Cope with feeling empty

aventadorlp · 2020-01-12T15:10:19+00:00

99.99999% of women will be this way, you might find one that ends up (they never start like this) loving you for all your stupid habits quarks etc but why make yourself depressed trying to find that .00001% one? You should understand how bad your life could be simply by marrying someone that doesnt love you respect you as a man etc. And feel good about it. I know from experience that im 200% better off gmow than i would be stuck in horrible relationships...so im happy.

I now focus all my time and energy on me. I workout daily, i eat clean and healthy, i read books, i invest my money and take care of myself by shopping, haircuts, grooming etc. It never ends though, you should always have a plan. A man without a plan is not a man.

holidaysboots · 2020-01-12T15:19:16+00:00

The older you get, the more self-sufficient you become. You're very young. In time the feelings you have will fade away. I was like that until my late-20s. After a certain point you stop giving a fuck.

silly_birb · 2020-01-12T15:11:57+00:00

People needs things to look up during the week.

In the past a man had a family, he worked hard all day looking up to going back home where he would find his loving wife and children.

This allowed men to keep working hard for a lifetime.

Today it's not possible, so you need to find something else, usually hobbie that you can share with friends or by yourself.
It's not as good as building a family ofc but it's still the better option when compared to a miserable life where your ex wife is using your money to fuck drug dealers while your children are watching/hearing.

Workshop_Gremlin · 2020-01-12T15:50:45+00:00

You define the meaning of your life. Right now your defining it based on getting the unconditional love of a woman who was never there as you were going through the toughest parts of your struggle and who probably won't be around once things get tough again.

I'm going to assume your family stood by you and supported you as worked your ass off to get to where you are now, so why not make them what gives you meaning in your life or those who supported you and you know will continue to be there for you when the tough days come again. Or yourself, continue to work hard because you deserve a better life.

As an aside, you're 21. It's normal to be lost and confused at that age with regards to what to do with your life. We've all had to figure things out at that stage. If you've managed to pull yourself and your family into a middle class existence then you're probably well ahead of curve than the rest of us at that age. You're doing just fine.

stoopididoit · 2020-01-12T16:09:09+00:00

One of our most difficult lessons in life (one many never learn) is learning to be content with yourself. There is a yearning built into you. It is that yearning that is responsible for the propagation of our species so of course it's very powerful. It's found in the work of poets, singers and theater throughout history so it's certainly not trivial.

That said, if you want to be the master of your own fate rather than a slave to your feelings you must be content with yourself and who you are. Even if you wanted to find a mythical nawalt and roll the dice on it working out you should be content with yourself first

PrinceRaj53 · 2020-01-12T15:30:56+00:00

how do you cope with the feeling that you’ll never find a woman who will love you for who you are?

Simple : By not dwelling in the high school nerdy nonsense about "romantic love" and all that.

You should be your mental point of origin, not women. Right now, you are far off course and dont have a permanent fix on your mental point of origin, and hence the fantasy is still inside your head trying to influence you subconciously, while you slowly give in to that fantasy.

Try to feel less and start thinking more . A man's feelings are his worst enemy, remember that.

Talking about myself, I don't get such unusual thoughts because my focus is never on women or "why they wont love me!!!", because I already know that such weird things like "romantic love" and all that nonsense that me and my friends talk about in high school are just some stupid fantasy. Life is not a romantic novel, nor is it a disney movie, right? What we see in reel life, specially about women, are simply not true in real life . Because society, religion, parents etc tell us the things about life that we in particular want to hear. They wont tell us the truth directly because all these variables in a man's life benefit from the man (psychologically, mentally and financially as well).

Its the man's job to break free from that illusion of fantasies and move on with his life while accepting the fact that the things he wished and the things that he heard from various sources about life and women are simply not true at all.

Please help me to understand how I can cope with this

Stop obsessing over stupid things like "unconditional love" , "I wish a woman would love me for who I am" or whatever that stuff are. Start making yourself your priority. Start living your life and appreciate the freedom, solitude, and peace of mind that you have in your life instead of dwelling on women or on "lovey dovey" that does not exist.

Just look at your life mate. You are living an amazing life right now. Not bitching, no nagging, perfect peace of mind, freedom, solitude, women only when you want one for a few moments and not when you dont want them, the ability to enjoy life and do whatever you want without having to ask a woman about it, and most importantly : you have the remote of your life in your own hands. What more does a man need in one life?

Self ownership is great man. Appreciate it, appreciate yourself and most importantly, move on from the illusions and fantasies.

You are the prize. Women who flock towards you have seen it, but you yourself aren't realising it.

Hairy-biker · 2020-01-12T15:47:35+00:00

Dude, workout like a beast, play guitar, ride an motorbike. Everything will be A ok

z31fanatic · 2020-01-12T15:59:39+00:00

How do you cope with it? You just have to come to terms with the fact that a woman is not capable of love like we are.

There is nothing you can do about it. The sooner you convince yourself, the better it will be for you.

DangZagnut · 2020-01-12T16:15:25+00:00

I know women who love me for who I am and would love to be in a relationship with me. I just have zero interest in being in one.

I don’t get needy, lonely, or that nonsense. Marriage is just fake and gay.

Women are just parasites, and marriage is a death case scenario.

Grant1412 · 2020-01-13T02:50:20+00:00

It's something you have to face and come to terms with.

Nobody can save you from feeling lonely except you. If a woman did love you for who you are, you'd still be alone.

Within you, there will never be anybody but you.

So you need to look deep inside. Nobody else can truly reach you, only you can. The only person who can truly care about you, is you. The only person who can truly love you unconditionally, is you.

fodor666 · 2020-01-12T15:15:51+00:00

Yep what the other dude said. Even the 1 percentage could turn on you. I know it sucks, but life ain't fair.

Atton_Risk · 2020-01-12T17:24:50+00:00

You were sold a Disney lifestyle and you built your entire sense of being on that. Maybe try building your life on the basis of something else, I'm the same age as you. I went MGTOW when I was 13 because in the end my freedom is honestly worth more than life itself.

Title	Cope with feeling empty
Author	oskajoerg
Upvotes	14
Comments	13
Date	January 12, 2020 2:03 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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