How to raise self esteem?

Xlasingx · 2017-07-10T16:51:18+00:00

here's a few..

accomplishing something for yourself..

being true to yourself..

living the life you choose..

disavowing toxic people..

walking away from societal demands..

having only genuine friends..

JoeBender1 · 2017-07-10T18:52:49+00:00

Self esteem thru accomplishment... it's the real way. Even little accomplishments build upward.

DThrillard · 2017-07-10T18:54:20+00:00

A man gains confidence by learning to do something, and doing it well. Men are creatures of action and progress, and in following through with it and conquering challenges, your confidence naturally soars. "You look like a fish in water!", etc. It doesn't necessarily have to be something difficult like building a car out of shit from a junkyard or mastering quantum physics either. It just has to be something that you care about.

I've grown my own confidence from a lot of shit. Being able to bench my own body weight on consecutive reps, mastering the "Shammgod" dribble move in basketball, beating my dad in a real wrestling match for the first time, conquering "Mile High Club" mission in CoD4 on Veteran difficulty, learning to kick flip on a skateboard consistently, graduating college, etc.

You know, in thinking about it, that's the beauty of being a man. A woman is born with people blowing smoke up their asshole without ever actually achieving anything, just for existing. But a man has to earn his place, you have to become great to make it in this world. Only men are capable of dominating with the odds stacked against us.

aanarchist · 2017-07-10T16:54:55+00:00

live with your thoughts, emotions and actions all lined up.

89Thoradin · 2017-07-10T21:37:52+00:00

I have shit for both. So I insult people and build shit.

DWShimoda · 2017-07-11T11:50:31+00:00

Ah the irony...

Only people who LACK self-esteem are worried about "raising" it... and generally want some 'mystical/magical/silver-bullet' and easy way to accomplish that -- probably ideally some "pill" they could pop.

People who have self-esteem -- the real true kind that comes naturally as a result of competence and confidence -- know better; or perhaps more correctly are entirely "unconcerned" about it, AT ALL (to them "self-esteem" isn't even really a "thing").

I'd suggest that the CHIEF problem you suffer from is not actually just a "lack of or low 'self-esteem'"-- but rather a NEGATIVE self-image, resulting from an almost total absence of any actual independent accomplishments (competence & confidence building) upon which it could possibly be based -- and that in addition, what you have in it's place is a horribly MIXED set of "internal voices" a combination of faux-validation & verbal denigration from others (chiefly mothers and teachers, and most likely females).

The answer -- if there is one -- is to:

get AWAY from those toxic people...
go out and DO something (build something, create something, several things) -- some thing(s) of some "substance" and that have personal value/interest -- and most likely in some field or area, using some tools and/or engaging in some activity that those toxic people made you FEAR.
make certain that said "toxic people" are UNAWARE of it (so that they cannot denigrate it -- neither "damning" it with a critique NOR with "faint [fake] praise").
Repeat above as needed.

It's not MAGIC... it's going to require EFFORT (certainly time & possibly resources), and it MAY require several iterations before you begin to experience a change (yet in a very real sense "not notice" in that you should really no longer be worried about it -- since it is more of an ABSENCE of the negative rather than a conscious awareness of a positive -- again people WITH positive "self-esteem" really don't think about it in that way, or at all).

Or of course you could follow the TeRP'er method:

Lift, bro!
Hodl Frames!
Spin plates and play "Dread" games.
Buy (or lease) "status display" shit that makes you LOOK rich, successful and "Alpha."

You know... fake it!

Title	How to raise self esteem?
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Date	July 10, 2017 4:07 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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