How to develop discipline?

Docbear64 · 2018-10-25T09:19:36+00:00

To answer your question first i'd ask do you have goals? any kind of goals? And not stupid goals imposed on you because that's what everyone else tells you to want them , goals you sit down , think about, and YOU actually yearn to pursue? If so discipline is a commitment to attaining that goal whatever it may be .

Whether it's related to your craft, related o your social standing , related to your body , your mind/ knowledge. Discipline is about formulating a plan and desire to achieve those goals and sticking to it even when it's uncomfortable and not easy to do so . No ones perfect , sometimes you'll fuck up but it's the commitment to the goal , achieving it, and actually applying yourself to achieve it .

The biggest sign of a lack of discipline in my experience ( both applied to me and others) is the idea of how easily the person in questions gets distracted. I know guys who have claimed they want to lose weight but haven't gone to the gym or changed their diet in months or even years because they saw something that looked tasty today . I know guys who claim to want to be paid more but refuse to move out of a comfortable position they have in their company and don't even try to submit resumes because " this is good enough ". Men who claim to want to run a company but can't even stop write a basic business plan while watching a football game or whatever .I suppose complacency is part of it as well .

Body Builder Ronnie Coleman has a fantastic quote in line with this : “Everybody wants to be a bodybuilder, but nobody wants to lift no heavy-ass weights.”

It's the same sentiment everyone wants results but how many people are willing to work for them ? The answer would surprise you how few actually do anything to achieve their goals.

I'd recommend reading meditations by Marcus Aurelius or learning more about stoicism in general . Here's a pretty good quote I found that sums up his thoughts on discipline :

Link: https://collegeinfogeek.com/marcus-aurelius-self-discipline/

“At dawn, when you have trouble getting out of bed, tell yourself: ‘I have to go to work—as a human being. What do I have to complain of, if I’m going to do what I was born for—the things I was brought into the world to do? Or is this what I was created for? To huddle under the blankets and stay warm?

‘—But it’s nicer here…’

So you were born to feel ‘nice’? Instead of doings things and experiencing them? Don’t you see the plants, the birds, the ants and spiders and bees going about their individual tasks, putting the world in order, as best they can? And you’re not willing to do your job as a human being? Why aren’t you running to do what your nature demands?

‘—But we have to sleep sometime…’

Agreed. But nature set a limit on that—as it did on eating and drinking. And you’re over the limit. You’ve had more than enough of that. But not of working. There you’re still below your quota. You don’t love yourself enough. Or you’d love your nature too, and what it demands of you. People who love what they do wear themselves down doing it, they even forget to wash or eat.

Do you have less respect for your own nature than the engraver does for engraving, the dancer for dance, the miser for money or the social climber for status? When they’re really possessed by what they do, they’d rather stop eating and sleeping than give up practicing their arts.”

48LawsOfFlour · 2018-10-25T14:33:17+00:00

It's just one skill: Working even though you really don't feel like working right now.

DWShimoda · 2018-10-25T15:04:15+00:00

Discipline is "Doing what needs to be done." -- generally in a timely manner -- despite what mood you are in, or how you 'feeeeel' about it... and without having someone else ordering or checking on what you've done.

You develop it by DOING that stuff, forming the habits/routines of delaying "gratification" (fun or entertaining stuff) until AFTER the necessary work has been completed.

Probably the BEST way to actually develop that -- and/or tell whether someone HAS developed it -- is to live on your own, and thus there is no one else to blame when the necessary things aren't done; because there is no one else TO do them. (And if YOU don't do them, they don't get done, which is generally pretty obvious... your "home" will be a mess).

Older_Miggy · 2018-10-25T17:33:29+00:00

I like one way Brian Tracy puts it:

"Doing what you know you need to do, when it needs to be done, whether you feel like it or not."

Snowdaowg · 2018-10-26T05:19:25+00:00

Just do it. Hard at first, gets easier every time you "just do it". There's no shortcut, there's no secret formula, there's no thought pattern that's more effective than others, just do it.

Title	How to develop discipline?
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Date	October 25, 2018 8:57 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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