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Shocking...

ATTOJ19

January 2, 2020
9 upvotes
/r/MGTOW

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/einbxh/wife_has_decided_its_over/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

Husband gets layed off due to work injury and wife starts to cheat.

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Title Shocking...
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ATTOJ19

Upvotes 9
Comments 11
Date January 2, 2020 5:33 AM UTC
(6 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/eiu0db/shocking/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/shocking.379408
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Comments

[–]ZadarskiDrake10 points11 points12 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Im so happy for finding MGTOW. Ive seen what happens in relationships.. my friends getting cheated on, wasting thousands on girls, the fact most marriages end in divorce and the ones that dont hang on due to financial reasons or kids. Ive been doing the math and with the money im saving, by summer i should have enough money to put down on my dream car ( a 2015 porsche 911 turbo)

[–]civcinco2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

You want to finance a 5 year old car? Save up and get it cash. You can probably pull off a low ball offer too.

[–]ZadarskiDrake0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

its being offered for a great deal if it lasts 😂 and i cant afford the new ones, not even a lease (not that i want to lease)

[–]civcinco1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

F it. Good luck!

[–]ATTOJ19[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Good for you man chase your dreams they are yours to keep and yours only.

[–]Rottinghere1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Yet another man falls victim to an easily preventable disaster. *sigh* Hopefully, he'll be able to one day put the pieces back together and learn something from it.

All I can say in the meantime is THANK GOD FOR MGTOW!!! Now a lot of guys in the future will be spared from making the same mistakes!

[–]Kuoxsr0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I lost my job 5 years ago, and after several months of rejections from potential employers and a bout of deep suicidal depression, my wife promptly did what any good wife should do.

... she left me for two weeks to go stay with friends.

As she was leaving, like the simp that I was/probably still am, I tearfully told her "you're the only thing holding me together." She left anyway. Maybe she was hoping I would kill myself and leave her with everything.

Weeks later, after she had returned, she was constantly out of the house, either working her side-job or hanging out with friends. I hinted that I was nervous about her leaving the house so much and asked if she was seeing someone else.

Rather than tell me "I would never do that to you, honey," or "you know I'm strictly monogamous," she instead said the following:

"I don't have time for that."

[–]ATTOJ19[S] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Jesus dude that’s so cold I’m sorry. What happened after that to this day?

[–]Kuoxsr0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

After she returned from leaving me for two weeks, she spent several months browbeating me over how much her second job was hurting her. She bought a cane and walked around with a cane to show how much misery she was in.

I told her repeatedly to quit her second job, but she refused. Little did I know, she desperately needed that job in order to keep living the lifestyle she had led when I was making twice as much as her. I didn't know how we were doing financially because as many as 7 or 8 years earlier, she had gained total control of the "family" finances, and each time I attempted to get some kind of input into what was going on, she would either get angry or she would quickly show me this simple spreadsheet she had made in a sort of irritated tone of voice, that didn't even include all our expenses. She knew exactly how to react in order to cause me to just give up and let her have total control.

When I lost my job, I had just finished working for 10 years, and given my income at the time, I would have brought home half a million dollars. We purchased our house in the middle of that time, and the mortgage was $84,000. By the time I lost that job, we should have not only paid off the house, but we should have had a gigantic emergency fund that could have sustained us through the job search. Again, since I didn't have any input, I wasn't aware of the fact that not only didn't we have any emergency fund, we were also in debt. No wonder she clung to her second job so tightly. I couldn't tell you how much debt we were in at that time, because at no point did she ever show me how we were doing financially.

She tried to improve her situation at her first job by taking a course to become a guard at the prison where she worked. She hoped to move from office-help to guard and make more money. She passed the course, and they made her a guard. A month or so later, she was stripped of her position for "fraternizing with inmates." She described it like this: Some prisoner really wanted to find out what happened to his son, and to do that he needed a web address, so he passed her a note asking for the address. She figured since he was getting out in a couple of weeks, she didn't want him to ruin that and get in trouble, so she didn't report the note. Then, he passed her another one, and at that point she decided that she had to report him. The authorities took the fact that she hadn't reported the first one as "fraternizing," and railroaded her out of a job and back into the secretarial pool.

When this happened, I had no choice but to go to a temp agency and have them find me something in a factory. I've been working in a factory ever since for half of what I used to make. That was 3 years ago. Over that 3 years, my wife seemed perfectly normal. She cooked for me, cleaned, we played Minecraft together. Once in a while, we would have sex. Everything seemed just fine.

