Hey guys,
I'm 21 years , out of school and just waiting for my apprenticeship to start as a system electronics technician, which starts in roughly 3 months.

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Ever since i stopped masturbating i feel more confident, emotionally stable, more outgoing, i have more stamina, and i am more naturally aggressive but i also got an urge to meet women and have a future Son.

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It got so bad that i was like „fuck man i don't care what happens to me. I just want to have a Son who does soccer(football) or boxing and I raise him to become a great athlete and put all my resources into him. He can also learn from my mistakes because I sure as hell did a couple of those and I don't care if I get divorce raped or anything I just want a Son”

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I realized now that it is really stupid to do that but also that I shouldn't force my dreams onto my Son and instead support him to do whatever he wants to do, except if it is playing video games all day (without earning money from it).

My question is how do I stop those thoughts from coming back?

I don't want to start masturbating again or having to do a vasectomy.

I think, since it is a natural instinct to reproduce I can not really suppress those thoughts but still maybe I'm wrong and there is a way so suppress them.

thanks in advance