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I found the stats posts interesting so decided to check out mine for this round of Tinder (I've been on twice before and ended up in relationships). I thought it might interest others.

I am a divorced 45/f, parent with 50% custody, living in a major city, slim, attractive, highly educated, search limits: male, aged 41 to 54, under 10 miles, don't mind if they have children or not, I am looking for a relationship, not casual, rarely swipe right on a blank or minimal profile.

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Total swipes: 2355

Right: 134 (5.7% of total) *If you were to see my right swipes you'd be surprised at the wide variety of men, both in terms of looks and other attributes. Shared interests (literature, film, arts) almost always get a right swipe as does a clever or interesting profile. If I'm attracted but the profile is boring, I may swipe right depending on how desperate I feel ;-) I have swiped right on bald/short/fat based on shared interests or a compelling profile (note: I specifically mentioned bald/short/fat because some men think being one or more of those is a death sentence for dating, not because I view it negatively.)

Left: 2221 (94.3% of total) *Blank profiles almost always get a left swipe as does a lack of photos. Casual/poly/fwb also get a left swipe. Looks do come into the picture but are definitely not the most important criteria. Lack of shared interests will probably get a left swipe. Boring profiles require physical attraction to be there, but even then, I might not bother. Profiles that are negative or bitter will get a left swipe. Too many drinking photos, too many sporting photos, or photos with another woman who is not their mother or part of a mixed sex friends shot will also get a left swipe. Men who mention wanting to have a family will get a left swipe. Spelling/multiple grammatical errors will get a left swipe. I don't mind fat men but obese will get a left swipe. Men that are just visiting or temporarily living here or who have poor English also get a left swipe.

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Matched: 80 (59.7% of right swipes) *This is lower than I expected. Most of the time I get an instant match. Not as popular as I thought!

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Message sent by either party: 58 (72.5% of Matched) *I generally don't send the first message. My profile is funny and descriptive so there is a lot of material there to comment on. Witty, intelligent banter is important to me so the first message is a way to make a good impression.

No message or unmatched: 22 (27.7% of Matched)

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More than 2 messages each exchanged: 32 (40% of Matched)

2 or less messages each (most of the time they ghosted): 17 (21.3% of Matched)

Match messaged me, I did not respond: 9 (11.3% of Matched) *I do feel bad about this but sometimes after revisiting the profile I change my mind.

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First dates: 7 (8.8% of Matched) *I also swiped on Bumble for a week or two and went on 4 first Bumble dates, no seconds.

Second date: 2 of 7 *One of these was not due to chemistry... I just felt like I ought to give him another go.

Multiple date: 1 of 7 (1.25% of Matched)

Number I felt chemistry with: 2 (2.5% of Matched) *The other guy I felt chemistry with told me he wanted another date but then never organized it, despite me initiating contact a few times. He had a lot of big stuff going on in his life and was also recently separated. **There was possibly a 3rd guy that I could have felt chemistry with but I suspect I prevented it from happening because I felt like he was too attractive and had a dating history filled with short term, so I felt like he wasn't serious. In retrospect I should have given him a chance.

Number of first dates who said they wanted to see me again: 7 of 7 *Or 11 or 11 including Bumble. However as I mentioned above, saying they'd like a second date and organizing one are two different things. That said, I'm fairly confident at least 9 would have organized a second date.

Type of first dates: 2 dinner, 3 drinks, 2 coffee *Bumble 1 lunch, 1 dinner, 2 drinks **Guy generally paid in full. I prefer he pays the first time but I'd rather go for a drink (I'll generally only have one) or a coffee to minimize costs. Depending on what we do I might also shout them to something, e.g. dessert, a drink elsewhere.

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Struck gold: 1 of 7 (1.25% of Matched) *So far about 7 dates, sex and sleepovers, neither of us interested in seeing others, so far he is wonderful and I am keen to see him again.

Edit: Lots of people asking how to get the stats. https://account.gotinder.com/data

Hit download. Takes a few days. You'll need to go through the sent file and do some math.

Edit 2: Thank you mystery person for the Silver ☺