Lack on Motivation

WolfgangBreitweit · 2018-07-12T18:19:05+00:00

Oh of course bro. This is absolutely normal. You was dedicated. That’s the result. Nothing strange about it. It will change. Believe me. Motivation is one of the hardest properties to regain. Since you was driven by her.

Don’t become desperate. It’s a long way to get out of this. Your grief isn’t because of her. But because all that you did is down the drain. Most MGTOW share this experience of a total loss of their values with you. Keep it up bro. It’ll become better every month. Believe me. I had this many times in my life.

scottishsnowboard666 · 2018-07-12T17:44:51+00:00

Divorce sucks, you can handle it and you will, don’t spend time in the house, don’t spend time dwelling on the past! Find shit to occupy your time other than alcohol and women! If the little kid is still alive in your mind, listen to that voice and do hobbies that bring you personal satisfaction! It sounds to me like you’ve based your entire sense of who you are in your life by what person your with romantically. This is the wrong way to think if you want to be your own person and stay standing when everyone around has fallen. Trust your ex wife can keep her condos and her fun, I promise if you just let go of all that you will be laughing at her in the future especially if her age is wallish.

Red_pilledman · 2018-07-12T17:48:53+00:00

Yes after the red pill rage then comes the lack of motivation phase but that’s when you have to start thinking about yourself and how you can improve and grow for better. Start working out if you already aren’t , eat healthy, and enjoy the things you love to do .

strongandhappy · 2018-07-12T17:47:38+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, I can definitely empathize. I wasn't dumped, I left, but the effect was the same, and we had shared interests that were suddenly ruined for me. I really had to reassess myself and what I could find joy in, how I spend my time and what I look forward to. I'm still in the process of adjusting my mind to get excited about new things I maybe didn't do or care about before. Give yourself time to drift and explore. Accept that your mind is likely to obsess on unhelpful things for a while but continually make an effort to find things to replace those thoughts. You'll be treading water for a while and knowing that's the case will hopefully avoid serious depression or panic. Basically, find your new direction and focus on it while understanding it will take your mind a while to comply. Hopefully some of that's of use, be strong.

stoopididoit · 2018-07-12T17:53:29+00:00

Well it's different for everyone, but first and foremost it takes time to heal your soul. Maybe a change is just what you need (you said you were considering moving). It's the first day of the rest of your life, what do you want to do with it? Your freedom to choose for yourself is damn near the only true freedom any of us have left. Whatever you decide, good luck.

Tipofthemorni · 2018-07-12T18:03:39+00:00

I left a 6 year LTR and I know exactly how you feel. I moved countries to be with this person. Thankfully when her biological clock told her to go completely cold, I had not gone through with wedding plans.

Don't leave your job, keep at it. Start saving some money and looking for better employment opportunities. I'm with you on the same adventure brother, I've been through the depression phase and believe me it gets better every day on average, even if some days you will suddenly feel distraught.

Women have no sense of loyalty and are incapable of love.

MadPreacher1AD · 2018-07-12T18:03:45+00:00

Take a vacation to the woods and relax on a mountaintop with a cabin you rented. Examine your life and what she forced you to give up. Use that knowledge to rediscover the lost part of you that she tried to kill.

PhantomCowboy · 2018-07-12T18:53:09+00:00

the world is being destroyed by all of our striving... a few (or more) people striving for less isn't the worst thing in the world

Title	Lack on Motivation
Author	Bogey9119
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	July 12, 2018 5:37 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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