As a lot of people here, I realized I've been a MGTOW without knowing it.

I've had two serious relationships where I was very commited and gave all I could. Both of them ended after 3 years in quite illogical circumstances. The first one decided to end it because I was then just finishing my engineering studies and was just starting to search for a job. During that period, she met a guy who seemingly had a quite decent job and she decided to leave me for him. The second one made a "mistake" and she cheated on me at some point because, I quote "I was drunk and didn't know what I was doing".

After these two relationship, I realized how stupid I was wasting time for these persons. I completely neglected all the things that really bring me joy and fullfillement. I came back to working on my projects, to traveling with my bicyle, to meeting my real friends. And it's been perfect since then. I'm happier than ever. Working on my own projects makes me feel I'm accomplishing something meaningful. Being in a relationship with an unstable person, who doesn't even have consistant plans apart from seeking her own security doesn't lead to anything meaningful. In both relationships, the girl tried to make me feel guilty of doing things that I enjoyed. It's like they get jealous that your attention is focused on something else than them. So a lot of men I know, and me included, end up dropping all their dreams, all their projects, all what's fulfilling for them, to satisfy their girls.

Men are creative. A man is at his best when having projects and accomplishing meaningful things. That's why History and the endless discoveries were made by men.

Lately I've been trying to meet some girls again. I met like 3 girls in the span of 4 months. In all 3 cases, when we started meeting regularly, I was just feeling that I'm wasting my time and just wanted to get back to the things I really enjoy. It made me have another confirmation that what means the most for me is what I can create with my own mind and hands, and not having drinks and meaningless conversations with random women.

So that's my message. Try to find what makes you happy as a man. No woman is worth stopping your dreams for.