Was I wrong for denying my live-in girlfriends child?

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Small backdrop. I’ll try to add what’s relevant. We have been living together for about 4 months now. Their dad doesn’t really have contact with the two boys who are 9 and 6.

I take care of the boys from time to time. Che recently changed her job but there was a time for about 1.5 months where I would take care of them from about 4:30 until their bedtime, cooking and cleaning after them. I am often asked to buy their meals, which I don’t mind because I care about them and want them to be well taken care of.

Anyways, they have one charger for their 3ds and apparently they needed two chargers. I know that they do not really take care of their things, so when my gf asked me if she could borrow mine, I said I didn’t want to because I was afraid they might break it. (It costs about 2.00$ but it’s the only one I have at the moment.)

She said she would replace it if they broke it and I said fine.

She came to me after a few more minutes telling me that I made her sad earlier. She said, “I thought they were more important to you than that.”

I said that they are important, but I don’t loan my things out to someone who won’t take care of them. She said, yeah, but they are the boys! Their are different. She said that if I would loan anything to her, they are a part of her so I shouldn’t be stingy. I just don’t feel like I’ve done anything wrong. Advice?