One day a year ago I stumbled upon a mentality called mgtow. And it stuck ever since.

I’m still young, 23, had my first relationships last year. I never really cares before because I was just studying, reading etc. I’d go out to meet friends etc but since I moved to another country to join another university to continue my education I thought I would do what others do : go out, party, kiss random girls in clubs etc. I went from 22 years of mgtow basically to 1 whole year of being ridiculous. I had several heartbreaking relationships which put me back on track, on the realist / mgtower track.

I can tell from pure logic and realism, that relationships have to be taken with a grain of salt.

We were born alone and we will die alone. In the meantime, we do not owe anyone anything, especially not girls that you might like, who are hot etc. Once you start thinking logically with facts and not avoid being blinded by emotions, you will realize that a relationship, especially when you are young and dating around, fooling around, means nothing because chances are high you chose poorly. It’s very funny looking back that I was heartbroken by some useless chick that loved to party and get drunk like c’mon dude ! I left that bitch without even telling her shit (and she wanted to get married 😂😂🤫)

When you are in a relationship, nothing changes. You are still you, and the world does not become magically more pleasing. If you experience the contrary, then something is off ! You cannot lose yourself in a relationship, if you do, flee ! So with this in mind, a woman being in your life or not, it has absolutely no impact whatsoever. You’re a focused male, chasing his goals. You’re in charge and responsible. A woman does not matter because of it. I switched back my mentality to this and it’s true. We’re independent people, and being limited by someone else is just not in the plan baby. Surprisingly enough, I’ve met a mgtow woman who’s a friend I’ve know for a very long time which makes me think that mgtow is a general mentality that says that you should accept that you’re on your own and you do not need to settle with anyone.

I must say that when I was foolish last year my grades went downhill, everything went downhill. I became a mess for what ? I was cashflow negative on life. That’s a no go.

Since I’m back at being a healthy mgtow / realist, I just don’t care, I don’t flirt and I don’t approach unless I have a reason to. It’s just plain normal, but for some reason we are fooled to think that we should lower ourselves and pursue women (what PUA idiots say). That’s the most naive idea I have ever seen I think. Gosh, just picture the scene. A man willing to fight for pussy, give up the money chase for pussy, c’mon man !!! 😂😂😂

And honestly, from experience I can tell that the most powerful people don’t care about picking up strangers, trying to impress. I’ve been in contact with managers, ceo’s lately and that’s exactly what I realized from studying them a little bit. This one manager I’m working with has constantly women in his office to bring him documents and talk about clients and business. Not surprisingly, these women were stared at by all my colleagues (and me at first) because they were really sexy (short dress, hair done, make up and all that). Guess his reaction ? I never saw him give a single fuck. It leaves a really particular impression. And it’s not like he’s trying to ignore women on purpose, he’s just focused on money (this guy drives a pretty cool Range Rover and owns a golden rollie). He just naturally doesn’t care because he knows where all this would lead : losing money, losing focus, losing emotional well-being, legal issues.

I think that I read somewhere that there are several types of mgtowers ? The angry ones who think all women are evil and some other ones with a natural one I guess you can call it.

That’s the best one because one should never hate anyone. People are people, love is love. We still have to add value to people’s lives, be tolerant and nice. We should’t feel anger towards people we know nothing about too.

My little message here is just that you should find something to pursue in life and focus on it 100%. I absolutely adore women for the professionalism they can display. From experience they are more serious than men so that’s something I admire. All that causes problems are relationships because everyone has a different perception of it, human interactions with women are complicated and go become overly complicated for no reason. This is why we should simply appreciate their presence but not ever focus on them. Because if we do, they will feel entitled. They’re like little children basically. Just don’t care by focusing on your life and you’ll be fine !

I’m not against relationships, but as with the best things that happen in life, make sure to let things happen organically, naturally in your life and remember that you have the strength to overcome anything. Never get attached either way, and keep focusing on your goals and you’ll be golden baby.

Thanks to the community for all the useful information !

Peace !