Im gonna try to make this as short as possible but the situation spans a decade+ so bear with me. Or don't .

So I need advice on the best way to deal with a volatile situation that I suspect is brewing.

Context: Had a kid with a girl 10+ years ago that I've been raising on my own pretty much since the beginning, "official" sole custody since 3 months old

I will try to break this down to bullet points for brevity:

  • Her: bipolar/schizophrenic/pathological liar (to be clear: I didn't see this at the time lol)

  • Us: Fell in "love", supposed to get married, gets pregnant

  • Her: Immediately changes persona. Those kind of controll tactics that blue pills miss ensue ( yes, that's me at the time)

  • Meet her adoptive parents, Dad is nothing like she described (jury's still out on mom(But I mean awalt, just no proof))

  • Son born , she's constantly gone. Regularly come home to my son pawned off to roommates to watch while I'm at work.

  • I find out she is/has literally been cheating since the 2nd day we were official.

  • I get fed up and leave (son is 3mo old at this time) and file for Emergency Temporary Custody, granted due to her excessive drug use

  • Still charge me child support for almost 2 years despite court order

  • Fast forward 10 years, she's been subjecting son to abusive relationships with her bf 's, is legitimate hoarder status (son literally has scars from shit that "fell" on him while he was visiting her for the every other weekend), guilts son into not saying anything because she "couldn't have him" if he told

  • After other incidents I learn about through channels she couldn't censor , I dont let her have him unsupervised anymore, she refuses visitation unless on her terms. She hasn't come to see him in 1.5+ years ( good, as far as I'm concerned)

  • She's recently ben making threats to take me to court

There a lot of details left out just because I could go on for a long time about what transpired, but the current situation Im worried about is she is hitting the wall and with no other options to try to exploit to support her (she has not worked since before he was born) I fear she is going to try to fuck me over again to try and get me financially responsible to support her, or try and get me in jail/prison for "not letting her see her son" though she has can see him anytime, but I will not allow him with her unsupervised. There is technically a court order saying she has him every other weekend, but I contend she has violated nearly every rule of the order (disparaging the other parent, trying to turn them against you, leaving child unsupervised for hours on end(there are documented police reports of this, among many other incidents she was involved while having him for her weekend visits)etc).

Lately I feel she has been trying to pull strings and get people working on her behalf again (schizo's are good at this) How can I defend myself against this and keep him out of her manipulative and fucked up world?

Any advice is appreciated