Think I discovered the truth a little too late. Married 5 years, 1 year old son who is freaking awesome. Things with the wife are not nearly as bad as most situations described here but I feel like married life is really a raw deal overall.

Tired of her bitching about money whenI make more than twice what she makes we have no debt, 6 months living expenses in the bank and retirement plans that are on track between my IRA and both our 401ks. Even a college fund started for the little man.

Basically she wants a bigger house and a new car but cannot afford it and thinks I should pay for this shit when I am more inclined to save and prep for retirement.

Full disclosure I do allow myself occasional treats like golf clubs, or a new gun, country club membership, ect. But I work hard for it and pay in cash and take care of the family and our future.

Just kind of tired of the nagging and all my time being about doing things she wants done; lawn, yard work, projects around house, stupid parties with her friends and family, ect.

Sort of feel like this is a bit of test from her wanting to assert more control over our finances.... honestly I will never be the husband who hands over the paycheck, I will maintain control as best I can.

Miss the freedom of being single .... however, overall things are pretty good and I will not raise my child in a broken home the way I grew up if I can avoid it.

Thoughts , tips or advice on covering my ass and staying in the drivers seat?

Pretty sure I will get trolled for this post, but worth it if some of the experienced guys on here can share some wisdom.