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#JustLVMThingszorua/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 12:38 AM
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RANTzorua/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:05 PM
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Yes I agree with you. The outbursts that happen from narc abuse are intense. Theres a term also called fleas when you deal with one. Reactive abuse too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 10:51 AM
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Thank you, I'm not sure why im being down voted either, some people have blind spots when it comes to topics like this I suppose. I see you've already been downvoted too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 10:50 AM
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When you have had your head messed around with by a narcissist then yes its absolutely possible to have outbursts like that. I have had extreme rage issues when I was subjected to the mental abuse by my ex. You do not understand if you have not experienced it. I'm not saying what he did was ok at all, but as someone who has been there I completely get it. I changed into a completely different person in the end with my narc. This stuff messes you up mentally big time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 08:26 AM
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If you've dealt with a narcissist abuser then you'd say some pretty disgusting things too. I have wished death upon my ex. His texts are revolting but I understand the rage and hate he feels for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:27 AM
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Yes indeed. Its bringing me back. Depp has a lot of trauma to unpack once this ordeal is over. I'm pleased to see a post on here not supporting that monster heard. That woman is disgusting, evil, and sly. I hate narcissists with a passion, they do not belong in society. We absolutely need more awareness on these dark personality disorders. My ex was a diagnosed narcissist too, and its because of leaving him that I found this place. FDS will help me make sure I never date another one again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 05:25 AM
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How cringe is it when they try push your head down, like piss off man. Awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 07:07 AM
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The two men I've dated were always like "I'm going to eat you all day every day" before we met and slept together yet I'd have to ask for it because obviously it was a lie. (They both told me theyd fuck me all night etc lmao which was also a lie). I'm incredibly generous when it comes to oral, but I'm past the point of giving only, if you don't do it for me I definitely won't be doing it for you which sucks because I love pleasuring the person I love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 07:05 AM
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I feel so sorry for your mum. It's the same with my mum in a way... she has picked some awful men i'd say the only good choice has been my dad, maybe her current bf? My dad was the exception, my dad is a wonderful man but he much prefers being on his own (hes met his fair share of LVW)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 11:34 PM
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Even if this were a good thing, theres probably no resources to do it properly anyway. The UK is a mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:52 AM
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In before some clown would reply nOt AlL mEn if this was on any other kind of subreddit. How many women have said no for men to completely ignore it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 12:31 PM
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I've never faked and I never will. My abusive ex used to.complain that i took ages to finish at the end. Ofc im.gonna gind it hard to orgasm if you keep making me cry every day. No thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 08:37 AM
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Ugh. I had a (benign) tumour in my knee. The male dr told me it was a varicose vein and refused to listen to me. Got a second opinion a few months later from a woman doctor, shes been my dr ever since
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 08:30 AM
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This post resonates with me in a very special way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:23 PM
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Absolutely. After getting over the heartbreak of my ex, I slept so god damn well. No more fear, no more anxiety. I used to stay awake all night worrying about him cheating on me (which I could never prove and he would gaslight me about it). I can't ever go back to that way. I will choose to be alone rather than be with a man who has bad habits. Never. Again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 06:19 PM
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Sounds like a man I just ended something with, the whining entitlement... how tiring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 12:04 PM
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They do it because they want to convince themselves they are with a loving partner. They really try hard to convince themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 06:38 AM
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Your dad is a very wise man it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:09 PM
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Can confirm. My first long term partner told me to stop being a "c*nt" in front of our friend because I had asked him a question whilst he was watching blizzcon, I didn't realise he was busy so I said oh sorry its okay never mind. Once he called me that I left our PC room and just went to bed. That was the first step in my eventual exit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:07 PM
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Wow I can feel that womans heartbreak from here. Imagine spending your life with someone you thought was your world, and he turns around and says this because hes had a bad day? Wow. Just wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 07:04 PM
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I have both of these items in my home 😬 not the same colours but you get the idea. I use my pc a lot and the chair is extremely comfortable. I have a chronic pain condition and back pain so the chair is something I would choose over any other thing in my house, and a good quality headset is amazing for music etc. These items arent the things that would put me off a man, it would be everything else. He will most likely have a porn habit (you can tell this by the fact he will make references to po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:41 AM
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You joke but thats what mentally abusive men want rewards for 😂😂 "i dont hit you or rape you" aye cheers for that you still triangulate me and mess with my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 05:29 AM
