My (21M) gf (20F) wants to break up because she wants to travel and have adventures. Also wishes she met me later on in her life (when she is done with her adventures)

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She says she's young and she would like to travel, meet new people, have experiences, adventures, etc without any emotional constraints. She said to me "You are someone I wanna end up getting settled with. You are the perfect guy. I want to have other experiences without any emotional commitments and I don't expect you to wait for me till that's over." I told her I didn't understand this. And asked how I would be inhibiting her from these things she wants to do? And she gave me some analogy of how excess applications on a phone (relationships) drain the phone's battery (her energy) and she wants to use that energy in some other place(being young and travelling, etc). She said wishes she met me later on in her life as I am the type of guy she wants have a future with.

I started questioning myself about why she must be feeling that way. Why she can not do all these things while we are together? And I felt like maybe I unknowingly prevented her from doing something. So I asked her if she ever felt I put any boundaries upon her in anyway during our time together and she said, " Not at all. And that is exactly why I want to be with you/someone like you in the future. "

I do not exactly understand what the situation is from her point of view. I would appreciate if someone could explain to me what she might be going through. I would like to understand HER perspective. I really like her and do not feel like I want to end this so also suggest if there's anything I can do to fix this. Is this even fixable?

Asking for an advice because I feel like I'm just a 20 year old kid, and this issue seems much more complex and adult. This is something I have no idea how to get through or even react to.

TLDR: Gf wants to break up because she wants to travel and have adventures rather than waste her energy in a relationship.

EDIT: Thank you for your responses. This has been very helpful. I just wanted to understand her point of view. I found the responses from other women and from someone who has been in this situation even more helpful in understanding that.

I do not think this is only about sex. She is very honest and open about things. I think she would have laid that out if it was about sex and the talk would have been more straightforward. I understand it is very difficult to judge a person from a few lines. But she has a very creative and adventurous personality so I think she just wants to travel and live in different cities for months and not have to worry about her ties to me.

I HAVE DECIDED TO LET HER GO. I am waiting on some accepts for graduate schools (masters). I hope I get into one and move on to have my own adventures there.