How many women stand back and ask themselves this when they enter relationships? Sure, we think about it subconsciously, but when’s the last time you stopped what you’re doing and actively made a mental note of this? I believe that this question is so important, and the lack on inquiry about it, is one of the major causes of unnecessary stress and disappointment with regards to our relationships with men.

At every step of your relationship or marriage, this is a question that you need to be asking yourself. In fact, this question should ideally begin before the relationship even starts. And it’s why I’m a huge advocate for women dating multiple men at the same time. It can be stressful and exhausting, but at the end of the day, it is the only thing that brings on the rewards that you as a woman have been seeking.

You need to evaluate every guy that you’re dating on these very important qualities: - Attractiveness and fitness - Confidence and ambition - Sacrifice and generosity - Goal orientation - Kindness and responsibility

I believe that these 5 things are the ideal traits that every woman should look for in a partner. And men that fall too far off each requirement should be cut off without sex or reciprocation.

Do not let any guy or anyone shame you for dating multiple men at once. Tbh, chances are that so is he and he is likely being hypocritical with regards to judging you for doing precisely what he’s doing. It’s neither his or anyone’s business who and who you’re dating. A lady does not kiss and tell. Tell him that it’s none of his business and that it would benefit you and his’s relationship with each other if he focused solely on the relationship that you two are building together. If he bristles and prefers to leave, communicate good riddance and get him out of your life.

As a woman that knows what value you bring, you need to ensure that the man that is joining you along the ride is on par with you and can keep up. If he’s slacking, he either needs to shape up or fall off.