Hello brothers.
First of all, I am sorry if my grammar is not that good, English isn't my native language.
Im 25 years old, recently broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years.
She was a great girl, loving, caring, beautiful, sex was awesome, amazing chemistry and all that good stuff.
The problems began when we started to look forward, to the future. she said she is not in a hurry to get married and have kids, and all that, but she wants to be a young momma (27-28) and family for her is the true meaning of life.
Our relationship was very honest so I didn't have a problem to tell her my opinions on that. Even before I knew MGTOW, before I knew her, I knew that I'm not going to get married until I will fulfil my personal selfish life goals, and if that means I won't get married at all, so fuck it, let it be. The idea of marrige is something that I doubt from a young age, around 19-20. She said she respects that, and she wants me to be happy and achieve my goals without being in a rush to get married. So basically, it's all good, no rush.
2 months ago, I discovered the whole idea of the red pill, and a short time after that - MGTOW.
Suddenly, I felt that all my recent feelings, instincts and ideas are shaped into a philosophy, ideology, a real way of life.
I dived in, and started to explore. Watched a lot of Sandman, Richard Cooper, Elliott Hulse, Jordan Peterson, Rollo Tomassi and more. I absorbed every tine piece of information and insparation and created my own form of belief.
I do not agree on every thing those guys had to say, but I combined what i learned and still learning to my own way of life.
When I shared my spiritual journey with my girlfriend, about how men fucked up in this modern world
How the balance is ruined.
How matter (Feminism) is running the world and all men are after it.
How women can't and don't want to accept that male and female are not the same, but still want to be equal only when it's comfortable to them.
How men consider success based on materialistic accomplishments only.
How men must reconnect to thier primal instincts, just a little, just to be MEN again, and not disposable rags that value themselves based on what considered successful in the eyes of women and social media which is the biggest cancer of this world in my opinion.
And instead... Men must connect to themselves. Disocver their masculinity again, their meaning, what makes them happy and improve their own lives which will automatically improve the lives of theirs sorrounding. Then, Men will be happy, and women will discover their feminism back again. Beacause Feminism today is fake, it's bullshit. It's just women try to be more masculine.
Once we will stop empowering women to run this world based on their modern "feminin"/materialistic principles, and start empowering ourselves to run this world by something more meaningful than matter, balance will be restored.
Im not talking about religion by the way, beacause religion today is also driven by the same materialistic purposes.
Im talking about self-improvment for the sake of self-growth. Once true growth will be achieved individually, a common growth of spirit, mind and matter will be achieved globally.
Once she heared all that. She was shocked.
She said she doesn't agree with my ideas, and of course that we are all equal and the world as it is today for a reason, and men and women are the same. I'm not going to expand on this to much, but the point is, she didn't truly understood what I'm trying to say, and with that she understood she doesn't agree.
Anyway, we talked, we argued, and we mutually decided after a couple of days-week that we both love each other, but we will not be able to live under the same roof and manage a healthy relationship when we see the world and life in such different ways. We broke up.
I still love her, and miss her sometimes. I see a lot of people hating and resenting on their previous relationships... But I don't. We had an amazing relationship, but love is not everything.
Now, I'm single.
I'm focused on myself and I'm trying to become the best version of myself.
I breathe better, I work out harder, I appreciate the smaller things in life I didn't appreciate before.
Im feel more complete since I discovered MGTOW and the red pill.
I'm not looking for anyone, I'm not looking at anyone, and I don't hate anyone. I don't have an experience that will make me hate or resent women. I believe this whole world is unbalanced, but, this community, this is might be something that is right. I think there are still MGTOW's that are missing the true idea, and not seeing the bigger picture outside of their own personal experience of divorce, bad relationship, or any other dissappointment, but that's just my opinion.
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What she heard you say: I won't father your babies. That is all she wants from you. She can't get that from you then she's gone. You Found out that in the future, no matter what you and she disagree about her intent is/was to leave you and move on to someone who will give her what she wants. She never loved you.
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