I'm a long time lurker. The thing is, I'm married. I am the sole provider for the family. (Shocking, right?) My wife doesn't put any effort into our marriage other than the absolute bare necessities. She doesn't keep the house very clean. She only washes clothes when I specifically tell her that I need my uniforms washed. She does dishes when she needs something to cook or serve dinner, and she doesn't even start dinner most nights until after I get home at 9 at night. That means the kids don't get to eat until that late either. Now I just just take care of my own shit for the most part and don't bother with her anymore than she bothers with me. She didn't want to have sex with me. Now I have no interest in sex with her. My wife didn't want to sleep in the same bed with me. Now on the occasions she does (such as tonight), I am completely and utterly annoyed with her; her breathing, her soft snoring, her leg if it touches mine, hell, just her presence annoys the ever loving fuck out of me. It's still a rare occurrence. I use to get annoyed when she stayed up all night Facebooking and playing Candy Crush. Now I'm annoyed when she doesn't. Have any of you experienced anything similar? Aside from divorce (we all know the turns that can take), what else can I do?