HELP! I need some advice!

HIGHLORDOFSHITSTAINS · 2017-01-22T22:19:07+00:00

Last week, a girl from one of my classes started talking to me.

This is the same as bangin' a coworker. When the "relationshit" goes south then what? Now you'd have to deal with this girl in your class. Can you move classes before datting her?

Oh to be 18 and full up on dat juice!! lol. Fuck that.

And if some chick is talking to me out of the blue.. she wants something. Stop thinking of women as "oh she's not up to something".. THEY ALWAYS ARE UP TO SOMETHING. THEY ALWAYS WANT SOMETHING.

If it's your validation, your time, your money, your penis, it's always something.

Be careful man. Do you have A's in all your classes? I'd be more worried about that or searching your soul for your passions in life. Not pussy. Go start a business or something.

Good luck brother.

libradragon87 · 2017-01-22T22:27:55+00:00

Here are my thoughts. Adopt a "wanna fk? no? then fk off" attitude...

1) You are not special, and are only 1 out of 10+ guys who she is currently using for attention and approval/validation and she is telling them the exact same things.

2) DO NOT text or talk on the phone. Phones are for setting DEFINITE dates (if they cannot agree on the place and time to hangout - tell them never mind), in your case "hang out." If a women is truly interested she will make things extremely easy for you.

3) No dates. Hangout only. Do not bother with a situation where you will not be alone together with the opportunity for sex to happen.

4) If she doesn't make a definite date (remember, hang out only - no dates) she isn't actually interested. She wants you to be her cuck boy tampon to listen to her problems and give her attention. When you ask her to hangout at your place on x day at x time, anything other than a 100% for sure response is a no and you never ask again and don't bother talking to her anymore. "Come over this Sunday at 8pm and we'll watch a movie in my room" Use specifics and be clear...

5) If you are alone and you try to initiate anything physical there will be resistance. Ie. "omg i never do this." "i barely know you" Think 2 steps forward, 1 step backwards. Kissing, she interjects, go back to just caressing. You start touching her legs, she interjects, go back to kissing, etc. All the way to sex.... women can't possibly admit to themselves that they want sex. It has to be your fault, your idea, you seduced them, they were drunk, etc.

6) If she won't make a definite hang out, or won't have sex with you. You flat out tell her that you are not interested in being just friends with her. Then remove your attention. Move on. Never chase a women. Find one that chases you and makes it extremely easy, or don't bother, they are just wanting attention.

MGTOW_Monger · 2017-01-22T21:55:11+00:00

Date her if you want. Pump and dump her if you want.

Just don't wrap up your ego into how this will turn out in the end.

Do not marry her and do not live with her, particularly in a state with common law marriage.

Also, wear protection if it comes to sex.

MGTOW to me does not mean no pussy. It means being in control.

If you are truly in control, I say enjoy the fruits.

coqui25 · 2017-01-22T23:40:35+00:00

Bro your 18. Id go for it. Then later be mgtow. Its not like we will hate you for leaving us.

lie-deflector · 2017-01-22T21:58:19+00:00

In my opinion she is trying to seduce you. Or play mind games at least. I'd be careful when a woman targets you for no reason, especially if she tells you she gets lots of attention from other men.

I tend to er on the side of caution, and just not let things like that lead anywhere. A fear of mine has always been false rape accusations, which can ruin a man's life as we all know.

If you're looking on how to play the game, I recommend websites like,

Black Label Logic

And

The Rational Male

They can help you understand the woman psyche, and up your game and deal with them better.

belhaj7 · 2017-01-22T22:41:36+00:00

I don't know where you live but if you are living in the USA it's definitely not worth it.(false rape accusation)

I think she clearly is using you for attention/validation. If you want to fuck her, go straight to the point. There is no reason to waste time with her. It's either meeting her in real life or you will keep on talking with no leads to something. What if she uses you for attention and then later fucks someone else. You are getting used at that point. It's more like she is playing mind games with you. If she wants attention she better suck your dick IMO. If you want a LTR, You can do it for the experience but if you invest too much time and/or emotion and/or resources on her, and the relationship ends, you will feel bad.

