i did a post here on projection yesterday and a lot of people mentioned gaslighting so i decided to post some of my thoughts on gaslighting specifically, so here it is if anyone is interested:

This entry is for anyone who has wondered why women attempt to gaslight so much

It definitely seems like most women in the dating pool have narcissistic tendencies, and narcs are basically crazy

Gaslighting is a form of lying.. its telling someone their reality is different from what it actually is, this is used to manipulate people and break them down and “mold” them into how you want them to be

Ok so with those out of the way here’s what I want to say

The reason why women gaslight so much is because it is a direct deflection of the fact that they are crazy (crazy meaning disordered or damaged)

For example

In my last relationship I would say normal things like:

“would you stop rolling your eyes at me?”

“would you stop telling me about how much you like Puerto rican guys?”

or even something as simple as “you don’t need to lose weight I like your body the way it is”

normal responses to these things would be like acknowledging that what I’m saying is valid and then responding accordingly

however I would be gaslighted (told my reality was incorrect and I was dysfunctional) and my requests were never addressed and I was subsequently insulted

so it was like this:

“would you stop rolling your eyes at me?”

“I give what I get”

“when do I roll my eyes at you?”

“that’s not for me to explain, u figure it out”

there you can see that instead of acknowledging her own dysfunction in the form of an attitude problem that expressed itself in eye rolling, she instead told me that I was the problem.. even with no evidence

so that’s what I mean when I say that gaslighting is oftentimes a deflection of the fact that they have issues or they are crazy or they are impulsive or they have bad habits

so this is why they do it.. because they do not want to be held accountable for their actions

next example:

“would you stop telling me about how much you like Puerto rican guys?”

“you’re overreacting again”

“you make me feel like I’m last on the totem pole in your life”

“you’re so dramatic”

(note these scenarios actually happened, none of these scenarios are made up)

so here you see instead of acknowledging that what she was saying was hurtful to me, she just told me I was dysfunctional in how I saw it

there is no way to deal with a person like this.. this is why mgtow is a thing- because many women are narcissistic today and many men have come to realize they aren’t worth the effort anymore

there is no way to deal with someone who blames you for their transgressions

if it was a child you would just spank them but women are adults

for example.. say your child stole something

you tell your kid to stop stealing and they say “well I wouldn’t steal if you would just buy me what I want”

that’s how modern women are… and there’s nothing you can do except save yourself the headache and get away from them

3rd example.. I remember I said “you don’t need to lose weight I like your body the way it is” and she yelled at me saying “you never support me, you only care about yourself blah blah blah” I mean she went on and on

I remember that was one of the first days where I realized something was abnormal about her because many women would have been happy to know their boyfriend likes them just the way they are

But she found fault in everything

She would diss me for everything it seemed like

So the gaslighting there was “you’re totally selfish and don’t support my weight loss goals!” as opposed to “he likes me how I am” ..why? because they want to change your reality and force you into a bad guy role so they can be a victim

Gaslighting is a distraction from the fact that they are dysfunctional

Let me say it again:

GASLIGHTING IS A DISTRACTION FROM THE FACT THAT THEY ARE CRAZY, LOL

to them its a relief from themselves.. a moment of respite, to place blame on someone else instead of deal with their plethora of problems.. to you its a toxic oppression and a pulling of the wool over your eyes to who you're truly dealing with

Think about it like this

Say you don’t study and you keep getting low grades on tests

So one day a classmate comes up to you and says: “hey why do u keep getting bad grades?”

and your response is something like: “the teacher plays favorites”

that’s what these women are like

they would rather throw someone else under the bus than face the fact that they have issues they need to work on

they have an attitude problem, they don’t know what men are about, they have no respect for men, they have a chip on their shoulder, they lack self control, they are mean spirited, they don’t trust, they have buried their ability to love and they call it “protecting their heart” etc etc

but when you say “what’s wrong?” they say something like “you don’t take me out enough” or something that has absolutely nothing to do with the actual issues which are inside themselves

all of their negative traits get thrown onto you because they refuse to face them

the person who has been getting bad grades should say: “I don’t study and don’t care to” as opposed to “the teacher is biased”

but look… this is why they can’t tell the truth.. because they don’t want to tell you “I’m crazy” “I can’t control myself” “I am damaged goods” “I’m unstable” etc

to you as a man, you would appreciate a direct response like that because it would explain why they act the way they act and then give you a choice on whether you want to stay and help or not

but they won’t be honest, instead they will just treat you like dirt and expect you to be a mind reader.. they expect you to somehow see that her rolling her eyes at you is a direct result of being hurt by some man 10 yrs prior

so anyway.. I just wanted to point this out, the reason they gaslight is to distract from their own dysfunction

and the reason they don’t tell you the truth is because it would amount to an admission of personal issues and problems

its like telling someone: "crap, i must've left my wallet at home" as opposed to saying “I am unemployed and broke”

by saying “my wallet is at home” its like saying “I have the money”

but the reality is they don’t

similarly, when women say: “I only do this because you do that” its like saying “I have the capacity to treat you right”

BUT THE REALITY IS….. THEY DON’T

women say “I treat you like crap because you treat me like crap” when the reality is.. they treat you like crap because they have no love, integrity, accountability, they’re selfish, they’re full of pride and arrogance, and they don’t care about your wellbeing

so i hope this helps to explain the reasons for gaslighting.. ultimately, it comes down to- admit you are crazy and dysfunctional, and damaged, or gaslight

and women, (being much more image-conscious than men, and with them lacking men’s natural principles of integrity, honor, respect, and accountability) are very likely to gaslight