I'd rather post an AITA here.

dpdrme · 2019-10-13T09:34:28+00:00

If you are talking about loans you took from her, you are obligated to pay her back. It's the right thing to do.

If you are talking about paying off her debts, then absolutely not. She is the parent. She is there to support you, not the other way around. She choose to have a child, and part of tha is financial support. You supporting her is backwards. You need your own money to build your own life. Don't be hamstrung by motherly guilt. Live.

Krazyrobus · 2019-10-13T08:32:19+00:00

If these are college loans she took for you, pay them.

It's fucked for her to have that expectation since she chose to birth you but whatever, just do it to avoid the constantly guilt trips.

GoodMan_Gone · 2019-10-13T07:41:51+00:00

Depends. If she's struggling now to keep the ends meet I'd say it's fair to compensate that later on. When you're making good money.

AltruisticDeer · 2019-10-13T07:50:20+00:00

Not paying the loans that allowed you to go to college?

ken_oath_mate · 2019-10-13T09:37:24+00:00

In these situations, its best to clear the deck as soon as you comfortably can.

When you get a job (either during college or after), pay off whatever you owe her ASAP.
Pay an additional amount equivalent to 10%, 20%, 50%, 100% (whatever you feel appropriate) of what you owed her. It's a way of acknowledging her contribution to your future and thanking her for it, and also provides a definitive termination of financial relationship with her. By paying the extra, she no longer has legitimate grounds to continually guilt you into supporting her "because I put you through college" or similar shit.
Get your own place and go your own way.

2019-10-13T09:01:27+00:00

It depends. Are you enjoying benefits of those loans? Did you have a say in taking the loans?

ijnenak · 2019-10-13T10:09:12+00:00

If you’re talking about paying your education then obviously yes. If its your moms personal loans then fuck her. But if you think you are entitled to have your college paid by your mom then you’re no better than a millennial woman

rabbit8lol · 2019-10-13T15:40:41+00:00

Only pay your debts in life.

MrMagtow · 2019-10-13T21:21:25+00:00

It's good you recognize her shaming language - but it's important to understand the reasons behind why she does what she does. The book "The Manipulated Man" explains that women see men as resource producers to parasite off.

Recommend you read it so you can avoid her traps and live a happy life.

RedPillConfessions- · 2019-10-13T07:52:33+00:00

No don’t pay bro. GTFO.

Title	I'd rather post an AITA here.
Author	Symbiote5
Upvotes	15
Comments	14
Date	October 13, 2019 7:34 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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