I think she already gets a lot of attention from other males and it's weird why she wants attention from you. Something is behind it. So just fuck her till your tired of her. If she is going to use you, you might as well use her. Or see it as a trade. She wants attention. You want to fuck her or whatever. Sacrifices need to come from both sides. If one side only does it, it ain't worth it.

Another side note is that she is your classmate. If shit goes wrong idk what will happen. But I heard on this subreddit never date a woman from work or school or in your class.

In my experience, I was talking with a woman from work(in the past). I kept on talking with her on whatsapp for three days. And every time I said to her let's do something i.e running drinking something or whatever she had always an excuse. So I dropped her at that moment. I told her if I ain't gonna meet you in real life there is no point in me to keep talking to you.

What I learned: Don't even talk for three days. A waste of time. Talking on the phone should be a tool to meet up with people. You have better things to do.

Be well.

a17c81a3 · 2017-01-22T22:43:20+00:00

Just don't cohabitate or marry and use protection and you're fine.

Hell give her a chance! MGTOW doesn't require hating women. However you will soon find that she will dump you or - worse - become nagging etc..

Also don't forget your studies. Get a nice career going and put money in stocks and crypto currency.

666throwaway777 · 2017-01-23T03:39:27+00:00

Wow. I had a very similar experience. A girl used to send me her pictures. I was blue pilled and obsessed. I went along with it. I thought she really liked me.............. I told her how i feel......... I got friendzoned.

If i were you, i'd cut her off. Show her that you have self respect. Dont put up with a girl who brags about other guys wanting her. ITS A TRAP. I Really urge you to think about this. You have no idea about the mental trauma that I went through.

UtopianKing · 2017-01-23T13:07:39+00:00

Wish I was 18 and found out about MGTOW, dem life choices

666throwaway777 · 2017-01-22T22:26:32+00:00

I really don't care if the relationship goes bad between us. If we fuck and after everything goes south and I didn't get her pregnant all I need to worry about is my studies. Even if this doesn't go my way and I don't smash or I don't be friends with her or w/e, it's still a blessing in terms of the MGTOW lifestyle and my journey.

I STRONGLY agree with you on that comment about women always wanting something. She even told me that she knew the answer of the question she asked me. Insane right? The question is, what exactly what she wants from me? And that is something I want to at least get a sense of, because if there are a ton of dudes giving her attention, why would she want mine? Girls usually aren't very friendly with me, so I don't know what she sees in me ( or doesn't see in me) that other girls may or may not see. I don't know what she may be up to. Because although I am the one who asked for her number, she is the one who started this connection and she is the one sending me pics/videos and FaceTiming me (even though the FaceTime, I have to take responsibility for even agreeing to do it with her).

And you are right I should focus on school, but if this is my chance to at least lose my virginity, why not take it?

s0ma_ · 2017-01-23T03:44:07+00:00

ghost her. when asks whats up. say something likened to you dealing
with a lot of family stuff and you just needed to be alone. GHOST HER

every girl i ever met in college, wanted to use me for homework, studying,
and basically be an emotional peg for her stool to stand upon.

if you are thirsty. know the risks.

just assume shes fucking ATLEAST three doods; using you to make herself feel better.

mentalidade_logica · 2017-01-23T05:39:20+00:00

"This biggest thing is that she keeps bragging about how guys keep asking her for nudes and that she blocks them."

She is playing mind games with you and once she wins her conquest over you, then you are out of the picture, just like those guys are.

"I also want to take her out to just hang out, not even on some "dating," shit, and she has been dismissive about it."

The word dismissive says it all, aka it's all a conquest for her. She may even have a bet with her friends, women act in hives, as you know.

"I feel as though I want to date this girl, but at the same token I feel regret for even getting her number."

Remember the 5Fs; 1) find them 2) fun them 3) finger them 4) fornicate them but most importantly 5) FORGET THEM! (take precautions both legal and physical).

Play non-shellon about her interest, let her chase you, then use the 5Fs, be honest about it too - then there is nothing for you to feel guilty about it, given you were honest to her but most importantly to yourself as a MGTOW.

Title	HELP! I need some advice!
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Date	January 22, 2017 9:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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