One of my very close friends is planning on marrying a girl who treats him terribly. He had a child with this girl a couple years back and proposed at the end of 2019. He’s planning to marry her in the fall and I’m trying to think of a polite way to ask him if this is the life he really wants. His family has told me how rude she is to him and his parents. She moved in with them once she became pregnant and according to them does not pay any bills. Every time I come over he’s cleaning up his room because of messes she leaves. She flips out on him for the smallest things and can’t take any kind of joke or criticism.

His parents have told me privately how she does not help at all with the kid. She won’t wake up and go to him if he’s crying or change any diapers. He always makes all of the food for the baby and for themselves. All of his family think he is making a mistake and I am inclined to agree with them. She really treats him like garbage. He has asked me to be the best man in his wedding but with the way his family has vented to me I almost feel like I need to try and talk to him about the future. I don’t want to see him get beat down into nothing, he’s already well on his way to it and he’s only 25. I don’t want to be rude about it but I want to make my point very clearly. I just want some advice on how I go about it, and help him see how bleak his future is likely to be with her