Men and women who are struggling with insecurities should seek partners who also are struggling with insecurities and are critical thinkers. I believe insecure people are the best people who can understand the struggles of another insecure person and offer empathy. Other good criterias would include radical empathy, critical minds that question progressive norms like hookup culture, value paternal certainty and biological fatherhood, people who couple sex with emotional attachment, and other morals and values you hold.

I believe society is just toxic towards insecure folks like us and will make a larger post about insecurities and cultural norms later. But I don't think the dating issues we face are to be blamed on women but something specific that is dividing men and women. I think the best way to combat these things we ought to team up with women to secure the culture we want. Again I will make a larger post later