About a year before she left me, she developed an abscess on her ass. She had gone to the doctor about it, but they didn't diagnose it as an abscess at first. Months went by. Finally, someone gave her a diagnosis, and they scheduled surgery. After the surgery, she had me swab the hole with a cotton swab soaked in peroxide. Words cannot express how disgusting this was. At one point, she said (about my willingness to do that) "that's true love for ya..."

The surgery failed. She had another surgery. That failed too. 8 months later, she went to a specialist in a more populated city, who finally fixed the problem. The whole process took about a year. The whole time, she was bedridden. I waited on her hand and foot.

I found her a video game she liked for her phone, and bought her a reticulating arm for her monitor, and set up her computer so she could get her email and do various other computer-related tasks from bed. Now that the surgery had finally been done correctly, it would be a while, but soon she would be ready for sexual activity, which was convenient, because our anniversary and her birthday were coming up. Perfect opportunities to broach the subject after over a year of not being very intimate.

I never got the chance. Three days before our anniversary, she disappeared. She left a note saying that she was "staying with friends" and that I should "please be patient." Several days later, I got a change of address notice from the post office. Unbeknownst to me at the time, she had filed for divorce.

Her reason for divorcing me?

"you never ask me for sex."

"I would have had sex with you any time you wanted."

"I needed you to ask me."

If that's the case, one wonders why she would leave three days before our anniversary, which would have been the one day of the year when I would have been most likely to have asked.

Anyway, now I'm just waiting for the divorce to be final. We're up to our eyeballs in debt, and I'm probably going to lose my home.

Hooray for marriage! /s

[–]ATTOJ19[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Jesus man I’m sorry. Asking for sex sucks, I always thought women preferred touch and words to get them stimulated for sex. Asking plainly never got me sex in my past relationship.

[–]Kuoxsr0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

By "ask" she meant "initiate" - she wasn't necessarily looking for me to come out and say "would you have sex with me?" although that would have been acceptable to her as well. She just wanted me to show her that I wanted sex from her (whether by touch or hinting or whatever.) The sad fact of the matter was that I didn't have any interest of that kind.

Her naked body is a horror-show. She has an undiagnosed condition known as Partial Familial Lipodistrophy (don't search for that if you're eating.) In a nutshell, this means that she has fat where women aren't supposed to, and practically no fat at all where women should. Her legs and ass look as lean as those of a long-distance runner, while her torso and neck look like a sumo wrestler. The combination was literally the most unsexy thing I had ever seen. You can see someone who has the condition here, if you're interested, though that woman is a bit older. The first time I saw her in lingerie, I had to choke back laughter and pity.

She was able to make her clothed appearance (and face) more presentable by losing 120 pounds, but she was still 30 or 40 pounds overweight when she gave up and started eating junk again. She did this routine twice during our relationship; each time stopping short of acceptability and going back to gaining weight again. When she filed for divorce, she was at least 50 pounds overweight; nearly all of it in her gut.

I was able to force myself to have sex with her when she wanted it, just to please her, but I never really wanted it myself, and it didn't really bother me that I was with someone I didn't find sexually attractive, because I didn't marry her for her looks. I married her for her personality.

At the start of the relationship, she was the most amazing human being I had ever encountered; male or female. I truly enjoyed being around her. She seemed to be utterly devoted to me, as well. At least until I lost my job. Then it was like she took a mask off and became a totally different person. All illusions of "love" went right out the window in favor of "what have you done for me lately?"

Right before I went back to work and got the factory job, I managed to ask her outright for sex (I knew she wanted me to do this, so I gave it a shot. It took a LOT out of me to do it.) She turned me down. The one and only time I asked her for sex, she rejected me. You think I'm going to ask again? Fuck no. Add to that the fact that the last two times we ever had sex in our entire relationship were utterly terrible for me. In the first of the two, I hurt her, and in the very last time, she finished first, and I kept going. She looked bored. I felt like I was raping her. I resolved that if I ever saw that bored look again, I would either fake an orgasm or just pull out and end the encounter. As it turned out, I never had another chance. She developed that abscess, and things went on from there without any sex at all.

She's leaving me because she actually thinks she has a better chance of achieving genuine desire out of her mate if she dumps me and tries again with someone else. I don't know who to feel more sorry for: her, for not being able to tell how unsexy she is, or some potential husband down the road for being simp enough to stay with her after seeing her naked.

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