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This is something I'm trying really hard not to do anymore. When I was dating a diagnosed narcissist (boy I wish he had told me that information beforehand) I remember spending what seemed like hours writing paragraphs spilling my heart out to him on why I didn't blame him but I felt like he had crossed boundaries because he started flirting and talking to a girl all the time, or why he hurt me etc etc. Each time he glanced over it, barely responded and changed the subject to the game he was obs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 07:52 AM
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That is wonderful, he sounds like a lovely lad who cherishes and loves you. I hope you are both very happy together <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 07:50 PM
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Im a nice guy and females. Yup all I need to see to know this guy is a prick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 09:54 AM
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Why are these men so cringey. What losers. Keep track of all of them. Gross asses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 01:15 PM
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i've slept with 3 men in my life. not a single one of them satisfied me. The one I lost my virginity to told me to shut up when I said it hurt. I never slept with him again. The second one wouldn't let me on top or would ever go down on me. The third was a porn addict who could only cum if we were spooning but with my legs crossed so his deathgripped dick could feel anything at all. I made him cum only once by being on top and that was for over an hour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 07:28 AM
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When I left my first serious relationship I was miserable, trapped in another country, living on benefits, I was guilted into staying 3 years longer than I wanted because he said he would die without me. His family were amazing and he was a sweet man who wouldve given me anything I wanted, but he was unmotivated and wanted to spend the rest of his life living on benefits and playing world of warcraft all day. He also wouldve relied on me to look after him when his parents died. I wanted out. I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 10:56 PM
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Ill only date that guy if he fists his own ass. What an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 12:17 AM
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Great letter. I fear its pointless writing this much to a man like that, the type of guy like he is dont tend to care no matter how much we write but I hope this letter was cathartic for you. Don't go back, you are free now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 06:29 AM
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Thank you. Yeah that was a very big part of why we didn't work. I had shown my friends things he'd say and they also felt he was manipulative and gaslighting me often. In the end he even blamed his behaviours on me. Its disappointing, I lost my best friend and feeling a bit lost right now but its definitely for the best. He had some very sweet aspects to him which is why we got on so great, but when things were bad he turned into a completely different person. He's not the worst man I've loved, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:05 AM
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Going through some pretty deep hearbreak right now. I feel the same even though i know he sucks and it would never work. I ended it because we werent compatible, he turned around and said I was unbearably boring and he wanted it to end a week ago, so he made me think I wanted to be the one to end it so it would be "softer" on me. That hes not hurt by it ending and glad. Hes lying of course but it still makes me cry to read. An hour before he was telling me its not over for him, he wants it... Fe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:35 AM
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Hes just looking for an excuse to sleep with other women, this one also helps put his wife down. Two birds with one stone. Eh posts like this just make me sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 06:13 AM
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All these men feeling spiritual in some way lately. Spiritually married... 16 years old. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 07:59 AM
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Isn't it sad. After seeing multiple posts this week on woman subreddits that have come to post about how they are ukranian and have been SA'd since this war started. Woman and children must be evacuated because the most insidious members of the invading army, or even from the target country will always try to take advantage of the vulnerable people they can get close to. My heart goes out to every single innocent person caught up in putins mess. Russians, Ukranians, there are people suffering an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 12:35 PM
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An outsider? The mother of their grandchild is an outsider? People are awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:12 PM
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It's messed up. I told my ex that the one before him had guilt tripped me in to staying for 3 extra years because he would say he wanted to kill himself without me. What did my piece of trash ex do when I left him because he was messaging other girls? He threatened to kill himself. I told his mother immediately and he was furious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:20 AM
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Same here. Insecurities that will never truly fade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 01:14 AM
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He hit himself and cried? Yeah stay well away from a person like that, they are unhinged. Im sorry he wasnt who you initially thought, and I wish you all the best with your abortion, I hope it will be as pain free as possible💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 01:17 PM
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I had to start constantly making notes of my last ex boyfriend. I have fibromyalgia so it affects my memory and he took advantage of that whenever we'd "fight". I say fight, but it was him berating me and me being upset, eventually though I got angry enough to fight back. He used to be vile to me, he would really upset me and then later on I would get confused and I'd wonder if maybe I was over reacting because it was so difficult to remember it all. He'd speak so much at times and it was just t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 08:39 AM
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Agreed. Never again will I be involved with a man whos following models etc. Its just not worth it. Huge turn off for me if they are following a bunch of girls from OF etc. I will write a man off immediately if he does it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:21 AM
