Idk how to date

2019-10-10T07:52:01+00:00

What counts as a date depends on YOUR definition of a date. When I was your age I used to go on a lot of beer and coffee dates. That used to set the standard for the whole relationship - a low effort first date shows them that you are not too demanding, and throughout the relationship the effort they put in will only continue to sink. In my personal experience (which might be completely different to yours) going out for dinner is an ideal first date. You can pick the food but let him pick the restaurant. The choice of the restaurant will tell you soo much about them and you can decide if you want to continue to date them. If they invite you, let's say for coffee, but you expect more from a potential boyfriend, you can always say "I go for coffee with my friends, so if you wanna stay just that, sure".
At your first few dates you are probably going to feel uncomfortable just standing up and leaving, so you might say anything from "my way home is very long, I should get going" to have someone call you and tell you that there is an emergency, but eventually you'll realize that you dont owe men ANYTHING. You are free to stand up and go, obviously in a polite manner. Just say "I'm sorry, I just don't feel like we're hitting it off. No point in wasting neither your nor my own time, so I better get going". You will feel like a damn queen saying this the first time.
Although in theory you should be yourself, in my own experience you should not show your 100% on a first date. Keep in mind that you definitely shoudlnt pretend to be someone you're not. If he likes comics or a certain movie and you don't, don't act like you do and don't act like you might like it in the future. You know you don't and you know you won't, end of the story. And for your actual question, before you say something or react a certain way, simply ask yourself "Is this something I want to reveal about myself right now?". You can also consider how you would feel if a guy told you certain things so early. For instance sexual jokes are funny later in the relationship, but might make a person very uncomfortable in the begining..

xWYA · 2019-10-10T14:39:01+00:00

I think if you say you have plans during or before the date happens it might help ending the date at a certain time. You could also be honest and say how you feel if you're tired or just by saying something like it was nice meeting & good luck to them.

noonecaresat805 · 2019-10-10T03:29:04+00:00

It’s a date when one of you calls it a date. Or one of the two day let’s go out on a date. Other than that I take it as getting to know each other. Always do coffee as the first meet that way it won’t be super long. If you don’t feel like your interested in the person you can leave after you both finish your coffee. If your hitting it off then after the coffee you can go do something else. And there’s nothing wrong with being yourself.

Title	Idk how to date
Author	gothboicliqer
Upvotes	7
Comments	4
Date	October 10, 2019 3:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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