Not sure about you guys, but I love to dance. The only real place to let loose is the club.

I used to be blue pulled and thought I would get the ladies at the club and failed at it. I had the wrong mindset; instead of having fun and dancing, I was chasing tail and failing.

So I made a shift to just have fun and go wild. It's weird, I've noticed that once I stop chasing the ladies and started having fun, they naturally come to me. Also, once you start going to the same spot every week, you get to know the DJ and let him know what songs work and what don't. I swear the highlight of every week is Friday night.

For those who do want to chase tail, here's some observations I've noticed that may help you:

  1. For some reason, girls love to take video, especially when you have any decent moves. I've been filmed on several occasions, although sometimes I feel like a monkey performing for an audience. Anyways, you can capitalize on this and chat up the girls that are filming you and go from there.

  2. Go solo. Trust me, I've tried bringing other male friends. It just becomes weird because the friend will always want to chase the tail. When you're solo, you can go wild without having to worry about your buddy. Caveat: if you have a good crew with high energy, then that's the golden ticket. Having a good crew where everyone is having fun will naturally make the ladies want to come over.

  3. Girls love attention. So either you're solo or in a crew, but eventually a circle will form on the floor. If you go in the middle, kill it with your moves, and then pull in a girl in the middle, she will love the attention. Once she's done showing off, you can compliment/flirt with her, etc... She'll be more receptive to you because you showed confidence in your moves.

  4. Don't be a sideline noob. Sideline noobs are the guys who just stand around and get a drink, chill and watch. When they see a cute girl, they wiggle around a bit and ask her to dance. The problem with this approach is that the less dancing you do, the more talking you'll have to do. Clubs are loud as fuck, so you have to pull to say anything. Communicate with your body, see steps 1-3.

4.1) Also, don't associate yourself with sideline noobs. I've made the mistake of talking to them and then the think you're their best buddy and they follow you around on the dance floor. Be polite, but remember, the goal is to have fun, don't anchor yourself with sideline noobs.

It'll be tough sometimes. I've had occasions where everyone around me is in their own groups and I'm just in the middle. The key is to not let it get to your head and just have fun.