genetically gifted guy/girl will turn into a hideous person if they don’t take care of themselves and vice-versa.	/r/ExRedPill	20/08/22 12:14 PM
20	Are we competing against each other? Of course not. This peak psychopathic capitalistic mentality of competition above all else is dooming us. Do not fall for that crap, please.	/r/ExRedPill	08/08/22 06:29 PM
79	Hypergamy has my mind all messed up. How much of a battle really are you in with other men to get women? I’m far from being a “masculine” guy and honestly, I don’t give a single damn about “beating” other men. Once I realised that relationships should be based on building cooperation and trust and not on competition and power dynamics, I stopped worrying about that shit.	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/22 09:57 PM
4	Any People on the Autism spectrum here? Fellow Aspie here	/r/ExRedPill	06/07/22 01:29 AM
1	Will the Roe V Wade decision make dating even harder in the future? Or wear a condom. It protects you not only against u warranted pregnancies, but against STIs as well	/r/ExRedPill	27/06/22 03:35 PM
8	I’m descending into the woman hating madness. I don’t want to believe red pill but it’s too convincing. Help me. Women enjoy guys that know how to express their feelings. What women truly dislike is guys that try to turn them into their personal (and unpaid) therapists.	/r/ExRedPill	25/06/22 03:31 PM
2	Can Childhood abuse make you an incel? Childhood abuse brings long-lasting negative consequences to its victims, especially when it comes to interpersonal relationships (be it friendships or romance) later in life. So yeah, being subjected to abusive relationships early on is the #1 factor that turns people into abusers themselves.	/r/ExRedPill	16/06/22 03:34 PM
7	this subreddit is promoting female abusers and silencing male victims Whose female abusers? Whose male victims? Unless you provide clear examples, no one is going to take you seriously here or anywhere else	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/22 05:48 PM
1	Anyone else proud to be Beta? Beta? Sir, you are a true sigma male lol Just kidding. But I stand by every word in this post.	/r/ExRedPill	12/06/22 05:10 PM
4	Are looks actually subjective? Always been interested in this topic. Well, I’m a straight guy who is totally into tomboy-ish/androgynous women and not interested at all in “delicate” and hyper-feminine women. Lots is guys have totally opposite tastes compared to mine. So yeah, I think “ugly” looks are subjective to a degree, especially when you add fashion into the equation. I’d say there are few truly ugly people in this world, most unattractive people just don’t know how to dress well or how to wear good fits	/r/ExRedPill	01/06/22 09:46 PM
3	What do you think of guys who believe girls are turned on by creepiness and aggression like randomly choking, rape or forcing make out(RSDTyler/Julien fans)? These guys will end up in jail soon	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/22 12:48 PM
18	The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red Pill It applies to romance as well. Unless we’re talking about those 100% platonic relationships, romance does involve sexual intimacy to some degree. And choosing a “wrong” romantic partner usually brings more trouble and trauma than having sex with a “wrong” person might bring.	/r/ExRedPill	25/05/22 09:11 PM
20	The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red Pill Going to tell you this: people die from dehydration either in the desert or in high seas. Suffering from dehydration while surrounded by water sounds totally ironic, but it is true: drinking salt water wrecks your kidneys and eventually kills you. The same can be said about women (or any highly-desirable individual): being surrounded by interested guys does not mean women actually have it easier to build romantic relationships. Someone stranded in a empty island can’t just drink water from the o…	/r/ExRedPill	25/05/22 08:42 PM
11	The more I lurk on female subseddits, the more I lose empathy towards women and believe in the Red Pill Check r/bropill, they share a lot of personal stories there	/r/ExRedPill	25/05/22 06:46 PM
2	Misconceptions about evolution Awful (and bigoted) interpretations on Evo-Psych are doing a lot of damage to a lot of young guys. Bio-essentialism, the idea that things like behaviour and intelligence are determined solely by biology, is the foundational root of totally evil things like “scientific racism”. We are not bound by nature or evolution.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/22 12:45 PM
42	Men who escaped the Redpill or Inceldom, what's the biggest advice you would give for the ones who are still struggling? Work on yourself (social skills, emotional intelligence, body shape if you feel insecure about that too) + find your “target audience”, focus on girls who actually have something that relates to you. Don’t chase girls just because they look hot.	/r/ExRedPill	24/05/22 01:37 AM
3	Seeing the rising sexlessness for people makes me feel better weirdly I think cishet people could learn a thing a lot from queer relationships and LGBT people.	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/22 09:00 PM
1	What responsibility do men have for having relationships with nightmare women? There are always a couple (unconscious) reasons we seek the same kind of partners. I’ve dated a lot of these cold and distant women before because it was just reliving my childhood experience - my parents were emotionally distant and I’ve always felt kinda psychologically neglected by them. It was a bad place to be, but it was familiar, so I always did seek that unconsciously. So many guys are just trapped in this loop.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/22 02:31 PM
1	When discussing dating, women do not consider the average men as people so they compare themselves to the top 10% which is why they think dating is harder for them. Whose women are you referring to?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/22 01:46 PM
11	Why is biology so central to red pill messaging? It’s just a dumb way of making culture-based stuff like gender roles seem “natural” or “human nature” and thus unquestionable. Even for flimsy evo-psych standards, much of the red pill messaging gets biology and psychology so damn wrong it’s laughable.	/r/ExRedPill	19/05/22 09:15 PM
