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I keep in touch with my first "love..."

westinghau5 · 2017-10-19T14:23:04+00:00

The first girl I ever dated. Dated her for 6 years from high school on until 2015. She since got a new boyfriend and she's thinking about marriage with...

westinghau5

October 19, 2017

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Title	I keep in touch with my first "love..."
Author	westinghau5
Upvotes	5
Comments	64
Date	October 19, 2017 2:23 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/77ep0f/i_keep_in_touch_with_my_first_love/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/i-keep-in-touch-with-my-first-love.545700 https://theredarchive.com/post/545700

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[–]P1mpVader 14 points15 points16 points 8 years ago (47 children) | Copy Link

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How anyone is still stupid enough to get married is beyond me. And yeah the whole "I treat her like a little sister" bit OP is saying reeks of bullshit.

My guess is she dumped his ass because she wanted to find herself. Every once in a while she throws him a pity handjob to keep his affections (useful to her) alive, but when he asks why they can't be together SHE tells HIM they're like brother and sister.

The reality being he's not providerish enough to marry and not chadish enough to fuck full time. He's her little teddy bear. Her emotional tampon she turns to when mean old hubby-to-be doesn't jump to her command. Hubby is the money, Federico is her stunt cock, and OP is her little pet that she's twisted into thinking he's the woke, alpha dog keeping her at bay.

If OP had a moral or woke bone in his body he would inform this slut's latest victim of her whore nature (he's probably dumb enough to think her cheating on men is new and that she'd never have fucked around behind his back), and block the tart on all platforms and never look back.

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What are you telling her for? She's the slut who fucks like a rabbit behind his back, you think she doesn't know she shouldn't be doing it? She doesn't care.

You're sandbagging this poor cunt by letting him marry this trollop in ignorance. He still believes in marriage? Very few people come out of the womb realising AWALT. Society conditions us against it. He can learn by you doing the decent thing and telling him who she really is or he can learn the life-wrecking way of going into this blind and having her cheat on him and divorce rape him.

The difference is his entire life vs your not wanting to deal with drama. What fucking drama? Take the poor bastard for a beer and do him the biggest favour anyone ever could, then cut the cunt out of your life and never look back.

Whatever way you cut it you're endorsing her behaviour and his utter ruin by staying silent and keeping her council.

Stop hamstring like a fucking woman and do the right thing.

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[–]P1mpVader1 point 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

She's not lying to you.

Honestly dude. I would just sit down and type out every confession she's ever made to you.

Open with

"Hey(him) you don't know me but I'm (her) ex and still friends. I've struggled with this decision for a while but decided I need to do right by my conscience. Even if you don't heed it. (She) is cheating on you. A lot.

Here are the stories she's told me about. No shame. No remorse. She laughs and jokes about it. "

End with

"We both know exactly what's going to happen here. You'll call her on it, she'll deny it. Call me a liar. Obviously she'll come at you with some shit like I'm jealous or whatever. None of that is the truth. I'm telling you the truth.

If you choose to believe her lies and marry her it's on your head. I've told you the truth and my conscience is clear. If you need to talk feel free to reach out but don't dare contact me with any bullshit defending her honor tantrums if you're dumb enough to believe whatever bullshit she's about to feed you. I'm blocking her on social media. I don't want people like that in my life and I refuse to be party to any drama.

All the best with however you choose to go forward."

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Found his email and sent it there as well. We'll see. Yeah man, I was just being a fucking dog with my tail between my legs. How hard this was for me to do only goes to show you how deep these problems run in our society. Fucking hell, I had to rail against my own mind rationalizing it was unethical to tell him. I'm I really that much at the whim of what women want? The only reason I didn't want to tell him is because I didn't want to sever ties with her for God fucking knows why... And I even had to check myself twice when blocking her on all platforms. It feels like I'm removing a blood sucking parasite from my fucking urethra. I actually am conditioned to feel shame for outing a cheating woman because I know every other woman in my life would look down on what I just did, including my mom... Who cheated on my dad and divorced him. Now she is single, old, has too many animals to care for, and guilt trips me every time I tell her I can't come see her. I knew this stuff ran deep, that's why I challenged myself and changed my perspective and actually did the right thing, but damn it runs deep.

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Off about being the older man sleeping with 20 yr olds? Well first you have to understand why men do it. Now let's be completely honest, it's a power move first and foremost. Women at that age are learning and experiencing what it is to be a woman outside of school and/or the comfort of their parents home so at this age they're the most naive, at least at a legal and respectable age in society.

Woman in their early 20s are more willing to explore in a sexual environment because again they're learning independence. By the age 30 they know what they like and they don't like to it's a lot harder to get what you want out of older women. Now speaking of 30 vs 20 that brings me to the second conclusion.

Men age like wine and women age like milk. It's no secret that men are more attracted to a young, tight clean looking woman. No wrinkles, stretch marks, scars, etc etc. And, men tend to be more sexually attractive when they develope scars and "smile wrinkles", beards and body hair etc. Men at an older age will be more wise and stronger compared to a younger man, and woman will always seek that security with looking for a companion. So in the animal kingdom young healthy women and older experienced men tend to match up better in the SMV (sexual market value).

I can understand why youre turned off by this idea, it feels cheap and easy. But so is keeping an ex around while playing "big brother" pretending that you don't feel something more. It's also very unhealthy for you mentally. I use to run back to ex's, win them over till I got bored and moved on again. I had to reflect on why the fuck I was doing that and it came down to it simply being because my ex's were a comfort zone I ran back to where it felt familiar and I knew what to expect. But you do not grow as a human being by running back to your comfort zone. It will stunt your growth and eliminate your free independence as a man who was born to explore the world and the people that live in.

You have got to let this chick go. You have all this dirt on this guy because you played the comfortable friend zone and you're willing to watch this man suffer because he now has what you want, her. This is how I know you have yet to let go of her. You have to do this for yourself. Do it out of self love and respect for yourself.

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