I learn in Mgtow again and again that women are seen as an enemy. It is said that this is not so, but unconsciously resonates exactly with this attitude. I could write many bad ones about women here. But my approach is different. I think a true mgtow should always be critical.
Therefore, if someone with self-criticism can not handle, just do not read on...
My thoughts on romantic love:
Many talk about women not showing love to their husbands as much as they do. Many are furious with the ingratitude of women in the collective.
I would like to share my experiences in the following. It's not that I personally would not know the feeling of being in love. A temporary release of chemicals as we know. However, I do not know the idea of romantic "love", this term has always been suspect to me. That's why I have to correct you when it says that "love" is somehow anchored in male biology or psyche.
For me it always shows, men see women as their possession. That's the root of the problem, because you can not own people. The term "love" is only a mystification of the rational, cold facts. If a man speaks of love for his wife, that is unconscious materialism for me.
Men want to extrapolate the feeling of being in love with the infinite and "conserve" the material. But we know that nothing tastes as good as the first sip. Then the dependency begins.
In fact, every man is afraid to lose his wife to others, even if there is no reason to do so. Why is that?
It is clear that "love" is not what it is sold. And you can not blame women for that. Who does not see that is completely blind. I once talked to a married workmate about it. He said I would only see zeros and ones, but there is so much more. I replied that as long as this "more" can not be proven, there are only zeros and ones. So please verify your claims, it does not apply to me. My psyche is free from romantic love.
If love really were this affair of the heart, something intangible, there would be no fear of loss. You can only steal things! The attachment to things is the real problem. So if it is concluded that men give their women a "deeper love", that is correct, but goes completely past the point. It is important to demystify the illusion of "love", to dissolve the delusion.
That's why I have no sympathy for these men whose "love" is not reciprocated. Something non-existent can not be reciprocated, explain how a woman should do that? The woman can only respond to a material affection with material.
The second big mistake men and women make is the belief in permanence. Something like that does not exist. Sticking to things first creates the problems.
You can accuse women of being the greater materialists, of being highly toxic and manipulative, of exploiting men, etc ... I agree with you. But the problem of attachment lies with the men in this point. They seek confirmation in the outside, in the form of female affection. This is the beginning of the end.
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are you sure? then explain why there is such a thing as jealousy?
You do not want another man to take your wife. it is loss of fear. but you can only lose things. Women are seen as things.
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Being in love is chemistry. For 1 month? romantic love is illusion. Forever.
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Your allegations I'm a woman is just a blame tactics. Amorousness is nothing but body chemistry. That's been proven scientifically. It relies on a release of dopamine and endorphin. Romantic love is an illusion, an idea. It's about owning something forever. do you see the difference? If you want to believe in illusions, that's your problem
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pursuing a romantic love is pathetic. Women are there for fun.
In a relationship, I want to be able to talk to someone intellectually. I do not need a child in the house. I do not need a mother in the house.
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you just proved my point. Your emotional reaction shows exactly that you are not capable of criticizing. You feel attacked.
Romantic Love: you make exactly the mistake that many mgtow men make. You get yourself into the victim role. Which does not mean that men are to blame.
Out of this victim position you are no longer able to act.
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