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It hurt my heart to read that post this morning. The fact she wants to give up and not have treatment... what an awful man for leaving her all because its too much for him. If he had cancer she would've moved mountains for him no doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:44 PM
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I would have to agree with the study from personal experience, the times I have been with someone it was when a friendship was well established first, and then it would progress in to us both realising that maybe we like each other. I think from both sides of each one neither was attracted to the other initially but then as you start to develop feelings you start to appreciate their looks too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 11:53 AM
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He moved in with a girl he knew for less than 4 months. He was messaging her whilst telling me he still wanted to marry me and move in with me. She left her bf for him. I went NC, havent heard a thing and its been glorious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:03 PM
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Why would being an animator be childish? What a silly guy. If I went on a date with someone and they told me that I'd be fascinated and ask them questions about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 04:44 AM
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Wow thats actually vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:06 AM
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Wait so in order to cum he had to have his prostate violently stimulated???? Like i hope it was his anus that was getting wrecked and not anyone elses cus damn That guy sounds like an absolutelm mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:32 AM
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Oh i don't feel bad, i think hes pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:24 PM
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Wow that sounds horrendous, and imagine the fact that the, reason hes like this is entirely his own fault and completely controllable. I hope he realises the reason for it and does something about it or hes gonna have a lonely life with just his iron gripped fist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 05:08 AM
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Cut off 2 last year. 1 because she started getting weird because I was good friends with a guy she started liking, she got so jealous and started questioning us both if something was going on, started getting her friends to watch us. I won't tolerate that creepy behaviour. Another I was friends with but she ended up supporting a woman who was stalking me and calling me the most disgusting names (because i became friends with her ex). I asked her repeatedly to not talk to me about either of them …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:01 AM
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The animatrix comes to mind, the ai war versus the humans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 05:24 AM
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I've been considering rejoining it to find women in my area to meet and potentially be friends with but with covid lurking again I dont really know if its sensible or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:26 AM
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I actually cannot begin to imagine how it was to be raised by one. I am so sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:52 AM
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I've always disliked how people use being abused as a child as an excuse for doing things. I was abused, I'm not a porn addict, I'm not an abusive partner, I don't groom minors etc. These people make their choices, even as children growing up- they certainly continue that choice when they mature. We all have bad stuff to deal with, why continue that cycle of abuse. Weak willed individuals tbh. I might be a hardass on this topic because of my ex narcs sob story of his bad childhood turning him in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:49 AM
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Realistically he would've wanted a quick fuck then ghosted no doubt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:41 AM
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It feels like if you're at the point where you need to go somewhere and ask for guidance, shits already hit the fan and red flags have been ignored along the way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 10:59 PM
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It 100% works on the types of woman that are extremely easy to abuse and manipulate. I was one of these naïve people, and to be honest I still am naïve, I'm learning slowly but god damn the amount of pain and abuse I've experienced at the hands of men like this. My first ex was in all honesty a good man, he was caring and did look after me but he was also very spoiled by his parents, had no education, played world of warcraft 24/7 and relied on benefits. I myself had a lot of traumas to deal wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 07:52 PM
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Do you ever stop to think how at one point we would've probably just excused them for showing redflags like this? "Ohh he said he has a darkness and hears voices... hes such a damaged soul my love can fix him :)" "Ohh he just said he deserves nothing good in his life? Aww hes so hard on himself, I will make him feel better" "His ex gfs are all abusive and hurt him? Well I'll show him what love is!" No way. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:11 PM
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All I know is there are times that I snore like a bear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 01:08 PM
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At one point he said "I just feel like you don't know how beautiful you are." And I said "No, I know. Thanks though." I love it lmao. What a response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 12:57 AM
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Its irritating. Happened to me yesterday somone said something, i didnt respond so they said oh you fell back asleep. No man I'm doing things around my house get off my case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:07 AM
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6 months or less for my narc ex. i had a pregnancy scare 6 months in to us dating and rather than comfort me he spent the entire time berating me because i went to go make hot chocolate in the kitchen and speak to my dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:24 PM
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Same. My dumb ass was posting to narcissistic places being like can i change him :sob: i know hes good he just needs love and affection hes never had it before.. LMAO like nooooo what the hell was i thinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 06:46 PM
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Shes probably a lost cause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:05 PM
