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You dodged a bullet. You weren't "weak". You'd be weaker if you gave up your life and got BP desperate and proposed and bought her a ring.
What happened? You nailed her. You remembered what you had learned about nature, saw the reality, and extracted yourself from a situation that would have just screwed you over anyway.
You're not a priest. Sex is not horrible. It's avoiding pitfalls and watching for red flags that matter. And not getting sucked into situations outside of your control.
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What I struggle with is getting compliments and attempted ego manipulation. I know what is really going on, I'm just not sure how to respond to it. So, I either ignore it or crack a joke. With this latest situation, it's a woman I was involved with a while back. She's still married, everything I told her that would happen happened and now she's back and seemingly super motivated to get out on her own, in her own place and get divorced and hopes to see what could be with me. Now, her husband really is a dirt ball passive aggressive piece of shit, but she married him. So what does that say about her value? (which reminds me of a recent thread and something I've been saying for a long time, women can't distinguish real confidence and potential from bullshit, even if it is obvious as fuck).
There is that shadow of the fantasy that we all know, the temptation of what we used to want, of what we know to be false. Part of me wants to go in, not cohabitate and keep that until she starts pushing for more. The other part does not want the hassle of it all. Then there is the trustworthiness factor. Is this woman really looking to turn her l I feel around and become something better, is even truly capable of such a feat? In the fantasy, sure, anybody has the potential. In reality, the people that can crawl from the pit of shit into the light are few and far between.
I feel as if I'm risking my current position even entertaining this situation, and a strategic withdrawal is probably the smart move. What say you?
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