Bad relationship pattern

DaveC111 · 2019-04-12T19:02:53+00:00

Simple. GYOW.

Astral-Projector · 2019-04-12T18:35:47+00:00

They all had drama in the past, abusive or loser exes and If there is no drama they create it. Todays cumdumpsters are seriously fucked in the head. Its all projection.

DWShimoda · 2019-04-12T20:47:01+00:00

How can I teach her to have such a relationship?

Wrong fucking subreddit... try /r/relationship_advice or some other simp-cuck "advice" subreddit.

2019-04-12T18:06:56+00:00

You cant teach her
No one knows
Yes, you break up or have the 0.00000000001% where she listens.

Lambert_1357 · 2019-04-12T18:27:17+00:00

I was considering asking some advice on my predicament too but I think deep down I know the answer. It’s more complicated and iv not got time for a mega long paragraph but long story short, as long as a girl has ex’s it will inevitably cause problems for you, your never be truly happy and content with each other unless your the only ones each others been with. Every relationship iv had has had drama from ex’s and it puts a guy down so stay away, no girl with a sexual past is worth it

amarmerada · 2019-04-12T18:33:01+00:00

If you know this sub well and still choose to date her, I have a feeling you know I first have to tell you it’s probably not worth it. But I also have a feeling you’ll do it anyways: so before I say more keep a few things in mind: DONT let YOU paying for HER shit become an intrinsic part of the relationship. Try to stop this early on, and see how she feels when she’s gotta pay for her own food/taxi/drinks etc. A relationship is a partnership, no party should have unequal material or financial gain from a relationship, what you give to each other needs to be emotional and intellectual in value.

On the topic of “teaching her”, you can’t teach her if she doesn’t want to learn. But you can start by sitting her down and outlining your concerns and getting her to agree to talking issues over straightforwardly as they arise instead of letting them fester into drama. If a unicorn exists, she’ll listen to you. Let her know that however uncomfortable she is, you’d rather just know about it than have to figure it out. Then define your own values. Reflect on what you need from her: could be personal space and freedom, time, reliable methods of contacting her or seeing her often, whatever it is YOU need and want. Ask her what she needs from you and try your best to have a logical discussion about it where you can come to a solution. The rest is just sitting down and not putting up with her bullshit when it comes up. She does something that starts drama? Calmly and kindly point out the ways it was unnecessary, overdramatic, or untimely and ask her why she did what she did/ brought up what she brought up in those ways. If she keeps shutting down and not engaging in conversation in a constructive manner, tell her that she’s not giving you what you need or putting the right kind of work into the relationship to keep it healthy, and walk away.

BadWardrobe · 2019-04-12T19:15:27+00:00

A word to the not so wise about your little girlfriend: do what you need to with her then broom her fast.

Batman_MGTOW · 2019-04-12T21:45:04+00:00

You can change women but you cant teach them through words, only through actions because women only respect your actions not your words. If you want her to treat you well, give her less attention, ghost her a bit, then she will wonder what she did wrong and chase after you to apologize, this way you have the power. So whenever she causes drama or a useless fight or shit tests you, you withdraw your attention. And if at any point in the relationship, she cheats on you with someone else or has a childish tantrum, dump her immediately. If she does not like when you ghost her and tries to prevent you from doing that, dont let her words affect you, still carry out the plan.

Another thing that you can do which is much more simple is just pump and dump, you can enter relationships and leave them when they get as bad as right now, when you are no longer drawing value from the relationship, you can move on to the next girl until she does the same and then to the next, and you can repeat the process for as long as you like. As long as your LMS is high enough, you will always have a vast supply of high quality women to date so you will never run out of options. Always remember that you are the prize not her, and that she will chase after you if you withdraw your attention. The best way to build attraction with a woman who likes you is to give her minimal attention and get her hooked on it, then let her chase you and give her as little attention as possible until the point where she is begging you to have sex with her, at which point you can easily do it and then date her until she stops providing you with the value that you seek, at which point you move on.

I feel like this is the best way to be a MGTOW without doing something as robotic and detached as a pump and dump while also not making the mistake of settling down and getting trapped. If more men did this, less men would be on the plantation, women would treat us with respect, and we would get what we want without all the drama that women bring to most men.

ForNowICanSee · 2019-04-12T23:51:07+00:00

She’s not yours, OP. It’s just your turn. The meter is running and it’ll be over soon. All women do this.

MGTOWch · 2019-04-13T07:49:08+00:00

Beware of girls with ex orbiting, friends or lovers, as these kind of girls are drama driven and can’t handle rejection and behing left alone (so they rely on ex to have « love-attention »).

You can try to train her by telling her no and standing your ground as much as possible. But be prepared to leave and get rid of her in every part of your life.

FoxtrotUniformDelta · 2019-04-12T21:25:55+00:00

She feeds off the drama, consciously or subconsciously. You cannot and will not change it. I don't need to know you or the girl to know this as fact.

If you persist you will be chipped away at and gaslighted into thinking her actions are ok or bearable. A relaxed, easy going guy is cannon fodder for any kind of female drama.

You can convince yourself she's not that bad or not like that. The truth is she is and always will be. She might get better at putting a mask over it but it'll slip out the more and more you get committed.

Continuing the relationship is a terrible idea.

Title	Bad relationship pattern
Author	EnvironmentalFact2
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	April 12, 2019 6:02 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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