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Even men who are former porn addicts say getting rid of the addiction is worth it, their relationships are so much better after. Was with one, i will never date another man who uses again. Nothing worse than a man who cant cum from anything because hes so desensitized. 🤢 Never again will i spend over an hour bringing some porm addict close repeatedly and have him not able to finish because hes not watching porn. Never again will I allow a man to use my body like a sex toy for ages because he can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 08:50 AM
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I dated a narcissist for 2 years, when I told him that he hurt me by saying xyz he replied "how do you think that makes me feel? you make me feel like such a bad person, youre so horrible" like okay...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 12:56 PM
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Yes you're right. I'm really proud of you too. FDS and the users really do help 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:38 AM
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Ohhhh girl. The hentai alone would be enough to put me off. You dealt with a hell of a lot. I dont mind having friends online, but I have learned my lesson looking for anything further I myself just ended a 6 month relationship with a man I played games with yesterday. Unlike most men I've met online he wasn't a complete porn addicted degenerate. In many ways he was exactly what I was looking for in a partner. The downside was he was controlling and seeked validation for many things. It was tire…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 01:22 AM
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Agreed. Reading those subreddit makes me feel so sorry for those posting about their terrible spouses. Spouses who don't buy them gifts, who don't help at all. Its not just the women I feel sorry for, some of the men post about their wives who sound liike they are nv or lv. All of these people don't deserve to feel so miserable, but theyre all stuck because they settled, because they don't want to be alone. Being alone will always be better than being miserable with someone who doesnt respect yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 02:18 PM
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When I resub I will check this out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:49 AM
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What 45 year old man hangs out with a girl in their 20s as just "friends"? Sounds like an awful experience and I'm sorry you had to block your new friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 12:12 PM
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I would say because sometimes there are posts on here that are rather nasty, and those can be the ones that get the most attention. There have been some comments or posts that I have seen that make me quite sad. I don't like to be nasty to anyone for no reason but there are some things here that get posted and if you question it you get banned which has happened to me already. People believe we most likely hate all men. So many of us came from abusive or unfulfilling relationships so its underst…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 10:41 AM
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And no one around her wanted to protect her from this or what? I couldn't sit by and let even an acquaintance go through with this. She will end up dead yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:24 PM
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You have "friends" to play Overwatch with, but you don't know your friend's birthdays or what they're going through. If they ever reached out for emotional support you would blow them off with a "thats life man." If you acknowledged it at all. When was the last time you felt like you could go to a male friend for emotional support? ​ ​ So god damn true. The guy friends I have most of them are so bloody clueless and give no shits about their other guy friends. You aren't friends, youre just gamin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:41 PM
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Some guys genuinely cringe if you are impressed by the basics. "Its what everyone can do im not special" well true but i had an ex that had to be told to wash his hands after the toilet so my bar is preeetty low
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:32 AM
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Just wow really. Glad he told you he's a cretin 12 hours in. What the bloody hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:12 PM
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That hurts my heart that he said that to her. Poor woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:25 AM
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I actually have a feeling my narc ex wanted this too. He was so pushy to move in. Hope his new gf that let him move countries to live with her <6 months is enjoying being his mother hahah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:11 AM
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God damn no way. More and more women are aging so well. Most girls in my class at school look no way near 30. Most guy look our age and more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 11:27 AM
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Noooooo. I still feel ill reading that one reddit post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:03 AM
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So romantic 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 02:35 PM
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My last ex was a narcissistic porn addict, he would force me to stay up till 6am to search for porn for him to get off. He couldn't cum from sex unless it was a very specific painful way for me. He once even had to watch porn while we had sex but his useless ass still couldnt get off. I am NEVER dating another man that watches it. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:14 PM
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Heard this on the radio last night. Absolutely sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 09:22 AM
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ah yeah blocking is just a miscommunication. whats the deal with men always blocking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 12:45 PM
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"It's hygenic" Okay but have you had a period after ending the day and its all stuck in the hair, its awful and sore. i've had it happen and waxing is more than enough of a reason to avoid that from happening ever again ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:13 PM
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i get a full hollywood every 6-7 weeks for £23. It's fast, cheap and handy. i do it because i feel so yucky with hair especially on my periods (and ive had my periods for 3 months because of medication messing up rn).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 01:19 PM
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I watched this the other day. I hate how I've been through some of this, the lifeless stare in her eyes at the end. Fuck anyone who gaslights and abuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 04:46 PM
