Hypergamy Question

801735 · 2019-04-02T17:40:15+00:00

Aren’t most men hypergamous, too?

No.

Keep his belly full.
Keep his balls empty.

That's it. If she can do that, he's got other things on his mind. Hypergamy is fem only. Momentary lust, sure, but it's not climbing up the ladder, it's getting that notch and then meh onwards. For the man it's just a more good looking (atm) prison anyway.

Oh, and don't forget to observe the general population, not the outliers.

swankvagabond · 2019-04-02T17:47:55+00:00

Hypergamy is female's natural instinct.

Our natural instinct is to fuck and reproduce and we are attracted to the most attractive and young women.

Women are only attracted to men with money, status or power.

More importantly, women are the gatekeeper of sex while men are the gatekeeper of commitment.

JMD173 · 2019-04-02T17:42:33+00:00

The main difference is the legitimate loyalty instinct most men naturally have. Women never needed to develop the same bond/trust as men who hunted/battled together. They were always provided for and would submit to become war brides.

It's why they say men are like dogs, and women are like cats.

CoinSwapTrader · 2019-04-02T19:04:58+00:00

Sexual attraction is not hypergamy....hypergamy has an economic element where the person seeks to GAIN more by risking the monkey branch move!

DigitalScetis · 2019-04-02T19:39:57+00:00

Women tend to all value the same thing: the best.

But what one man thinks is "the best" might not be "the best" for another man. What one man finds "more attractive" might be a turnoff for another man. Some girl that you might think is unattractive might be a girl that I think is very attractive. And a woman could have one thing, like her eyes, or her legs, that seems just so perfect to a particular man, he ignores everything else about her.

A lot has been written about how we are "evolutionarily hardwired" to think of beauty in a particular way, at that it's the same for everyone. But I find this isn't true. You could have a girl who has no curves, and only the slightest indication that she is female, but have men find her deeply attractive, nevertheless. You could have women who have nice bodies, but they don't really show them off well, or their look isn't "in style," or their faces and body language don't attract attention.

Some men like broad behinds. Some men like long, skinny legs. Obviously, the two don't go together very well. Some men like 'em bony and waiflike, and others like curves; the two don't go together well. Some like olive-skinned complexions, others pale. Some want a sculpted midsection, while others want it narrow.

I can't even begin to explain what different men find attractive in faces. Some men love thick lips. Others are turned off by thick lips. Some like sculpted cheekbones. Others are turned on by round, soft faces. Some like pointy noses, others like subdued noses. Some like thin eyebrows, others like thick eyebrows. And if a man is enamored with a particular girl's eyes, this can cause him to overlook practically everything else about her looks.

And then there are the other things women do to themselves that tend to turn off men, or turn them on, depending on each man's unique triggers. You might have a woman that just doesn't turn certain men on, because she has short hair, but that same hairstyle might turn other men on twice as much. You have a woman with a tattoo that runs down her arm, and it adds to her intrigue for some, while others think less of her. You may have a blonde who presses all the right buttons, but the man is just not taken with her, because he longs for a brunette. And there are men who will make all sorts of compromises to screw a redhead, solely based on her hair color.

So if we're going to talk about men as all competing for "the most attractive women," keep in mind that what turns you on might be a hard pass for me, while the woman who turns me on might be lackluster or even ugly for you.

ZeroBlink · 2019-04-02T18:10:33+00:00

You considered , but did not go.
That's the difference.
Think about it in reverse order, would you date an ugly chick if she provided you financial stability and earned more than you. You don't like her , you prostitute yourself to her basically.
Can you see yourself doing that?
Also the way it's done is slightly different, you wouldn't ruin her life in the process , by sucking her dry.
You'd just move on to another girl.

Iqbal40862715 · 2019-04-02T19:35:34+00:00

One point we don't say often enough is if a woman fucks a man a few times a week, doesn't nag and keeps him full of food his urge to cheat goes down 99.99 percent.

If a guy in that situation sees a hot chick he keeps her in his spank bank but doesnt act on the urge because he doesnt have too.

markentingh · 2019-04-02T18:21:07+00:00

If I were in an environment where I could easily be hypergamous, I would be, but it's just too much work, time, energy, and not worth the drama anyway. And then to be stuck with one woman is a nightmare in its own right, so I'd rather be alone for the rest of my life, until of course when I make those millions and the girls are clinging onto me like mosquitos. Then I'll be hypergamous hahaha.

Bobby2016b · 2019-04-03T00:47:26+00:00

Would you leave a partner you had for five years just to screw a better looking woman? Could you really do this? Or would loyalty kick in? Would you feel rotten if you did this? Would you just have sex a few times or would you really leave a long-term partner?

I know women that had left-long term partners and then went to a lawyer to get them kicked out of their own houses. Yes, really! A woman would do this. But would a man?

The fact is a woman will only have sex with you - if you already have a partner - if you earn more money than her.

For a man to cheat, he has to find a woman willing to think he is a real catch. A woman just has to find a man.

It is easier for women to be hypergamous, because women find partners much easier than men. Men just want a woman. Women are really fussy.

It is not a level playing field.

jeabben · 2019-04-02T20:02:03+00:00

Both genders can have issues. But when an entire gender embraces theirs, you get a large GMOW community.

pepe_the_third · 2019-04-02T17:56:53+00:00

Hypergamy doesn't mean cheating

Blackfysh88 · 2019-04-02T23:01:16+00:00

Men are tempted but they’re smart enough to move on when it’s actually needed and not when they have the fee fees to do so. Unless it’s a poorly wired man with the impulses of a woman... women will grab the flaming turd in front of you because it was bright and shiny.

girlsRtrash · 2019-04-03T01:51:19+00:00

Obligatory "but men too!"-fallacy. This one really gets on my nerves. Fucking annoying.

Title	Hypergamy Question
Author	EchoZer0
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Date	April 2, 2019 5:37 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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