I think this is a good topic to discuss, because a lot of people do this. Even I have caught myself doing this IRL and most of the time I have done this while joking.

Psychological projection is a defense mechanism people subconsciously employ in order to cope with difficult feelings or emotions. Psychological projection involves projecting undesirable feelings or emotions onto someone else, rather than admitting to or dealing with the unwanted feelings. It is important to know the signs, women are very good at this. What you should do is hold a mirror so you know what they say about themselves. A recent example is this post: https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/87o4yr/no_losers/ (She is a stay at home single mom and doesn't want to date losers LOL)

The Signs:

  • Victim blaming: The victim of someone else's actions or bad luck may be offered criticism, the theory being that the victim may be at fault for having attracted the other person's hostility.

  • Projection of marital guilt: Thoughts of infidelity to a partner may be unconsciously projected in self-defence on to the partner in question, so that the guilt attached to the thoughts can be repudiated or turned to blame instead, in a process linked to denial.

  • Bullying: A bully may project his/her own feelings of vulnerability onto the target(s) of the bullying activity. Despite the fact that a bully's typically denigrating activities are aimed at the bully's targets, the true source of such negativity is ultimately almost always found in the bully's own sense of personal insecurity and/or vulnerability. Such aggressive projections of displaced negative emotions can occur anywhere from the micro-level of interpersonal relationships, all the way up through to the macro-level of international politics, or even international armed conflict.

  • Projection of general guilt: Projection of a severe conscience is another form of defense, one which may be linked to the making of false accusations, personal or political.

  • Projection of hope: Also, in a more positive light, a patient may sometimes project his or her feelings of hope onto the therapist.

read more on https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection