So how pervasive is this rape thing?

plentyofrabbits · 2014-10-28T21:24:54+00:00

I cannot of course speak for all women (generalizations being what they are) but I can speculate that yes, at the very least, most women are afraid to be raped. As a survivor of rape, allow me to elaborate on why:

it is the single most violating thing another person can do to you - to assert their own will over your bodily autonomy in spite of your protests or inability to consent.
in most cases, we're aware that our rapist will be someone we know, someone we thought we could trust, someone we felt safe with.
in many cases, if we report the crime we will be asked humiliating and irrelevant questions by the police, the defense attorney, possibly the press. In the most media-covered cases, our rape (a crime committed upon our person) will be a topic of household and online debate.
In some cases, you may become pregnant (I did). You may then be faced with the choice of what to do about the foetus. It was easy for me, to decide to terminate the pregnancy. However, being 14 years old and walking through the crowd of protesters around the clinic who called me a whore and a murderer was much more traumatic. Being treated like the scum of the earth by the doctor who performed the termination was icing on the cake. Similarly, the assertion by: my parents, my grandparents, and the police that I was "crying rape" to "get out of" being pregnant was an additional trauma of that experience.
You never forget. It never goes away. It may damage your ability to deal with men at all. You may develop PTSD. Your personal relationships will suffer.
People on the internet like your RP comrades will then discuss how you probably just changed your mind afterward, how the criminal who assaulted us is really the victim, and how in certain cases consent either doesn't exist or doesn't matter.

bangwhimper · 2014-10-28T16:15:14+00:00

"Honestly, either women keep this a really big secret, because no one of my friends or acquaintances actually knows about this,"

Are these friends and acquaintances women? From the phrasing, it doesn't sound like it.

Just talk to a woman about this -- any woman at all. Talk to multiple women. I guarantee you that most of them will express their fears concerning rape. I never knew women walked around afraid of it until I started asking them about it. Then, I quickly learned that the vast majority of women in my life -- feminists or not -- have these fears. And that fucking sucks.

cuddlemonkey · 2014-10-28T16:30:44+00:00

Every new man I meet, or every time I find myself alone with a male acquaintance, I instinctively remind myself that

a) he might try to rape me, and I should be prepared to try and stop him, and

b) he probably won't try to rape me.

Fireface82 · 2014-10-31T03:00:40+00:00

I'm rarely on edge about being raped, especially in normal situations. It's mostly paranoia that causes me to think about the subject (much like a fear of being mugged or murdered) and even then I know that I'm more than capable of handling myself in most situations. Despite that, there still certainly is the fear that (be it by someone's careful planning or simply by being in the wrong place at the wrong time) something of that nature might happen to me.

barkafas2 · 2014-10-29T02:25:16+00:00

So exactly how many men know about this?

barkafas2 · 2014-10-28T20:28:24+00:00

So as a guy who can be really paranoia, how am I supposed to view women now? On one hand I see that I should treat women with more respect and I probably scared some women in the past by doing stupid things or getting mad at them but on the other hand I also know there are a lot of evil women out there. Just like some men are good and some are evil. I see a lot of good men being oppressed by women but I guess it doesn't matter because men are more physically strong?

Are women afraid of all men? And how do you know when you're going too far and which women have the most fear etc?? Do they actually think about history and how women were oppressed or is it more of a present fear based on what their mothers told them?

It's pretty confusing. I don't really get it.

Title	So how pervasive is this rape thing?
Author	barkafas2
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Date	October 28, 2014 3:13 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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