What does it mean to Go Your Own Way?

It means you’ve acknowledged that you can be free from the pressures and bindings of a relationship. Dating/Marriage can be seen as a contract between a male and a female and involves a high level of commitment and dedication; physically, mentally, and monetarily. Recognizing this, and GYOW, allows you to be free from this contract. You have the ability to be an individual. You don’t self-improve anymore because of the women, or anyone else for that matter, you do it cause you can; and it makes you feel good. You have the chance to live a fulfilling lifestyle without the constant pressure of relationships.

At first, you must accept the cold, hard reality of the world when going your own way. This has been commonly referred to as the “Rage” stage (or “Red Pill Rage”, but the term “Red Pill” has been abused so much I don’t feel like using it). You are angry, and you begin to lash out. r/MGTOW, has been comprised of these types of posts. A great analogy for this is the hospital post from a year ago.

What I fear may be happening, however, is that some people are spending too much time in the Rage Phase.

From my time lurking on this sub, I have seen a sizable population of this sub fall into the trap of, what I will call, the Extended Rage Phase. It is time for you to go and do, and live your new lifestyle of freedom. However, it seems easier to sit back and complain. You’ve immersed yourself in your own reality of darkness. You don’t let the rage inspire you, but you instead let it send you down into obsession. It seems easier to just get stuck in a endless cycle of rage then it is to go and live.

This is flat out dangerous.

There’s a difference between recognizing the female hypocrisy and becoming obsessed with it. During this extended rage phase, you start to put your obsession before your lifestyle. You spend more and more time reenforcing your beliefs online when you could be learning or working towards a better you.

To be truly independent from the woman, one must forget the woman.

If you are constantly thinking about women and making it a goal to point out every instance of hypocrisy and misandry ever, then it is just as bad as devoting your live to relationships and marriage.

This is a wake up call to everyone here. While it may be necessary to go through this phase, please keep in mind that there is a time when you have to just move on and make peace with the world around you. The mods have been trying to encourage this lately by pinning posts from men who are living a MGTOW lifestyle, but just shoving positivity in front of people’s faces is not going to solve the problem of the large extended rage population we currently have. We need, as men, to start educating and aiding our brethren on this sub. When people who are lost and looking for meaning come, teach. When radical feminists do something or say something outlandish on the internet, ignore it. How does a 30yo misandrist thousands of miles away alone behind a computer screen posting rants to Tumblr affect you personally? Instead of posting the screenshoted Facebook meme about women here, how about we create threads helping our fellow men stay out of relationship traps. Share your own experiences and issues. We here at the MGTOW hospital want to help treat you.

Sorry if the writing quality isn’t that great putting ideas into words has never been my strong suit.