How To Be Desirable Without Being An Asshole?

849 points140 commentssubmitted by perfectlyimperfect_8 to r/dating_advice

The girl I was seeing (just recently broke it off) stated multiple times she always goes after the assholes and that tends to be a theme with girls I see. I mean she was on and off with a HUGE asshole for 6 years. I'm in my mid 20s and for some reason they all seem to love the assholes. That's just not me though and I have no desire to be an asshole to females. So my question is how do I develop the same allure of an asshole, but without being an asshole? What about it is captivating to females?