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I've never had a ONS, I never will I think. It's just not for me. If others want to thats okay, I won't judge, but not everyone wants or needs these "hoe phases" hah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 08:23 PM
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If they co parent, I'd say thats amazing. Any other situation? Not keen at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:46 AM
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My narc ex did this all the time. Some will do it on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:38 AM
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Getting him a job... letting him move in within 6 months because he had injuries... paid for him. My god this guy is a prick. Explains what shes done for him but down plays it. I hope she leaves him... just wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 01:26 AM
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Do you mean no man has managed it at all? Or just during piv? Ive dated some nerds but i always showed them what i liked to get me off, though they always end up being so lazy and expecting head without reciprocating. Ive only ever climaxed during piv because of something I've done though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 05:13 PM
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I've had a guy immediately say "marry me and dont talk to any other man" because I said I liked dungeons and dragons. Thats a no from me buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:44 PM
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Its so stupid. I cry because I'm upset or overwhelmed with rage. It's not manipulation, I'm crying because you're a dick!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:22 PM
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My first serious ex knew I read certain subreddits at night before bed time. When I first left him and moved back home I found a post that described us exactly. Manipulative bastard was trying to get me to feel sorry for him. On thst account he also spoke about wanting to fuck our old neighbour. Lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:37 PM
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Cats are lovely, my cats a bit of a turd though because he would meow constantly at 4am for food. Follows me on walk though, love that little loud mouth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 02:27 PM
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I've just spent the last few weeks doing this. It ended last night and while im incredibly upset I'm thankful I no longer have to type so much and apologise so much. I just hope the pain will fade soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 01:40 PM
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I've only ever been with people ive already dated so I already have feelings for them. I enjoy it a lot and I like to please the person I'm with and make them happy. That being said, if they don't reciprocate then I won't bother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:06 AM
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I did that. she confirmed what a monster he is. She had it worse than me because she lived with him. She first asked if i was okay and if he hurt me. That says enough tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 07:29 AM
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I bloody love come dine with me. So many different people coming together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 08:54 AM
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Or if you lash out they tell you to stop being so emotional. I hate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 02:40 AM
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100% this. My abusive ex did this and I'd always shrug his comments off and soothe him. Fuck that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:24 AM
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Narcissists are pathetic and pitiful. Death is the best thing for them in all honesty. They are miserable and are frankly awful people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 09:10 PM
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I have always felt guilty for people buying or spending money on me. I paid almost always for my last ex who was an abusive narc. In the end he still called me a gold digger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 12:41 AM
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I loveeee your writing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 11:26 AM
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I hate how relatable it is. My ex was a covert narcissist and only 9 months out of 2 years was happy. He used to "joke" about using his "wife" (me) for kids then killing her- which he denied ever saying. He made a comparison to me causing arguments to someone murdering someone and tampering with the body (weirdest shit ever i still dont make sense of it). Narcissists are fucked up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:14 AM
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His parents are just as bad for allowing him to disappear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 10:43 AM
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Im so sorry. I've been there and its so unbelievably hard ending it with a narcissist. I lost most of my friends in the process, but I made new ones thankfully. The people who believe him are not your friends, they never have been. The only reason my nex didn't harass me was because he knew I had video evidence of him admitting he abused his ex fiancee and other admissions of guilt. He also already had a new supply that he didn't want me to ruin, she was more than happy to get involved in his ta…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 01:07 PM
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You're right, FDS isn't wild. A lot of the principles here are extremely reasonable, I think the problem is with like any other group there are certain members who are more extreme in their views and those views will be the ones outsiders see and assume we're all the same. Also one of the problems is, for some reason women starting to have boundaries and not being doormats is incredibly offensive to some types of men. I've seen it first hand, my ex hated when I started to put myself first, he wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 10:04 PM
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Its incredibly catchy, but my god it is actually the anthem of LVMs. I bet there are some women out there who think its such a romantic sweet song lmao. Also, not forgetting the amazing lyrics: "Know that I can't find nobody else as good as you I need you to stay, need you to stay, hey"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 10:24 PM
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Hopefully she leaves him soon after. Men are not worth playing detective for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 06:59 PM
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That was one stand out part... he doesn't let her sleep more?!? Jesus imagine sharing a child with this guy for the rest of your life. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 08:49 AM
5

