The question - How did you know your spouse was cheating on you? An anonymous user posted the following in answer:

"This is probably the best classic of a kind. I decided that I trusted my spouse but I should test her anyways. I made 3 accounts. One of her supposed dream guy, one of a nice guy, one of a super aggressive jerk (because somehow I felt as though this was her true type), my spouse supposedly ‘loves me’ over anything, we have spent quite a bunch of years together, the attraction is there , she thinks I don’t know what she wants , even though I do, I simply don’t think it is good for her or us.

On topic, I messaged her at different intervals rather random with those 3 guys. The jerk was highly flirtatious , nice guy was kind and ‘helpful’ and her dream guy which sort of was just there. I was absolutely baffled. She tossed the nice guy out of the window, ignored him, lied to him saying she was busy while talking to her dream guy and aggressive jerk. The ‘jerk’ showed me my worst red signals I was ignoring up on till now were actually what she is. She would tell me that she is extremely busy today, unable to speak, while chatting to my fake aggressive jerk account. Fast-forward a little after the first day of seeing my spouse 180 herself into a desperate snake for a jerk even tossing her supposed dream guy qualities into ignorance and her long year partner. I felt quite broken but I was equally so interested. She was more open to a fake guy who treated her like toilet paper than someone who has been supposed to have bonded with her. She kept telling the jerk about how he was the only one for her, her soulmate , the jerk kept saying something along the lines of, why would I spend time with you ‘ugly’, ‘annoying’. Purely insulting her for hours straight while she would say ‘im hurt’, ‘but I love you’.

i had never castes such strong doubt to women before this but well, months later she said ‘we have to talk’. That it was not working between us, how I didn’t understand her, that love just died or was never there (the day before that she was telling me about how she could never be apart from me while asking to meet up with the jerk). I was highly relieved but i didn’t want it to show so i faked an outburst of rage and left. She kept spamming the jerk (though i would say this is cheating already she had previously sent him inappropriate pictures and asked to meet up for coitus).
I told her something along the lines of ‘I’m busy’ I then let her wait for a month. I had never received this many messages and conversations from her in 3 years especially as a fake account. After the month i decided to finally reply, she seemed extremely happy, talking about baby names, families, when to marry, how she has never loved anyone this much before, if i needed money. I was already speechless but the month really gave me the time to think it over so I told her ‘We need to talk: it was not working between us, how she didn’t understand me, that love just died or was never there ’. She was dead silent, finally raged, said that I only hurt her and how anyone could be this cruel after giving her hope.

Somehow…after i saw her say that i just ended up laughing at this entire ordeal. Also grew a strong desire to not associate myself with any more females. Especially since I decided to test this with stranger girls and it generally seems to be the exact same.

I should note that the jerk had only really about 5 words that he has said to her besides the -break-up- and after flirting with her.

‘ugly’, ‘annoying’. 'leave me alone’ , ‘stupid’, ‘…’

yet for some reason when you call the same girl, ‘cute’ she gets annoyed and blocks you saying that everyone says this and that it is not true and repetitive.

Goes to show that you can make 5 accounts with 5 different personalities and have one of them get the girl. Also that girls say you do not understand them or are not their type because they have a firm first impression of you, not because of you.

Either way this trauma has left me done with girls. Whenever I recall that night when my ex said : ‘Whenever I look at the stars I think of you and it makes me feel warm,’, while my jerk account receives some sort of nude picture that says ‘ready for you any time, i can’t think about anything else xoxo so excited look:pic2,pic3’"

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