Growing up

williamwilliam2 · 2018-02-09T21:18:05+00:00

I have kids. Sure, you have more responsibilities financially and will scramble a bit harder for work during times of unemployment, etc. You'll be less likely to walk away from a job you hate, less likely to splurge on expensive hobbies or trips. You'll stay home more. However, just ageing does this for my single childless friends, too.

I don't think men 'grow up faster' vs just having different priorities when spending time and money.

ZealousMathematician · 2018-02-09T21:19:48+00:00

You don’t grow up when you have kids. You lose the chance to enjoy life just like how you enjoyed it as a kid. Growing up is when you fill your free time with responsibility.

Mgtow, never grow up.

801735 · 2018-02-09T21:02:17+00:00

He has tried “selling” me the marriage and family idea for quite some time, either by trying to shame me for being afraid, or acting up, or whatever opinion he can pull out of his ~~fingers~~

ass.

Start calling things what they are.

roxon89 · 2018-02-09T21:20:09+00:00

I wouldn’t say you “grow up” per se. But there is nothing that will change your life more than having kids because you may have different jobs, be single, be married, be whatever but you’ll forever more be a dad. And it does give you a different perspective on a lot of things. That being said, I don’t think you need kids to be a man or to grow up or any of that. In fact, I have found that people who choose to not have kids have generally put more thought into that decision than most people who do have kids.

silive · 2018-02-09T21:32:54+00:00

Tell your brother that "his" kids are not really his as long as "his" wife can take them away from him any time and he won't be able to even see them if she's really bent on that. So essentially, he's at her mercy (i.e. her bitch). I'd tell him that in exactly those words. Alternatively, make him watch the "Divorce Corp." and see how he likes those apples...

mpadt · 2018-02-10T00:40:31+00:00

I grew up more in the sense that I became more selfless. A big problem with marriage and having kids is you give and give and get fatigued because it doesn't feel like anyone else is giving back. It wears on you. Everyone using up the resources you provide. Every time you increase your resources they just get used up more. You aren't able to be selfish and take care of your own needs because society says to man up and focus on your wife and kids. We here know better thankfully.

stoopididoit · 2018-02-09T21:57:24+00:00

You know the answer, that's why you're here. Accepting responsibility for the well-being of others will force you to adopt strategies you would not otherwise have to in order to ensure you can provide for said others. If it's just you, these strategies are not needed. Calling it "growing up" is just part and parcel of the social system designed to shame you for putting yourself first instead of some bimbo and her crotch goblin (that may or may not be yours).

Your brother is doing exactly what a blue pill will always do, endorse the system and shame all alternatives.

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2018-02-10T00:59:11+00:00

I grew up more having kids but I wanted them. I applaud anyone who decides not to. Just because someone's crotch has baby rabies does not mean you are obligated to provide. Your sperm, your choice.

s0ma_ · 2018-02-10T07:06:54+00:00

ask your brother, why he doesnt track race his vintage camaro on the weekends...

oh wait. he doesnt have a vintage muscle car...

now i just need two more turbos and that new valeo supercharger... that should do it

why is it 'older' men, tell me that im living the life they want to have, after they retire... ?

im in my 30s... what am i doing right?

Title	Growing up
Author	justmgtow12345
Upvotes	26
Comments	9
Date	February 9, 2018 8:42 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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