Its only your favourite because you probably don't live here. It's a terrible country, England especially. Our justice system is so bad you get more time for stealing money than raping a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:49 PM
15

Yes. My last ex had expressed this before and back then I was so naive and thought love could cure all. I thought I could give him the first real proper experience of love and that with time he would heal and trust women. Waste of time, he was a psychopath and a narcissist. Never again will I stick by someone who says they have a darkness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 03:30 PM
29

I think so far I've known one who has proudly admitted he doesn't. Just one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 07:19 AM
26

True. I left an ex a few years ago, i was miserable for years he knew I was always wanting to leave but always guilted me in to staying. He knew after 6 years together I had a nightly routine of browsing a relationship problems reddit as I found it good to read. Well this guy posted on there and was very specific, crying how I left him and he wanted me back etc. I never acknowledged it, just ignored it because fuxk that, this kind of manipulative shit to try and make me feel bad, like I'd go bac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:40 AM
16

Yes "If I step in and help a woman whos being harrased by a guy, I could get stabbed" as an example.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:56 AM
30

A male friend of mine basically said this to me not long ago when we spoke about not all men... Its eye opening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 12:00 AM
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the ex i used to live with thought our break up was out of the blue, for months i was miserable telling him i wanted to go home but he didnt care because he was happy. out of the blue my arse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:49 PM
18

Girls now have cloacas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:33 AM
20

Pretty much this. Ugh its horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 10:13 PM
68

