Single older men out there

DangZagnut · 2018-12-18T03:56:32+00:00

I've never felt the slightest urge for wives nor kids.

Many people I know haven't heard from their kids in years, they're getting no love there.

Children and marriage do not guarantee a Disney life for you. In the end you die alone no matter who is in the room with you.

Learn to love the guy in the mirror.

Sal_Yodada6502 · 2018-12-18T03:44:20+00:00

My son just turned 23. I last talked to him when he was 16. That was the year his mother initiated a divorce so she could "find herself". Must be code for "late access to the cock carousel". What were you talking about missing again?

marcopoloman · 2018-12-18T03:54:15+00:00

I got married (idiot)) and had a daughter. The marriage was a mistake. Daughter is great. Been single for almost 4 years. Love life now

jerry408 · 2018-12-18T03:42:31+00:00

I'm 43 next week, and have never been interested in the family/kids thing. I guess it comes from going MGTOW early on in life...I mean if people want to do that whole family thing, each to their own, but I can't say I've ever thought much about venturing down that path. :)

r1chten · 2018-12-18T05:48:22+00:00

I'm 30s ish. I do feel lonely but I remind myself that these hoes never cared for who I was until the music stops on the carousel.

Throughout my life they never ask how I was or reach out to me unless they need something from me. Now that I'm hitting my financial prime their game is so obvious. A couple of months ago a single mom stylist was cutting my hair and her questions were so obvious, she was asking me what I did for a living, am I seeing anyone, do I have kids, where do I hang out...basically sizing me up.

Earlier this year former coworker that I used to have a crush on reach out to me to catch up. I found that odd but didn't think to much off it. I found out a couple of weeks ago she broke up with her bf. My guess I was suppose to be the rebound. Best of luck to her as her 37 year old ovaries are drying up.

Another story, had dinner with friend, his wife, and wife's sister. I said good bye to all and I pecked the sister on the cheek and she reciprocated and she grabbed my ass as she pulled herself away with googly eyes. She was giving me ioi all night. The catch is she has a bf and has a kid out of wedlock. Through my friend we sort of grew up over the years the sister can easily infer I'm financially stable whereas her bf means well but not there yet.

Last story, former coworkers and I took a group pic at a Xmas party. One of the cute ones comes over near me to take the group pic. The venue is dark and as we were getting into position she grabs my junk. She has a husband. :/

Women are schemers and it's best to assume that they will cheat when the right guy comes along. Maneuver with caution.

tdh792 · 2018-12-18T04:08:11+00:00

Everybody I know is feeling empty nowadays. Married people, single, divorced...

When the baby comes out you won't feel love. It will be strange looking and unnatural...for about 4 years. Then it's whining and terrible behavior for a few more years. In the end, they become teenagers and they won't give the slightest shit about what made you happy when you were a kid. They have their friends and interests and will only come see you if they need their bike fixed or money.

It is severely overrated. It will cost you 18 years of your life and they won't even be grateful.

AnontheMaus · 2018-12-18T04:27:20+00:00

get a German Shepherd instead. If you're a good owner, that dog will love you unconditionally and make you laugh. Although your shoes may get chewed..small price to pay

theoracleofosiris · 2018-12-18T04:52:11+00:00

Rub one out

coinstash · 2018-12-18T06:09:35+00:00

I have a daughter who hasn't been in contact for over 10 years. I sometimes enjoy seeing nieces and nephews but sure am glad when they, and their noisy kids, are gone.

User-31f64a4e · 2018-12-18T06:21:36+00:00

You get over it.

Part of that is realizing that your blue-pill dream has nothing to do with reality.

A divorce can help; sort of like shock therapy, it reorients your mind.

--==--

The required amount of cash, and ostentation, to attract young hotties goes up and up the older you get.
If you are 60 and don't have Soros level resources, you can forget all those HB8's and up.
So the diminishing options also make it easier to go monk. Shriveled, has-been carousel rider, who gets more and more picky as she ages? No thanks.

-==-

You can learn to enjoy your own company. Then you can be alone, but not lonely.
Lonely is about a feeling of poverty, insufficiency, and lack of praise. With internal validation, you don't need a wife or dependents to validate you.

Toshiba1point0 · 2018-12-18T03:57:56+00:00

Love? No, not quite the right word

MaestroLogical · 2018-12-18T09:32:12+00:00

The inner desire still hasn't dimmed really.

I grew up wanting the nuclear family, my whole existence was built around meeting my wife and then us forming a life together. A lifetime of memories we could look back on fondly yada yada yada.

I failed to realize that without a 'life' I would never find a 'wife'. Then I realized that if I did find a wife, whatever 'life' I had created for myself would be null and void, as I'd then have to throw it out to create a new one with her.

I had relationship after relationship where what 'I' wanted to do was deemed foolish or pointless and what 'she' wanted to do was required and non negotiable. I learned this was called 'compromise' Which is a gaslit way of saying, your balls are in her purse.

She could spend all day gossiping about pointless banal topics but the second me and a friend started passionately discussing nerdy topics we'd get shunned and looked at like children.

I learned all this and woke up, yet the desire never dimmed. The daily thoughts that she is just around the corner. That today will be the day I meet her... they're still there occasionally. Those thoughts no longer have the same pull though. I can easily dismiss them with a mountain of experience and understanding... But the thoughts persists regardless.

At this point I'm not sure they will ever go away completely, but I've come to terms with it. I now see those thoughts as helpful reminders. I have the thought and the immediate answer that pops up is AWALT.

I have hope that I'll eventually stop thinking about 'her'. That imaginary woman I was always meant to find. Thing is, that dream is a foundational concept in most of us. From early early on we start building our dreams on top of that core desire. So getting rid of that foundatinal dream might not be possible. Even when you understand it was never actually possible to begin with. It was a disney fantasy fed to us by parents and a society that didn't realize the times were drastically changing.

I'm 38 and done. Hopefully the thoughts will be soon as well.

Gibits · 2018-12-18T09:21:59+00:00

Honestly I love being a dad. I think I’d go insane if I didn’t have them around. I’m too busy being a care giver and disciplinarian to feel lonely when they are around. My son worships me and is completely immune to his mother’s attempts to alienate me from him. I really got great kids. Added bonus is that they completely kill my sex drive. They remind me that I have already achieved what sex was for.

If only I could have them but not that wench that gave birth to them....

marcopoloman · 2018-12-18T11:29:45+00:00

Yeah. I moved to China and love it here.

Vegebanana · 2018-12-18T15:41:36+00:00

The risk it not worth the risk. There is no reward. In the military, I meet and sometimes lost some of the finest men who got fucked by the system. Seeing that kinda shit go on makes you consider what kinda love is in store for you.

Title	Single older men out there
Author	jerry408
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	December 18, 2018 3:39 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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