Hey guys,

I just wanted to say Thank you to all the bros in this sub for helping me transition to a man that goes his own way. I want to give back to the community by sharing my story, I hope it helps another fellow MGTOW go their own way.

Frustration phase:

A little back story: Circa 2016, New Years eve, I was at home crying all by myself because I was so frustrated that I was single and alone. At this time, all my friends kept on calling me a loser for not having a girlfriend, for not having sex every week. I became frustrated at my inability to talk to girls, whenever I would try, I would see them as some being that's better than me and that I wasn't good enough to be in their presence.

I tried all the PUA bullshit -- I even spent 10K on Art of Charm bootcamp where you spend a whole week with other PUA folks and go to bars every night to try and pick up girls. I would religously follow r/TheRedPill and try to pickup girls based on the advice on that sub. I distinctly remember going to the Bungalow in Los Angeles, finding a group of three girls, and trying to talk to the hottest girl. It back fired and she embarrassed the shit out of me infront of all her friends, and I walked out of the bar pissed off.

Discovery phase:

After all this rejection, I really started to evaluate my life. What's wrong with me? What kind of a man am I? Where do I want to go in the future?

I stumbled onto Stoicism and read alot of material by Marcus Aurelius; the key he states is that happiness comes from within; not from other people, from other things. You have to content with who you are as a person, and if you're not, start improving and becoming the man you want to be.

I started to reevaluate why I actually wanted a girlfriend? It boiled down to sex. I wast just a horny simp. So, instead of wasting hours at the bar to get a whiff of pussy, I started going down the escort route. I learned alot about women from escorts and after getting my fill of sex, decided I wanted more out of life.

Transformation phase:

Soon after, I discovered this sub and it really drove home the point that pussy is overvalued; that the hidden costs of women far outweigh the sex that you can get.

Now that I wasn't distracted by chasing women, I started doing things that make me happy, instead of trying to please others. I started running more, started dancing, started playing the Piano. Now, I'm able to actually enjoy the life.

The funny thing is, when I go to clubs to dance, girls come up to me to dance. Each time, a girl that comes up to me, I just start laughing. It's so funny how women rejected me when I wanted them and now that I have no interest in them that they want me. Too little too late, train left the station. I'm going to enjoy the rest of my life without a wife nagging at me, without worrying about keeping a women happy, without doubting in myself.

I never had a good father teach me about life so I have to learn all these things about life on my own. I thank each member of this sub for helping me transform myself. I still have a long way to go, but my path is clear now.