I play a game online with a group of men, one of them just announced he was execting his second child. People started asking them what gender he would prefer. I said not a girl because men know how other men treat women and no one wants that to happen to their little girl. Most of them agreed with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:33 AM
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I had a step brother. At the age of 5 he encouraged me to roleplay having sex. (Thank god nothing penetrative happened) He forced me to watch his dads porn videos. At around 11 or so when he could drive, i would help him on the farm he used the power and being alone with me to escalate things. He once threw me to the ground and pulled my trousers and underwear down, he laughed while I cried, I thought I was going to be raped - thankfully he didn't do it. The most life changing moment for me was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:19 AM
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Thats mortifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:51 AM
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Agreed. My two serious partners have had severe issues. My dumb ass felt sorry for them and wanted to give them a chance at love. First one was agoraphobic, didn't leave the house after something traumatic when he was out. We met on a game, he was sweet and gentle and we both had traumas so we bonded. When we moved in he would've given me anything I wanted, he was very kind but we both had mental things to work through. In the end, I was ready to face mine and while he got over his agoraphobia h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:22 AM
11

Never knew about the tooth loss... or the cramps after birth. So glad I will never have children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 04:53 AM
22

Lmao so true. My abusive ex who gaslights, torments and hits women was determined he was a good guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 10:09 PM
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This sounds like an absolute dream. I hope youre both very happy together for the rest of your days 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 02:11 PM
3

Might be worth using then finally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:41 PM
3

Why does he want to kick us in to traffic for being cold???? This guy seems like he's unhinged... ​ For real though, not cool to steal someone elses food off the plate, if I want to give you some of my food I'm gonna ask you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:17 AM
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How many times have we sat there while an mentally abusive partner takes advantage of us and we say "well at least they don't hit me, I'm really lucky!". God no. Never again, give me the best of you or take a hike.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 08:05 AM
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Someone Facebook posted about her and how men should help ease our worries when out. Loads of men replied "why should i go out of my way... blahblah. Not all men" honestly im sick of it. I shouldn't have to send my mother my location when im walking my dog through a quiet wooded area, but theres every chance something may happen to me. Men argue "but we are also afraid to go out at night incase we get stabbed (by other men)" and its like, okay but are you scared to go out alone during the day? 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:44 PM
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Not just that, the way he says it implies he doesn't even love her... "Would you still love me if i was x?" Aka "dont blame me for not loving you, you would feel the same way if it was me". Ye dude cus this guy getting fat is the exact same thing as his fiancee carrying his child. Jesus this poor woman...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 05:14 AM
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Oh yeah. My last ex... all his previous gf were abusive and crazy. Fell for that line. When he would call me autistic, retarded, stupid when I would say anything he didn't like I would justify it... "oh he's had no experience in a healthy relationship before, its going to take time for him to be able to express things in a healthy way, its okay I will be there for him, he deserves someone to treat him with kindness" When we would fight (him being horrible to me and me saying that it hurts my fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:54 PM
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This is something i would've done for my ex yikes.... i always put him over myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 05:51 PM
19

Its either one or the other right? Ive had both ends of the spectrum, I can't decide which one was worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 12:48 AM
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but he could text and call when I finally dumped him and told him I needed time without contact. That's because you set a boundary and a narcissist cant handle those. I did the same, told him I needed time away from him because he hurt me yet again and he was constantly messaging me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:55 PM
11

