I've read the handbook and I know this is generally a deal breaker. I'm 32, but observing the younger men, (26-30), I'm noticing this trend of "nice guys" who genuinely have many female friends. Many male friends too... but MORE female friends. And they're all "besties". Take selfies together hugging, kissing cheeks, etc. I get the vibe these women aren't sexually attracted to these guys but I KNOW the men are attracted to them because... Well, men... It makes me uncomfortable to see a man I'm dating have clearly established relationships with other women that include hugging, kissing, drinking and selfies. I don't trust that they aren't sexualizing them or jerking off to their facebook/ig photos. I guess what I'm confused about is what is considered a healthy relationship with the opposite sex in a HVM? I always thought positive relationships with other females indicated respect for women and an understanding of them but after getting burned so long, I no longer trust any man with other women. Will a HVM not have these kinds of relationships? Or what would healthy female relationships look like with a HVM?