30	What responsibility do men have for having relationships with nightmare women? I had a relationship with a girl who was having a very hard time with borderline personality disorder a couple years ago. Not gonna lie, I quickly fell in love with her because she showered me with affection and kindness - for a guy like me, that dated mostly “distant” and “cold” women, it was an exciting thrill. Ignored most of her odd and unstable actions because I did not want to lose this rush, this bliss I felt when dating her. But in the end it was an exhausting and damaging experience for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/22 07:48 PM
4	Why is the man's interest not as important as a woman's while considering abortion? It’s bodily autonomy. No one can be forced to give or borrow any part of their body (be it blood, an organ or a uterus) to another person, even if this another person’s life is at stake. Men can’t force a woman to keep or abort her fetus, much like other people can’t force this men to donate his blood or his organs to other people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/22 02:00 PM
3	I think the lack of a father figure throws young men into the redpill culture. Most young men who fall into red pill culture have a lot of undiagnosed mental health conditions or were themselves victims of abuse or negligence.	/r/ExRedPill	18/05/22 12:40 AM
3	I think the lack of a father figure throws young men into the redpill culture. Touché.	/r/ExRedPill	18/05/22 12:18 AM
1	Why are single women more likely to be happy being single then single men? Yeah, I agree, collective sports are a great way of getting physically close to other people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/22 06:27 PM
7	Why are single women more likely to be happy being single then single men? Society should not see non-sexual touching between guys as “gay”… because it’s not. We need to get rid of these assumptions and stop caring about what other people say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/22 12:47 PM
82	Why are single women more likely to be happy being single then single men? Women usually have better support networks (female friends, cowokers, extended family members) than men (who are more likely to have their partner as the single confidant in their lives).	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/22 07:52 PM
-5	About Patriarchy and Oppression I’m using patriarchy as in the more traditional Roman sense, in which a father or male figure holds power and dominance over family members (including his sons). In Roman patriarchy, sons were expected to follow their fathers’ footsteps and be like them in the future, failure or refusal to do this would result in the son being disowned, ostracised or even killed. Today, those patriarchs are not restricted to our father figures - they are male role models, they are billionaires, successful busine…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/05/22 03:16 AM
-3	About Patriarchy and Oppression Men are more likely to go to prison because they succeed in filling this role in ways that society deems criminal, disgusting or extreme (like using physical violence to assert dominance over a woman, a child or a fellow man, for example). Of course, there are socially approved ways men fill this role - holding overarching economical, ideological and political power, for instance, is more socially accepted than asserting physical or violent power. Patriarchy turns a man’s existence into this nev…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/05/22 08:30 PM
1	About Patriarchy and Oppression What are people like this doing in a left-wing subreddit? Billionaires helping people? WTF dude.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/05/22 06:02 PM
-9	About Patriarchy and Oppression Patriarchy demands men to be oppressors, to hold power (be either the way physical, economical, emotional) over women, children and “inferior” men. A man who fails (or refuses) to play this game is called a “beta”, “loser”, someone unworthy of praise by society, unworthy of relationships and affection by other people. Patriarchy demands men to be material providers, to be “chads” and “alphas”. This is why redpill guys get it SO wrong by idolising these traditional gender roles that made them mis…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	15/05/22 04:46 PM
2	Do you think women (in general) want men as much as men want women? Why? (Straight) women are as diverse as men in this regard. Your female friends are not as representative of the whole female population as you think.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/05/22 09:14 PM
2	Why women talks about their previous experience ? It’s something that happened to them. If women can talk about past jobs or past colleagues with no issues, why shouldn’t they talk about their previous relationships? Of course, there’s a great difference between mentioning or briefly talking about your exes vs. going on a long and unnecessary rant about them, especially when you’ve just started seeing her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/22 01:08 PM
1	Men's worth should NOT be based on women's attraction Setting a men’s social worth based on his sexual prowess is 100% patriarchal ideology.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/22 07:12 PM
46	Seeing redpillers describe women makes me wonder what kind of women they seek out. These guys think "Mean Girls" is a accurate representation of every living woman out there.	/r/ExRedPill	12/05/22 03:44 PM
2	I'm extremely weird, where can I find women who are like me? How is this self talk thing? Do you mostly listen to your own thoughts said out loud? Or do you imagine like debating someone or rehearsing some sort of social interaction? Is this involuntary or can you suppress it in front of other people?	/r/ExRedPill	11/05/22 08:38 PM
1	Thoughts on conscription I’d pretty much end compulsory military service and put some kind of social/environmental work in place. It would benefit both society and youth (regardless of gender) way more than military training.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	26/04/22 04:49 PM
16	Dating apps ruined my self esteem. Dating apps are not supposed to get you into a relationship. When most people get into a relationship, they end up deleting their Tinder/Grindr accounts.	/r/ExRedPill	13/04/22 01:26 AM
82	The concept of ‘privilege’ is deeply anti-therapeutic Privilege rhetoric is deeply flawed and reactionary. It does not desire to end abuse or exploitation, it does not seek liberation or freedom, it only seeks to achieve “equality” by making everyone equally miserable.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	07/04/22 07:49 PM