So I had this friend I use to have feelings for, about a month long crush, developed when we first started hanging out. She knew, she knew I knew she knew, and it was clear there wasnt mutual feelings. However, those feelings died down because I noticed she only took HER problems seriousness, and she wanted everyone to allow her to vent through those problems. ANY TIME I discussed my issues, the conversion would end within a minute tops.
Even when I was talking about parental abuse I received, she would go "Yeah this is upsetting to me, lets stop talking about it. I got abused to".
Needless to say, I stopped having feelings for her. I even began to naturally treat her different, as a friend and not as a crush.

Fast forward a few months, and she is complaining about someone calling her out on THIS VERY ISSUE.

Her: Do i do this?
Me: Yup, it was one of the main reasons I stopped having feelings for you. You are a good friend, but you do this alot.
Her: No, i dont do this. And stopped using this an excuse for me rejecting you to save face. I cant believe you would use one of my problems im venting to you about as a friend to get back as me for rejecting you.
Me: Listen, i dont particularly care if you believe me. But im telling you the truth. You even remarked the day I asked you take my garbage out for me that "This isnt what someone does with a lady he is trying to woo", and i told you "im not trying to woo you, I dont like you anymore".
Her: This is bullshit, you are being a dick, im done with this conversion.

SHOCKINGLY, I notice that all my female friend exhibit this trait. While all my male friends are open listeners. Anyone else run into this ?