Ugh hoovering. I dated a narcissist too and I hope he never ever tries to hoover me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 12:54 PM
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I hate it so much. My ex would bite me (left me with bruises) and pull my hair then he would kind of choke me but would grab my jaw/neck and turn my head to force me to look at him when he came during sex (because he could only cum in a certain position because he had serious death grip and was generally useless). I will never let another man do that to me. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 12:06 AM
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I almost fell for that shit,my ex threatened to leave me if i didnt agree to start trying for a family, had we still been together he would've wanted me to start trying now. People who threaten to get their way are awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:47 PM
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He wouldn't have given a shit about her if he was happy with the outcome lets be honest. If she had been miserable but still able to work that high paying job he would be fine, but because he has to work long hours and not get sex he's regretting it. Fuck that guy, he ruined his wifes life and his kids. Those kids will never be treated with the love they deserve because the wifes in pain and didnt want them in the first place and daddy dearest relies on his mum to look after the kids. Awful stor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:43 PM
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Very true. You want someone that wants the same things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:13 AM
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They made the dirty john story in to a tv show. Watched it shortly after my breakup from a narcissistic lying sociopath. Such horrible guys really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:09 AM
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Yikes. She must really hate herself subconsciously. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:01 AM
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Eh scottish people use it pretty often too myself included, i don't find it offensive most of the time unless its aimed at me in a nasty way. Example: i can say to my group of friends in a friendly way "hey cunts" but then my ex bf can get annoyed with me for asking a question whilst hes watching blizzcon and me not realising and saying dw it can wait till after and him saying "why are you being a cunt right now?" In front of our friend. Thats one way that insults me, and was one of the final na…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:16 AM
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She just described my ex entirely 😂😂😂 those ridiculous pillows that are old and as flat as a pancake... buying a grown ass man pillows for his bed smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 02:07 AM
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My ex was average at best but he really needed that ego boost. His poor little narcissist brain knew he was below average in every other way 😌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 08:23 AM
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😂 i love the angle. And oh my god my last ex always wanted me to tell him he was the biggest, so cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:55 AM
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"No doesnt mean no.... just take me by force already " Oh my fucking god. 🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:47 AM
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I spent months crying myself to sleep either next to him or whilst we were on a call at night (what started off as something cute turned in to a habit that allowed him to make sure he knew where i was at all times) and i'd try to be quiet and not make it obvious so that he wouldnt be bothered but sometimes he'd hear and question me and i'd deny it, because what was the point, he didn't care anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:54 AM
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right??? doubt they will ever actually care or understand though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:50 AM
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How gorgeous is the woman in that video though... This guys a real asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:59 AM
1

This is the type of shit my narcissist ex would pull on me. Absolutely infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:45 AM
1

Yup had that happen to me before 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 01:36 AM
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I love her so much. The penguin imitation 😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:48 PM
10

He did not have a chance to disappoint me this year as I ended it with him last year. ​ This year I had a great day by myself and the dog i look after. Last year I was waking up in dread expecting nothing from him after months of him treating me like shit and a break up for a day the month before. Me giving him thoughtful gifts and being affectionate and him giving me some terrible generic gift you'd buy in some petrol station but I tried to be grateful anyway. Then slaving away for him doing wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:38 PM
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This makes me really sad to read. How can this person even admit how much of a bad spouse he is to people, even if its anonymous. Embarrassing, and she deserves so much better. ​ "Waaah shes more of a mother than a wife now" Well what do you expect shes had two of your damn kids/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:14 PM
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Just described my ex almost perfectly. Didn't need him, certainly won't need anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 10:29 AM
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Absolutely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:55 AM
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BuT mEn arE vIsUaL cReAtuReS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:59 PM
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I've seen both sides to this coin and I would say that if you yourself are not into games then absolutely, it's best you don't date a gamer. Typically those who play games all the time do it because they want to escape from their problems, that means it's difficult to have a healthy relationship with a gamer because they avoid their problems rather than work on them, and that means they will avoid any problems in the relationship. I had one long term serious partner that I met on a game, he was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 06:24 PM
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IKR. My immediate thought was "no i'm good i'd rather not"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:44 AM
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Yeah you're probably right. My good ex (who I'd say was mostly a HVM) never used porn, or certainly didn't make it obvious. My abusive narcissist lvm was obsessed with porn to the point of making me stay awake till 6am to find him links to watch yuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 07:44 AM
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Curious to read it. Can't see much of the news article as its filled with ads on my phone. These brave women all came together. Wish the women who all endured my ex could do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 02:17 AM
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oh but how they do try!
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