it’s okay to hurt men’s feelings when their hurt feelings are the result of you acting in contradiction to their sense of entitlement. it’s okay to not smile, it’s okay to refuse to be sexy or to refuse to perform femininity, it’s okay to say no to sex, in fact, it’s always okay to say no in general. men expect women to be visually pleasing, emotionally supportive, and deferential to their masculine superiority. it’s okay to not be any of those things.