TITLE - Porn youth broke my relationship

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7 almost 8 years of relationship. We met in our late 20s, we’re now both in our mid 30s. I always allowed his porn watching, which I thought was better than most guys usage; he only looked at the webpage “kindgirls” which is naked photos of young women. I suppose I didn’t mind in the beginning bc I looked like them, but as I’ve aged I no longer look like them. Anyway, Given the porn out there I was actually grateful that’s all he looked at.

Flash forward to us being 35 year old adults. He out of the blue tells me he wants to break up because he’s “no longer attracted to me”. And then I find out he went on a date last week with a fit, beautiful 29 year old, who honestly looks just like me in my early 20s. I feel dead. So angry and sad.

I hate porn culture. I don’t know if it’s the sole reason for him wanting to break up with me but we had it good for so many years until... I gained weight. And I’m not huge, I am 5’3 and 200lbs but I carry it well in my hourglass figure. I feel fine. Also, he knows I gained weight bc of a thyroid problem. And btw, he’s been a fat guy since we met. He’s still fat and I have never cared! I just feel awful. I don’t know what to make of all of it. I feel so rejected and so sad.

I’m posting here bc y’all seem to understand feminism as it really is, and I feel discarded for a younger “hotter” version of myself. I feel sick. And sad. Please help.

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Comments:

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- The same scenario is going to repeat itself with the new woman, and unless he's extremely wealthy he's not going to be able to keep finding replacements.

- So essentially he never wanted a deep and meaningful relationship with a partner he could evolve with, he wanted an eye candy reflection of the porn he watches. I’m sorry this happened to you. I’m sorry it was for so long. Just don’t blame yourself for any “time lossed”, I know how easy it is to do that.

- Im so sorry I know this must hurt so much, but you hit the nail on the head, he is fat and a mess and aged too. You know how many amazing guys love an older woman? Im 40 now and trust me those worth your time will see the value in you. Your ex is a pathetic cliche who will likely end up sad and lonely. You will find someone who will treasure you.

- It's a good wake up call to the fact that men (not most, all) are shit.

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Is there anything more delusional than a woman? Has any woman in the history of the world been dumped and it NOT be the guys fault?